Snowbirds

Although the migration north began several weeks ago, today is the official end of the snowbird season. Thanks to the efforts of Big Tom, Bill K. and others, snowbirds are warmly welcomed at First UMC each winter. Our snowbirds come from a variety of places with varied stories and make a wonderful addition to our congregation. They faithfully worship with us on Sunday and Monday, play golf on Tuesday and enjoy Thursday’s program and lunch with our Snowbird and Seagull ministry, eat and study with us Wednesday night, knit prayer shawls and can be counted on to support our special worship services and programs. They give of their time and talents while here. All of this helps strengthen who we are and we sense a loss in their leaving.

It is always sad to say goodbye for some snowbirds are aware that they probably won’t be able to be with us next year. Many tell us that they find an ingredient here that they miss in their home church. As the face of Myrtle Beach changes and we loose the motels that have welcomed our friends, I hope that the snowbirds will still join us in future winters.

The Da Vinci Code Intrigue

Although I have never read the Da Vinci Code, the current conversation that surrounds it intrigues me. Two different persons have asked me if we are going to teach it. While I don't plan to "teach" it, I do believe that there is value in exploring the questions that are being asked. However, debate and a defensive posture are of little value in this offering. I think it is a good opportunity for us to have conversation about early Church history and the divinity of Jesus. Questions surrounding The Da Vinci Code could offer clues to the Jesus for which people are searching. I am pondering how we can best use this book/movie as an appropriate teachable moment.

Go Forth...

According to Bishop Michael Coyner, 43 percent of United Methodist churches in America did not receive a member by profession of faith in 2004. He said that existing congregations need to be transformed in a variety of ways, but at the heart of the transformation is "simply to have a passion that we are all about making disciples for Jesus Christ."

When the UM Board of Discipleship heard this at their March meeting, they were not surprised. Nor should this be news to us. Many of us are part of churches that spend more energy taking care of who we are than reaching out to those beyond our steeple who need to know Jesus in their lives. According to census data, 30-40% of the persons in the main part of Myrtle Beach do not name themselves as part of a religious faith. Yet, we struggle at First UMC to receive a couple of new members each month and most of these are churched folks from other places. This is more than a numbers game, we must renew our commitment to making disciples who are willing to go forth and claim others in the name of Jesus the Christ.

Grandparenting

What a busy and wonderful week I have had. First, I made a quick trip to Columbia to meet my new grandson, Ethan, and cuddle with his brother, William. Then, Annaka and Jack came to visit while their dad was at a conference at the beach. Their mother was in New Orleans with a mission team from Clemson Wesley Foundation. And, as another sign of the times, Ron was the grandparent-in-charge. However, we both enjoyed having individual time with Jack and Annaka and I trust they enjoyed getting to know their grandparents a little bit better. My memories of grandparents are special and I wish the same for our grandchildren. As I read and read to Annaka I felt the presence of Grandma Eva.

Precious Picture

Daniel, William and Ethan. Will be interesting to see what William thinks of his little brother in a few weeks. His parents have done all the right things to prepare him, but I predict that there will be those sibling moments. I can't wait to rock Ethan and read William more stories. Some days Columbia is just too far away.

Family News

Ethan Cyr Osborne was born this afternoon in Columbia. I arrived just in time to hold him before he was taken to the nursery for the weigh in and clean up. Our fourth grandchild weighed 8 lbs and 11 oz. and appears to be quite healthy. Tonight Ron and I get to take care of big brother, William, all by ourselves. Mama did leave us detailed instructions about what we are to do. Ron will be on grandpa duty for the next few days while this grandma works. Times have changed.

Yesterday, I learned that my brother-in-law's first set of chemo treatments have been quite effective. They will continue, but have been adjusted to allow John and Mary to visit us the last week of March. I pray that we will have some warm, sunny days while they are here. They need them.

What a blessed week!

Change

As previously noted, one of my favorite blogs is Perspectives by Larry Hollon, Chief Executive of United Methodist Communications. Several of his recent posts have cited change as it relates to communication - Changes in Media, Changing Relationships, Changing with the Times and Change or Perish. Hollon asks the important question, "How does an organization or a corporation formed under older values and management structure adapt to the new realities?" This is not only the challenge of the United Methodist Church in general, but also to the local church as well. I think I will continue to ponder his reflections.

Temple Emanu-el

Last evening our confirmands and mentors worshiped at Temple Emanu-el. Rabbi Avi Perets welcomed us warmly and spent time with us after the service answering questions. As usual, our youth found much about this service to be fascinating, but hard to comprehend. We reminded them that this is probably how the non-churched feel when they visit our church. The language and the meaning of what we do have to be explained for participants to truly worship.

Each year I include this synagogue experience in the confirmation preparation. It is important for us to understand our Jewish roots. Also, interfaith awareness and dialogue invite us to establish an environment for bridge building. May this generation be open to new possibilities of peace by working together more closely with the other religions.

Mary's Birthday

Today is Mary’s (my sister) birthday. I think of her a lot these days. This past fall her husband, John, was diagnosed with colon cancer. He is one of those persons who should have had a colonoscopy before he did. Now he is undergoing treatment for cancer that has spread to the liver and lymph nodes. John's body is broken; Mary's heart is wounded. This was not in their plan for this time in their lives. Fortunately, they are surrounded by family and a wonderful church family. Their faith is strong, but being tested. Fear and frustration, tears and tension, anger and anxiety intrude into their days. However, John's determination to do all the right things - physically, mentally, and spiritually - has given us, his cheerleading team, courage to face the days ahead. So family events, like birthdays, become very important. They become the milestones on the journey. Tonight, as Mary enjoys a nice dinner at a favorite restaurant, my prayer is that they can live in the moment with laughter and love. Happy Birthday, Mary, and I love you, John.

Companions in Ministry

Today, Scarlett and I were in Lexington to be a part of the Gathering of the Fellowship of Clergy. The orders of elders, deacons, and local pastors convene several times of year to explore topics that impact our ministry and to be in fellowship with one another. As always I enjoyed being with some folks that have been very important to me through the years and meeting others who now will be part of my continuing journey. Our focus today was clergy companionship and friendship. Many of us know the feeling of isolation in our ministry. While we have important relationships with other clergy and laity, we miss those special friendships that support and affirm us as individuals. As we discussed, the intineant system discourages the opportunity to develop these friendships. It was good to recognize this as an important issue among clergy and their families and to sense that we need to make this a priority for healthy living.

Coincidentally, Lexington is the place of many long time friends. We moved to Lexington in 1982 and joined Lexington UMC soon thereafter. Many friendships were formed in that congregation that we continue to enjoy. Fred Reese was one of the ministers during this time. He and others encouraged me to answer the call to ministry. Yes, friendships are important to our well-being.

Jim Williams - Part 2

I continue to think about several of the comments made by Jim Williams, our guest parenting specialist including the following:

By the age of 14 - 80-90% of a child's value system is complete.

Kids need 3-4 positive adult role models plus parents.

A child receives on average 15 minutes a day individual attention by parent. Only 3 minutes of that could be named as positive.

A child is influenced 5-7 hours a day from entertainment-television, video games, Ipod, internet, etc.

By the age of 13 - 75% of kids no longer play organized sports.

Children need to learn from mistakes. This doesn't happen when their parents follow the drill sergeant or helicopter (hovering) models of parenting.

All families need to name their core values and continually point to them in all that they do.

Jim Williams

Through the vision of Jeanne Voltz Loomis and Cindy Cooper and the generosity of a church member, First UMC was able to provide an outstanding speaker, Jim Williams, to the community during the last few days. On Friday, Jim spoke to nearly 1400 tweens about choices, drugs, bullying and other issues that are so important to them. Much of the effectiveness of this came through his ability to share stories from his own experiences including the powerful story of his son’s death.

On Saturday, fifty parents and other adults attended a seminar at the church based on Jim’s book, Parenting on Point. He has processed and distilled some of the best parenting and tween information available and created a simple methodology for effective parenting. The response of those attending was very positive and I am so pleased that we were able to provide this important program. However, there is a sadness in my being that more parents did not make this a priority and choose to attend. Our children are living in a world that bombards them with many messages. We have to help them interpret their meaning and most of us need help doing this. Jim would like to return to Myrtle Beach. How can we convince our parents that they are being given a second chance?

Ash Wednesday

I need Lent. I need once again to journey into the desert to see if my life reflects the life of Jesus. My intellectual understandings of faith need more direction by the heart, a heart that needs to reveal its fear, anger, hurt and doubt to God. I need to know God's grace as I bow at the cross. So, I enter into Lent with expectations, but also knowing that I must wrestle with my sinful humanity if I am truly to know the risen Christ.

The Parent Disconnect

I am well aware of the disconnection that now exists between parent and child because of the lack of time spent together. Meaningful conversation just does not happen. Parents expect others to teach their kids everything, including morals and faith. However, in one of the largest research projects ever commissioned to study the root causes of teenagers’ high-risk behaviors, physicians at the Mayo Clinic conclude, “ The most effective way to protect young people from unhealthy or dangerous behaviors is for parents to be involved in their lives.” Knowing this, it has become my responsibility as a Christian educator to encourage and equip parents to have a faith-nurturing presence in their children’s lives. What an uphill battle I am having to wage!

During the past few weeks,it has been a struggle to get parents to be part of a parent/youth mission trip. Our efforts to have a good attendance of parents to hear Jim Williams speak about knowing their tween is reaping minimal response. I asked for parents of this same age group if they were interested in being part of a parent/child human sexuality class. Two responded. Parental support of confirmands is another matter. How can we help strengthen the parent-child relationship? Lord, give me patience, insight and wisdom.

Transfiguration Sunday

Today we observe the Transfiguration of Our Lord, the last Sunday After the Epiphany before the beginning of Lent. (Matt 17:1-8, Mark 9:2-9, Luke 9:28-36). Why? This statement from Daniel Benedict of the General Board of Discipleship gives important insight:

"We celebrate the revelation of Christ's glory "before the passion" so that we may "be strengthened to bear our cross and be changed into his likeness." The focus of the Lenten season is renewed discipline in walking in the way of the cross and rediscovery of the baptismal renunciation of evil and sin and our daily adherence to Christ. At Easter, which reveals the fullness of Christ’s glory (foreshadowed in the Transfiguration), Christians give themselves anew to the gospel at the Easter Vigil where they share the dying and rising of Christ.

In the biblical context, the synoptic gospels narrate the Transfiguration as a bridge between Jesus' public ministry and his passion. From the time of the Transfiguration, Jesus sets his face to go to Jerusalem and the cross."

I think the glory of God is all around us and available to us. However, sometimes we just don't look for it, or maybe we've honestly forgotten how to look, or maybe we expect to see it directly as Peter, James, and John did so long ago. I pray that I will always live in the hope of glory and find previews of it when I need it most and/or least expect it.

Night

Recently, I read the new translation of Night by Elie Wiesel. Although I have heard Wiesel speak of his experiences in the Nazi concentration camps, I had never read this small book. I certainly could have read this book in an evening, but I would have known only the words. Instead, I choose to read it slowly over several days. His use of language and the events described were too rich and powerful not to linger over them. Also, I could only stand to read about the atrocities a little at a time. While part of me wanted to wipe out of my mind what was being said, the rest of me wanted never to forget.

I certainly am experiencing a confluence of events and I am not sure what it means. I recently watched the Bonhoeffer PBS presentation and was overwhelmed how he was welling to give his soul for so many as part of a plot to kill Hitler. Then there are the reoccurring news stories of those who don’t believe the Holocaust ever happened. Also, the current stories of genocide and human abuse from Darfur continue to haunt me. Especially, since they almost go unnoticed by the major news services. With all this in mind, I remember reading what Weisel asked his father in as their horrible fate was being revealed: “Can this be true? This is the twentieth century, not the Middle Ages. Who would allow such crimes to be committed? How could the world remain silent?”

In 1989, Elie Wiesel concludes his acceptance speech for the Nobel Peace Prize by saying, “Our lives no longer belong to us alone, they belong to all those who need us desperately.”

Now in 2006, the stories of human injustices near and far continue. When will Jesus the Christ call us to action? “Whatever you have done for these you’ve truly done for me.” Maybe, he is calling and we are not listening.

Home Again!

As always I enjoyed being with my colleagues at White Oak as we met those seeking to be commissioned as probationary members in our conference. Different committees address the candidates understanding of theology, Bible, proclamation and call to disciplined life. I serve on this last committee. One of the issues that we have had to address in recent years has been obesity. Studies reveal that clergy need to be more vigilant about health care to be effective ministers and that usually begins with controlled weight. Church potluck dinners and member's gifts of food seem to lead to a habit of overeating. Since our schedules vary, it is hard to maintain the discipline of exercise. Our committee is now delaying commissioning or ordination of candidates until they can exhibit some acceptance of this needed discipline in their lives. We are very fortunate to have a physician that serves on our board. He patiently explains to candidates the necessity of making some important changes in eating and exercise habits. Most accept this and begin to make some important lifestyle changes. It is our prayer that these new habits continue.

P.S. Speaking of health, mine has been less than perfect these past few days. After bragging about not falling victim to the various ailments circulating among us, I fell victim to a cold/flu like ailment while at White Oak. My own bed felt wonderful last night. I am recovering and planning to be healthy by Sunday.

Out of Town

Another journey to White Oak to interview candidates for ministry. It is a privilege to be part of this process, but also a heavy responsibility. Persons have spent years and mega bucks to get to this place, yet ordained ministry may not be their call. Others just need a little more direction and guidance to complete this process. And, what a joy when we encounter someone who seems to be truly ready for ordination. Prayer becomes an important part of our gathering as together we seek to make the right decisions. God be with us.

Olympics

I am enjoying watching some of the Winter Olympics, but have been confused. Are they being held in Torino per NBC or Turin per NPR? Finally, I went to the ultimate authority in such matters-Google-and discovered that the Italians call it Torino and the Anglicized version is Turin. I learn something new everyday.

What is the attraction of the Olympics? Maybe, it is just the middle of winter and there is nothing better to watch on TV. The human interest stories told as part of the NBC’s presentation are often interesting. The physical prowess exhibited in many of the events is impressive and exciting. The evidence of fortitude and dedication of the athletes make these games inspiring. However, it is disheartening to know that super egos and drugs are also part of the Olympics. There are lessons of all kinds to be learned from this display of humanity.

Traveling Mercies

Saturday brings its own set of tasks to be done, but it also gives me a chance to write about the last few days. Early Thursday morning I began a four and a half hour trip to Spartanburg for the trustee meeting at Spartanburg Methodist College. The beautiful, sunny day certainly served as a reminder of God's creative goodness. It also reminded me of my responsibility to be a good steward of this. It is almost overwhelming when one thinks of all the issues in this realm. However, each of us is guilty of conspicuious consumption of natural resources. Conservation and recycling matters must be addressed by all. How should we do this in the life of the church?

The Board of Trustees had a good meeting. Construction of a new dorm has begun, pre-enrollment figures for fall look good, the one million dollar challenge grant has been met, and new degree explorations continue. One concern is maintaining a Board of Trustees that will meet the needs of SMC as current trustees rotate off the board. One challenge has been that The Discipline requires that 60% of the trustees of our church related institutions be United Methodists. It is also interesting to note that only 14% of the revenue comes from the United Methodist Church. As I become more fully aware of the role that this school makes in the lives of its students, I am honored to be able to serve as a trustee.

I stayed in Columbia Thursday evening with my grandson, William. It is hard to believe that he is nearly three years old. We enjoyed playing with blocks and reading books. I was most impressed with his mastery of so many nursery rhymes. His world is about to change as a baby brother in due the end of March. His loving nature will certainly make him a good big brother.

On Friday I met with my clergy covenant group in Florence. We focus our gatherings on issues that are the emerging and facing the church of the 21st century. This time we tried to broaden our understanding of Islam, especially the similarities and differences with Christianity. Our discussion revealed that we are woefully ignorant of how Islam is making a large impact on the world in a variety of ways. As always, this is good time spent with my collegues. We share and explore thoughts and concerns about our ministry in an open and honest manner. This is important to our continued understanding of our ministry.

As I traveled to the beach on Friday afternoon (with a large number of other folks) I realized that I was truly headed for home. There certainly was a sense of mercy and grace present as I turned into my driveway. God is good.

Valentine's Day

Instead of a Hallmark greeting, wouldn’t our proclamations of love be more authentic if we were directed by the classic words of Elizabeth Barrett Browning, “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.”? That sounds romantic until I think about the reality of doing this and my sense of humor prevails when I remember some of our days past. So, my marriage is probably on safer ground if I don’t go in that direction and just say, “I love you, Ron.”

Camps and Retreat Ministries

On Thursday, I traveled to Columbia to attend a meeting convened by the Board of Camps and Retreat Ministries of the SC Conference to share future plans for our facilities, Sewee Coastal Retreat Center and Asbury Hills Camp and Retreat Center. In recent years, these sites have been upgraded and their programs enhanced. Also, our annual conference has established a board of trust that gives direction to this ministry. The board now feels it is time to move forward with the long held vision of many that these sites be made appropriate for use throughout the year. This first stage comes with a 3 million dollar price tag and thus the real focus of our gathering. I wish that I could write that check, but I can offer support for the cause through personal reflection.

My relationship with and appreciation of Asbury Hills began in 1981 when our older son attended camp for the first time. As he connects the dots in his journey, he knows this was a key event. Not only did he return for camp, but later as a counselor. His love of the hills and streams of the Upstate was firmly established and continuing friendships made. The richness of this experience certainly gave understanding to his growing faith. His younger brother enjoyed camping at Asbury Hills, also. Through confirmation and youth retreats I know what a great place this can be, especially for those who have never known the exhilaration of creek hiking in early spring and climbing rugged terrain. These challenges seem to open young hearts and minds to new possibilities for believing and knowing their God.

It is not only the setting, but also the style of camping that makes Asbury Hills special. While many camps now operate like a school by having a variety of activities from which the camper creates his/her own schedule, Asbury Hill’s philosophy is still that of the small group. Building community, living in relationship with one another, cooperating in daily tasks are much needed skills in our fragmented and isolated society. In this setting, meaningful friendships are made that continue into the year ahead and the young adult leaders still serve as important role models for the campers.

Sewee offers a wonderful retreat setting for families and small groups. It is the hope that this site can be enhanced so that larger groups can use it and that a wetlands boardwalk and observation deck system can be built.

Many very dedicated United Methodists have worked long and hard to create and preserve our camp and retreat ministry. Today, we have a visionary board that is asking us to support this ministry into the future. I am impressed by their commitment to this and the business plan they have developed and will be a voice of support. SC Methodism needs this ministry.

Cartoons and Other Headlines

The cartoon issue in the Muslim world has left me concerned and confused. I have read and heard all sorts of thoughts about this matter and still can't fully comprehend the scope of this situation. However, I think this article from the Christian Science Monitor is helpful.

Through the life and death of Betty Friedan we face an issue that many would still like to ignore, equal rights for woman. I remember reading The Feminine Mystique while in college and thinking that things must change. And, change they did in the subsequent years. Although the struggles have not always been embraced by our society, we now know that women have more rights and privileges than ever before in this country. In most situations, we can now claim and define who we are. For me, I have felt that I have been able to fulfill what my great-grandmother and grandmother started as suffragettes. However, I am sure that they never really thought that their granddaughter would be ordained as a clergyperson.

Bono won a whole bunch of Grammys this week for his music. That's nice. However, I was more interested in his speech at the National Prayer Breakfast. Although his theology could be argued, his heart cannot be disputed. It is certainly refreshing to have a celebrity use his name and fame for a good cause. AIDS and Africa cannot be ignored.

A Good Listener

While rummaging through my desk I found some notes taken at a long forgotten conference. However, these thoughts are timeless. Not only do I wish that I would adhere to them, but also think that they could be helpful to others. So as a reminder to all, I offer the following:

You can be a good listener if you...
-limit your own talking.
-think like the other person.
-ask questions.
-don't interrupt unless it is necessary.
-concentrate on what's being said.
-take notes.
-listen for ideas...not just words.
-add an occasional "Yes, I see."
-turn off your own worries.
-prepare in advance.
-react to ideas...not the person.
-don't jump to conclusions.
-listen for tone of voice, both yours and theirs.


P.S. - In thinking about these notes, it seems that I could apply them to my prayer life, also.

Each New Day

Recently, I read these words from Martin Luther's Small Catechism: "In the morning, as soon as you get out of bed, you are to make the sign of the holy cross and say: 'God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit watch over me. Amen.' " Further directions follow: say the Apostles Creed, pray the Lord's Prayer. ...Then "you are to go to your work joyfully." Through these words and action Luther recognized and affirmed his baptism daily. What if we did this daily? Certainly the weight of yesterday's wrongs and the burdens of tomorrow's worries would turn into a gift of grace and peace for today. Just a thought.

Happy Anniversary

“Love is patient; love is kind…” Thirty-nine years ago Ron and I were married in my home church in Ohio. Surrounded by family and friends we confidently promised to love one another through all our years. Little did we know how those vows could be tested by life’s circumstances. However, we have shared each other’s joys, wept each other’s tears and persevered when we were not of one mind. So we celebrate today assured that we will love each other’s aches, pains, gray hair and idiosyncrasies into our tomorrows. Today, we will also know a reward of this faithfulness…our grandchildren. A quick trip to Columbia will allow us to enjoy a few minutes of grandparenting together.

“And now faith, hope, and love abide; these three; and the greatest of these is love.”
I Corinthians 13:13.

Bonhoeffer

Just noticed that on Monday, February 6 at 10 pm, PBS will air a program about Dietrich Bonhoeffer. The life and writings of this German theologian captivate me. His book, The Cost of Discipleship, has given Christianity important understanding of grace as revealed in his thoughts about cheap and costly grace. His life as a martyr in Germany during World War II is inspirational. Recently, one of our Sunday morning short studies was The Cost of Discipleship. I am so pleased that these folks were willing to undertake what most people find to be an arduous task. Their Christian education has been enhanced by doing so.

UMW Reading Program

I enjoy participating in the UMW Reading Program as it introduces me to a variety of writings about issues that relate to Christian living. These books often provide new thoughts and insights, some with which I agree and some of which I don’t. However, I always feel that I have expanded my horizons by reading them.

I have just finished The Haunt of Grace by Ted Loder. Although this is a collection of sermons, Loder names them "responses to the haunt of grace, the mystery of God's presence in our world and our lives." He interprets Scripture in an imaginative and challenging way. Each response is based on "real life" situations that run head-on into God. In addition to his well phrased words, he weaves into his writing wonderful quotes from a rich variety of sources. I have enjoyed reading his responses one at a time and allowing a period for reflection before reading this next one. The response, "New Rules of Engagement", reminded me of how often we "are reluctant to engage Jesus. We seem to prefer a more abstract, removed God." We are afraid to trust Jesus to save us from our sins and lead us into a new way of life. It is through God's grace we turn toward the light.

Friends

"Faithful friends are a sturdy shelter; whoever finds one has found a treasure." Sirach 6:14

As part of our Upstate visit this weekend to celebrate Annaka (3) and Jack's (1) birthday, we included reconnecting with important friends out of our past. Ron met Bill forty years ago when Ron began work at NCR in Dayton, Ohio. This made Lois and me part of the NCR family and over the years we shared life's experiences through several moves. Lois was like a mother, or at least an aunt, during my young mother days and her words of wisdom were always welcome. Bill was very encouraging to Ron during his NCR career and we needed to check on him for he is now alone. What a wonderful time we had remembering days gone by.

We also visited with Gene and Shirley, former neighbors in Lexington, who now live in Greenville. Their children and ours are of similar ages and enjoyed many hours playing together, especially Dan and Michael. I am sure these avid Clemson fans influenced Robert's choice of schools. I have always admired their commitment to family including quite a wide circle of extended family. What fun to talk about weddings, grandchildren, and Clemson.

Time spent with family and friends is truly a reminder of what is really important in our lives.

"Faithful friends are beyond price; no amount can balance their worth."
Sirach 6:15

Snowbirds and Seagulls

Our Snowbird and Seagull ministry is in full swing. Yesterday, the Festive Brass provided a wonderful concert for a full sanctuary. Over one hundred played golf on Tuesday. Day trips are also an important part of this experience for many. Some even visit the Mousepad. For us it is a continuing delight to meet folks from a wide variety of places and to learn their stories. Ron and I talked with a couple that are about ready to leave for this year, but told us that next year they are coming for three months just because of our church. After several years of boring stays, this year they discovered the sense of community that they had been missing. They not only have enjoyed our Snowbird program, but also our worship services on Sunday and Monday. They feel connected to life in Myrtle Beach. What a good word about this ministry! Thanks, Big Tom and friends for making this happen.

A Snow Day

I need a snow day. I mean the kind of day that I hold in the good memories department. An image of white fluffy snow falling, the fireplace glowing, soup simmering and something baking has been coming to mind lately…even when it has been 70 degrees. Why? It is a day of rest and relaxation without guilt. Read a book, do a crossword puzzle and take a nap are important elements of honoring this day. Family members become reconnected through board games and story time. When one lives in Myrtle Beach these days are infrequent. However, when it does snow one can almost be assured that it will melt by the next day. For most of us, one day is enough. I wonder can I just declare a snow day?

E-Christian Ed

This has been a busy week. A week filled with the unexpected and one that has reminded me that God is in charge, not me. However, today was the reminder of why I do what I do. I had my face to face meeting of the Basic II: Foundations for Christian Education class that is part of the Columbia College e-college. As the teaching assistant for this class, I grade the work and offer guidance on-line to the students. It is a unique opportunity to pass the torch to others who will shape Christian education in the future. In doing so I am reminded of the importance of the foundation that Christian education provides for congregations and Christian living. It was exciting to talk with the students about this and I look forward to working with them in the weeks ahead. I truly feel that I am called to be in a ministry that helps others learn the story of God's love and this is one way that I can fulfill that call.

Leadership

As I prepared to give the devotion for the Marion District Job Function Workshop this past Sunday, I let my thoughts percolate for several weeks about what it means to be a leader within the church. As a deacon, I always identify this as servant leadership as known through Luke 22:26-27:

26But not so with you; rather the greatest among you must become like the youngest, and the leader like one who serves. 27For who is greater, the one who is at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one at the table? But I am among you as one who serves.

To be a leader in the community of God demands that we are motivated by love and service, not power. Servant leaders share information and ideas freely and empower others to succeed and receive credit. Servant leaders are able and willing to play any role that is needed. Servant leaders understand that there are many right ways to do right things. They keep their attention on the larger vision, and resist the urge to control every little detail. According to Max De Pree, "Leaders in a special way, are liable for what happens in the future, rather than what is happening day to day."

MLK Birthday

I am pleased to see that Bishop Woodie White has continued his tradition of writing a letter to Martin Luther King, Jr. in observance of Dr. King's birthday. Not only is it a reflection on King's life, but on the current status of race relations during the past year. This year's letter focuses on Rosa Parks and provides interesting reading.

My memories of the events that surrounded King's life were formed in a different place and way than most of my South Carolina friends. I viewed the civil rights movement through another lens. One of my faith heroes, the late Rev. McKay Brabham whose writings and actions in the 1960s caused quite a stir within S.C. Methodism, has since helped me understand better some of the dynamics present during this time. In his later years I had the opportunity to visit with him on a number of occasions and hear about the pain and agony of those days. The joy of this experience was realizing that I was in the company of a man that knew what it meant, and was not afraid, to be faithful to God. Racial matters continue. May strong voices like Martin Luther King, Jr. and A. McKay Brabham still speak to our minds and hearts.

The Parent's Journal

We awake each morning to the voices of NPR. On Saturday this means Bobbi Connor of The Parent’s Journal. Each week she interviews a parenting expert on a variety of topics. This morning the topics included: preschooler play, teen communication and a baby’s memory. This and most information shared is practical and well-documented. As a grandmother and a children’s advocate, I wish that more parents had the benefit of this program. But, 6 am on Saturday is a little early for tired moms and dads. However, I have discovered that much of the information and past interviews can be found on their website. This site also includes parenting tips, books and links. This program is a great resource and I encourage others to discover it.

One of my best resources on parenting is having a birthday today. His gentle wisdom has been important to our family for 86 years. How wonderful to discuss family matters with my dad today!

Prayer for 2006

Saw this prayer from the National Council of Churches and found it to offer important reflection. Periodically, I think that it would be a blessed encounter with God to create personal responses like this to the Lord's Prayer.

Coastal Samaritan Counseling Center

This evening we attended a retirement dinner for Bill Felder, Executive Director of the Coastal Samaritan Counseling Center. What a nice celebration of the important contribution Bill has made to the mental health of this community. Through his tireless efforts the counseling center has been able to provide care to anyone regardless of income. Bill's quiet, gentle demeanor allowed his clients to share their concerns feeling they were in the presence of a compassionate person. He truly has been fulfilling a call to ministry in this special way. The good news is that Bill will continue part-time as a counselor and fundraiser.

I am aware that we haven't always reminded our congregation of the Coastal Samaritan Counseling Center as I frequently find members that aren't aware of the center being housed in the Asbury Building and the availability of the services offered. It has been very important to me that I have had this resource when I encounter persons who have needed more counseling than I am qualified to provide. I am so pleased that my long time friend, Kathy Heustess, has been named the new executive director. Her special gifts will bring new dimensions to this important ministry. It is exciting to think about the future of the First UMC- Coastal Samaritan Counseling Center partnership.

Walking the Bible

Beginning last Wednesday, PBS is airing the three part series - Walking the Bible. As air time was prior to my arrival home and during the Rose Bowl game, I finally watched this (taped for me by my wonderful husband) today. I saw and heard Bruce Feiler, author of Walking the Bible, as he traveled through the lands of the Bible seeking the sites of the Bible's great stories. Beginning with Genesis, Feiler travels in the region of Mesopotamia finding that Bible roots itself in real time and place. Obviously, this becomes a spiritual journey for him as he documents this expedition with Jewish, Muslim, and Christian understanding and deeply connects with the land. He notes that the stories take on both a universal and personal meaning. For those of us who will probably never have the opportunity to take this journey, the photography reveals much to us. Parts two and three will air on January 11 and 18. Although the narration is a little stilted at times, I certainly will encourage others to watch this remarkable presentation.

Epiphany

Today is the Epiphany of the Lord. Eastern churches continue to empahzise Epiphany while Western churches emphasize Advent. For Western churches Christmas Day begins the twelve days of celebration of Christmas, and Epiphany is the twelfth day of that celebration marked by the visit of the wise men to the Christ Child.

"This [Epiphany] is a celebration of Christ being made known to the Gentiles. The story of the wise men, who came to worship the Christ child, is also part of the season. Jesus is the gift of salvation for all nations. Sharing the good news of Jesus with all people is an important focus during Epiphany. A central theme during Epiphany is God’s light overcoming the darkness of sin and evil. Symbols of light, stars, (star of Bethlehem), crowns, and gifts (wise men) are used during this time of the church year. The season is flexible in length due to the changing date of Easter each calender year."

Sacred Seasons by Brett Webb-Mitchell and Diane Archer

This celebration of the revelation of God’s light and power Christ (John 1:1-2:11) provides us with a theological understanding of Jesus and an opportunity to begin too understand what is fully revealed to us through the rest of the Christian Year. Perhaps we miss something significant by not observing this day in the lives of most United Methodist churches.

Literacy Tutoring

Last night I was reminded of one of my formative experiences from the distant past, literacy tutoring. I was in the Wesley Building attending to other matters, when I observed the efforts of the Horry County Literacy Council. About a dozen volunteers were working with 30-40 mostly Hispanic students as they trying to learn English. I am so glad that we offer our underutilized space for this most important work. However, I didn't see any of our members volunteering. Perhaps, we have not publicized this opportunity enough? It does seem that this would be one way we could be in ministry with this new segment of our community. Tutors do not have to speak a foreign language to teach ESL - English as a Second Language.

A number of years ago when we lived in Delaware, I volunteered as a literacy tutor. Some of this was done at a migrant camp in the evening. After 12-14 hour days in the fields, Haitians would meet us in an open shed lighted by a few bare bulbs. I was always impressed by their dedication to learning and their respect for the teachers. I certainly became aware of the issues that migrants faced during those years - the mid '70s - and found that I needed to be a voice for some of them. This kind of sensitizing experience helped me to understand the need to be the hands of Christ by reaching beyond the steeple in specific ministries. Later, I would know this to be part of the role of the deacon.

Let the Word Become Flesh

As the days of Christmas come to an end, the words of Howard Thurman –preacher, theologian, author and voice of all God’s people – come to mind.

When the song of the angels is still,
When the star in the sky is gone,
When the kings and princes are home,
When the shepherds are back with their flock,
The work of Christmas beings:
To find the lost,
To heal the broken,
To feed the hungry,
To release the prisoner,
To rebuild the nations,
To bring peace among brothers (and sisters),
To make music in the heart.

New Year's Eve

I can’t believe that 2005 is about to pass. I celebrate much of what has been and give thanks for God’s grace in those times that have been a challenge. In addition to the birth of a new grandchild, I have enjoyed two other new things in my life this year. Six months ago I began this blog. It has given me an opportunity to share information and some of my thoughts with friends, family and First Church members. This type of journaling has been an exercise in observing and responding to what is happening around me. In many ways, I have discovered it to be a spiritual discipline as it has nurtured my faith in real ways. Also, comments from others have given me further understanding of a variety of topics. The other new thing for me in 2005 has been regular workouts at Pepper Geddings with Ron at 6:00 am. This was inspired by elevated blood pressure and the threat of medication. The doctor and I are pleased with my efforts….120/70 without medication! Blogging and exercising will continue into 2006 and even another grandchild will be born in March.

Like most folks I know, I will begin the new year with strong resolve to be more disciplined in several areas of my life. With thoughts about keeping a neater desk and setting aside reading days, I look forward to this new beginning.

Trains

When Ron and I celebrated our first Christmas, we discovered that trains were important to our Christmas tradition. For Ron, this meant assembling an old Lionel train with a steam engine and a variety of cars under the Christmas tree. For me, it meant remembering train trips from Ohio to my grandparents in New York for some very special Christmas experiences. Although not theological, trains have become a symbol of Christmas in our home.

This year we have been able to carry forth this tradition. The old model train is entertaining our grandchildren. Although they did not travel by train, we are trying to make their Christmas an experience at our home one only grandparents can provide. In these few days, they have our patient attention and an extra dose of love. All of this is part of building what we hope are very special relationships….ones that don’t run off the track. May trains and what they have meant to us always be part of our Christmas.

There are some good directives to grandparenting through several sources. A Google search will reveal several including some good information from AARP. I also have enjoyed a book by Betty Cloyd about spiritual guidance by grandparents. This is available in our church library.

A Year Later

News coverage today reminds us of one year ago when the world was shocked by the loss of lives and the destruction caused by the tsunami that struck southeast Asia. It is good to know that the United Methodist Church continues to be present in the rebuilding of this area as evidenced by this report. The meditations that were written last year in response to this event are quite appropriate to use as prayer and reflection today. Through our faith we know that in life and death God's love and grace protect. May it be so for those who are rebuilding their lives.

Joy of Christmas

After a wonderful worship experience with an overflowing congregation, we enjoyed a fun filled day with the three grandchildren. Truly a Merry Christmas!

There's a Song in the Air

I need to sing and hear the songs of Christmas. My spirit longs to hear the words of joy, peace, love and hope. I enjoy joining with the confident voices that sing enthusiastically the familiar carols. I anticipate the eloquent choral presentations of this music. Emmanuel comes with compassion and joy. My prayer is that my heart be touched so deeply that all my days may be a part of the Holy.

Winter Solstice

For many during this season of joy, this shortest day is followed by the longest night when someone is missing from the family circle and there is an empty place at the table. The night is so very dark. This is the time we need to hear these words from Jesus: "I am the light of the world; anyone who follows me will not be walking in the dark but will have the light of life." John 8

Scarlett and Jane conducted A Service of Hope and Healing today for those who find themselves in this dark place. It was so helpful to those who attended. Some of the words of the closing hymn, Hymn of Promise were very comforting and lingering:

"...in the cold and snow of winter there's a spring that waits to be,
...there's a dawn in every darkness, bringing hope to you and me.
...from the past will come the future; what it holds, a mystery, unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see. "

Nativity Sets

One of the first things to be done as we prepare for Christmas at our home is to unpack the wooden nativity set that we have had since our sons were small boys. This small hand-carved olive wood set from the Holy Land always has a special place, one that allows little eyes to see and little hands to touch. (This year that means Annaka, William and Jack.) This simple crèche helps tell the story again and again. Just when we afraid that we know this birth story too well and its significance does not touch us as it usually has done in the past, this visual representation catches our attention. We watch little hearts and minds carefully play out the story and claim it as part of their faith story. We treasure such things in our hearts and know that God speaks to us still.

Over the years I have collected a variety of other nativity sets and enjoy displaying them during Advent. Most of them have little monetary value, but each one brings me to the manger in a special way. From crystal to tin, they remind me of the variety of people and faith experiences that have made my life richer and fuller. They offer hope that the Light will shine in darkness and the darkness will not overcome it. They proclaim that even now unto us a Child is born.

Shepherd's Child Party

These pictures tell the story. For five years children from the Myrtle Beach community have known what it means to experience the joy of Christmas through the generosity of folks at First UMC. Organized by Ron and Jackie, this party is one of several efforts of First UMC to reach out to children who need to know the love of God. Church members buy gifts and youth provide filled stockings to children selected by the Myrtle Beach school teachers and counselors. Yesterday, fifty children were treated to hamburgers, fries and lots of fun at Johnny Rockets at Broadway at the Beach. Then they arrived at First UMC to hear the real Christmas story as told by Big Tom and to meet Santa Claus who gave them their gifts. May each child remember that those who know Jesus Christ shared Christmas with them.

Christmas Cards

I am in my usual pre-Christmas tight spot. No Christmas cards have been sent and I really want to do it. I love to receive Christmas cards. I enjoy sending such cards. Both are such wonderful moments of remembering. As Hallmark reminds us, this act is an expression of caring. Of course, the cards I treasure the most are those that have a personal note or a picture. They renew that mutual understanding of our special relationship and say what is important to both of us. So it is time, the ritual of addressing, writing, stuffing, licking and stamping must begin for these relationships are too precious to ignore. I am blessed.

Claiming the Promise

“Where is the Promised One, the One who will save and heal?” Each day this question continues to be asked by those seeking a new way of life. Some have journeyed a long time, looking for Christ in many places but not finding him. They have never been shown Christ by one of his followers. They need the healing and hope and the peace of God.

God wants to live in and through us. In Matthew we are told that we are the light of the world. When we claim the name of Jesus in its fullness, we can offer a hope to the seekers we meet that will bring a healing and peace that only God can give. In this time of Advent, we sense that we are the children of the promise and reach out to others in a very intentional way. However, will this commitment to others continue into the new year?

Chronicles of Narnia

Can't wait to see Chronicles of Narnia, but events of the season are keeping me from it this weekend. However, I am assuming that I will see it as will many others in our church during the next few weeks. Thought it might be interesting to start the New Year with a discussion of this film. Youth and adults who have read or seen Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, are invited to share in a discussion about it on January 1 at 9:45 am in the Wesley Fellowship Hall. Lots of articles are being written to give insight into this movie including the United Methodist website. I already have a youth and an adult who are going to help lead our discussion. I am excited about the intergenerational possibilities for this session.

Christmas on Sunday

I have been reading/hearing that some of the mega churches are not having worship services on Sunday, Dec. 25th. Their large paid and volunteer staffs are not available for the worship productions that they have each week. Some others have said such decisions underscore the fact that such churches are being built by consumers and not by disciples. In this season of much discussion of bowing to a secular culture, the cynical would add this to the "holiday" debate. This event does give us some understanding of the emerging church as defined by these churches and their leadership.

Although I have been surprised at these Christmas worship decisions, I wonder if we (First UMC) are at a much different place? We have wrestled all year with this matter and have chosen like many churches to have only one service knowing many of our folk will be content to worship on Christmas Eve only. I don't know that there is a "right answer" for this dilemna, but I do know that it does ask some questions:

What is the role of Sunday worship?
When are we to lead and when are we to follow the secular world?
What kind of message does this send to non-churched?

Christmas Bible Quiz

I am enjoying leading JESUS IN THE GOSPELS this year. Although I feel fairly confident in my understanding of the Gospels, I find that I am a bit rusty on the details. Which story is in which Gospel? The who, what and when really are important parts of the message. When I share this Christmas quiz with others, I discover that I am not the only one who needs to periodically review the facts. Last week the Confirmation class took the challenge.

The biblical Christmas story appears only in Matthew 1:18-2:23 and Luke 2:1-21. Do you know the story? Try answering these questions:

1. Mary rode on what animal on the journey to Bethlehem?
2. How soon after they arrived in Bethlehem was born?
3. In what sort of building or cave was Jesus born?
4. What animals were gathered about the manger?
5. How many Wise Men brought their gifts to Jesus?
6. How did the star compare in brightness with other stars?
7. Did Joseph meet the Wise Men?
8. What was the name of the angel who appeared to Joseph in a dream?
9. Was Jesus born in the winter?
10. Why was the child called Jesus?

This quiz was originally in the Virginia United Methodist Advocate.



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Answers 1-9 are not found in either Gospel. Read the texts again and see what they do say.

10. He was called Jesus “for he will save his people from their sins” (Matthew 1:21)

In addition to re-reading the Bible, there are several websites and software programs that can help us learn/review Bible facts. This one is helping me remember the details.

Gentle Thought

In this season of reflection this quote has caught my attention:

"People are like stained - glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within."

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Hurricane Aid

As we continue to read about the restoration efforts in the aftermath of this year's hurricane season it is interesting to have folks in our midst who have experienced this firsthand. Recently, First UMC had mission teams that went to Florida and Mississippi. In this picture, Carolyn and Alicia are removing damaged drywall in preparation for rebuilding. Members of both of these teams want to continue these efforts and plan to return in the near future. This kind of ministry helps define who we are as a church. May we always reach out to the hurts of others whether in Myrtle Beach, the Gulf or any place that hope is needed.

Getting Ready for Christmas

For the past week I have ignored the boxes of Christmas decorations that have cluttered my home. Somehow I have not been able to get started decorating. Ron has put the lights in the windows and the outside decorations in place. As I arrive home each evening, I have enjoyed their welcome. But, I have procrastinated with my part of this annual task.

Then, I read the on-line Upper Room Advent Reflections for December 2 in which Elizabeth J. Canham writes:

"Let go!" says God. "That was then; this is now. Walk with me on the sacred ground of the present moment, and you will find me in some unexpected places."

With this came a moment of truth for me. When I unfold the tissue paper that protects precious ornaments, memories are also revealed. Wonderful memories of days gone by often give me an attack of melancholy and I yearn for past Christmases. From childhood days to those of Robert and Daniel, thoughts of events, places and people flood around me and I sometimes allow this to sadden me. Why? Perhaps this year’s Christmas will not offer the joy and hope as times past. Perhaps the story is so familiar that I can’t believe there is anything new to be told.

I believe in some ways waiting for Christmas seems always to call us into the soul's dark night and the heart's deep winter. It is a call to let go of what has been so that God can begin to prepare us to live in expectation and anticipation of today and tomorrow. Come, Lord Jesus!

World AIDS Day

A number of years ago when churches across the state were choosing to be in ministry with AIDS patients by forming care teams, I stepped out of my comfort zone and became a member of such a team. Needs of a patient were assessed and we tried to meet them in whatever way we could for what then would be a short period of time. We stood at the graves of several of our new friends and remembered their stories and knew that they had become part of us. So, it is with great interest and sadness that I read the news releases on this day. We have failed to be the leaders in addressing this health issue. We could have done so much more. This commentary from the General Board of Missions reminds us not to place blame, but to extend God's grace through our actions. I need to be on the "care team" once more for AIDS patients and their families.

Call to Discipleship

In the Gospels we read about the call of the first disciples. Jesus was walking by the Sea of Galilee and he saw Simon and Andrew fishing. And he said to them, "Follow me." Immediately they left their nets and followed him. Then, he saw James and John, and he called them. Immediately they followed him. They heard his voice; they responded; they followed.

The call doesn't always come to us so clearly. At times it is hidden, quiet, appearing only through nudges and circumstances. Either way, though, the call does come today as it did to The Twelve. Today, I talked with one who is sensing a real call, but is uncertain what this means. How exciting to know that we are calling forth disciples. However, what a responsibility to help define that call! One suggestion that I would offer is to read and meditate on a little book called Let Your Life Speak.

The old Quaker adage, "Let your life speak," is used by author Parker J. Palmer as the title of an important book about claiming one's true vocation. Palmer understands that learning to let his life speak means "living the life that wants to live in me." It involves creating the kind of quiet, trusting conditions that allow a soul to speak its truth. It reminds us that we walk a path of hope and understanding of what will be. What great words of encouragement!

Welcome to the Inn

As I walked into our beautifully decorated sanctuary today, I whispered a prayer asking God to make this church not just a showplace, but a refuge, a true sanctuary where all might find welcome. May the stranger, the unwanted, the alone enter in and see the light. Then, we will truly welcome the Christ Child.

Advent

Today the journey through Advent begins. The voice of John the Baptist echoes the Prophet Isaiah, "Prepare the way; make straight the path." The invitation to take the first steps was there on the screen when I opened by e-mail this morning. The seasonal devotion from Upper Room was posted. It seemed to say wake up and get started. Although I had planned for this for months, helped decorate the church, written a prayer for today's worship, and prepared a confirmation lesson on Advent, I was not ready to let go of what is and to discover once again what the walk toward the manger will mean to me this year. As this first day comes to an end, a sense of expectancy is beginning to seep into my soul as I ponder and reflect on the road to be taken. As a sojourner in faith, I know that I never travel alone. For the promise is that God is among us, God is with us, God is for us.

Note: Information about subscribing to the seasonal devotion from Upper Room is near the bottom of their page.

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving took on a special meaning for many of us this year as our friend, Joey Park, came home this week from a two month hospital stay that included a liver transplant and lots of ups and downs along the way. Joey, Jackie, Lauren and Elliot have inspired us in our times of fear and concern for them with their abiding faith in an ever present God through the love of Jesus Christ.

Equally heartwarming has been the response of Joey and Jackie’s Sunday school class, New Horizons. These caring persons have chosen to be the heart, hands, and feet of Jesus as they sought to help their friends. Today, the Parks sent the class the following message:

Can't wait to see each of you in person but wanted you to know in the meantime how grateful we are to you for your continuous support over the past 2 months. You have been with us 24-7 over 100 miles away. All that you have done has been a witness to hundreds of people-believe me, everyone that I met during this time knows all about NEW HORIZONS!! It is impossible to relay the impact each of you has had on us. We felt you living out the scripture of Jesus sharing how if you cared for the "least of these", you are caring for Christ himself....and you have done it over and over and over. We are humbled to be a part of you. How vividly the parable of the talents has been shown to us over and over-each of you has so many talents and you have used them to care for each and every thing that we have needed..... I hope that you have heard the whispers of "well done, good and faithful servant"-it should be resounding in each of your ears, just as His voice has promised to be with our family.

We love each of you so much and look forward to the day we can be back at church with you.....have a blessed Thanksgiving with your families and thanks for being our FAMILY!!!

We love you!
Jackie, Joey, Lauren and Elliot .

This is ministry as it should be known through Sunday school classes and other small groups. What a blessing we have known this Thanksgiving!

UMW Assembly

I have been reading about the UMW Assembly that will be held in May. It reminds me of those that I attended a long time ago in Louisville and Philadelphia. How very special they were. They helped shape a young mother's understanding of how the church can really be a teacher and voice of social justice. I sensed that I was reclaiming the stories of women in my family who were suffragettes and social activists. Through these bus trip adventures, I met women who continue to be very important in my life. These events certainly are part of my call to ministry. It is my prayer that we could make it possible for a young woman in our midst to attend this event in May.

Dinner guests

Recently, I was asked that if I could invite three persons to dinner who might they be? What a difficult question! Tonight, I would like to have a nice roast beef dinner and invite Abraham Lincoln, Wendell Berry, and my grandmother. Why? I could come up with all sorts of explanations, but perhaps a trinitarian response is quite appropriate. A. Lincoln was a redeemer, W. Berry's writings focus on creation, and my grandmother continues to sustain me. To listen, discuss and learn from this experience would truly prepare me for Holy Communion.

I wonder who others would like to invite to their table?

Christ the King Sunday

The liturgical calendar says today is Christ the King Sunday, the last Sunday in the church year. We have completed the journey through the life of Jesus Christ. We recognize and worship Christ as king of heaven and earth for all time. However, this king terminology can be bothersome as the 21st century view of a king is not very positive. I read a blog that said perhaps the politically correct version should be the "Culture of Christ" Sunday. Interesting.

Podcasting

Just when I thought that I was being techno savvy with this blog, I learn about podcasting. To me this means a type of audio on-line broadcast. Podcasts can be downloaded to an iPod, mp3 player or CD. I have been traveling with Rick Steves and having breakfast with Father Roderick in a variety of settings. NPR has a number of interesting podcasts, also. All of this is done when I want to listen and not when it is broadcast. Many church websites are now including podcasts as an option for hearing sermons. This means taking the Word into the world in a very real way. Sermons can be heard while jogging, ironing, raking leaves or whenever one wants or needs one.

I am not ready(yet) to do podcasting. But, I am ready to explore what this means to the way we do ministry. I am amazed at the number of churches that have technology specialists on their staffs. With effective use of the wide variety of technologies available to us, it is exciting to think of the possibilities in reaching out to those seeking to know and claim a faith in God through Jesus Christ. I have heard it said that "technology is the campfire around which we tell our stories."

Building Congregational Strength

We traditionally look to the New Year with optimism and the hope of new beginnings. As a church leader, I read and study as to ways that I can support this thinking and make things happen. I continually find good on-line resources that are helpful in my ministry. Of course, I also find a number that are questionable. Careful evaluation of a web site is always important.

From the Lewis Center for Church Leadership I have found the following downloadable resources for building congregational strength:

50 Ways to Build Strength Caring for Children
50 Ways to Build Strength in Participation
50 Ways to Build Strength in Welcoming New Members

I think that these would be very valuable for us to study.

Too Close to the Edge

I like the story of the little boy who fell out of bed. When his Mom asked him what happened, he answered, " I don't know. I guess I stayed too close to where I got in." It is easy to do the same with our faith. It is tempting just to stay where we got in and never move. Yet, that would seem to be a bit risky. I find that those in this position discover that their prayer life is not intentional. All at once they realize that their participation in the life of the church is marginal and that they do not know the joy of sharing their gifts in a regular and intentional way. They are in danger of falling from faithful living. One of the challenges of my ministry is to help folks like this to move to the center where they can explore...even toss and turn at times...and to claim their faith without falling off the edge. Some days this is exciting and other days this is frustrating. Lead us all into a place of trusting and living in your Word, O God.

Sign Language

When I was at Lutheran Seminary I would spend many hours a week intellectualizing God often to the point of losing the experience of faith. However, one semester I took a sign language class. Although I thought that this would be to help others to know God, I learned that it stirred feelings and thoughts that allowed me to experience God in a most meaningful way. The religious signs are iconic. That is, they resemble some aspect or character or the object they represent. An example would be one of the signs for Jesus is pointing to the palm of the hands for the nails. All at once there is an understanding that transcends the moment. This is the faith that I am called to share with others. And, to worship as the hearing impaired, I must keep my eyes wide open and fixed on others. It is only when I see the signs that I know how to lead a faithful life. I often think that this was one of the more valuable classes that I had at LTSS.

Board of Ministry

Thank God, it’s Friday! I do give thanks for this week and what it has been, but I am also glad that it is coming to an end. In addition to a variety of other responsibilities, I attended both District and Conference Board of Ministry meetings. At both meetings we interviewed persons who have answered the call to ministry and are at varying points of the process leading to ordination. At the District meeting we are also responsible for continued oversight for those who serve as local pastors*. I admit to my state of tiredness.

Why do I do this? I feel that it is part of my ordination. I feel that those who have been chosen are to pass the mantle to others and this is to been done prayerfully and carefully. It has long been the tradition of the church that this discernment is done through questioning. Listening for God in this process becomes the challenge as human tendancies of legalism and self-righteousness often surface in our decision making. It is joy when we encounter someone that truly seems to be truly answering a call and is able to articulate all the facets of ministry. However, there are those to whom God has placed a special call on their lives, but to be a clergy person is not part of it. Offering guidance and compassion in these situations is to fulfill our obligation as board members. After six years on this board, I believe that I have good insight into this task and am thankful to be able to serve the church in this way. May God always be my guide.

*Local Pastor - A licensed pastor, approved annually by the district committee on ordained ministry who is authorized to perform all the duties of an ordained minister, including the Sacraments, while assigned to a particular charge under the supervision of a district superintendent. A clergy mentor oversees the local pastor's work in the Course of Study for ordained ministry and advises on matters of pastoral responsibility.

Thought for the Day

My husband, Ron, delights in finding thought provoking quotes and using them in his signature line on his e-mails. I find this one by Wayne Gretzky to be directive when we do planning for the future.

"Most players skate to where the puck is. But I skate to where the puck is going to be."

A Cloud of Witnesses

As we incorporated several themes within our worship yesterday, I observed that faithful Christian stewardship is a discipline of spirit and action...prayers, projects, practice, doing, being. Those who have chosen to walk this path are the true saints among us. They are the ones who surround and encourage us and lead us into the future.

"For all that has been--Thanks!
For all that will be--Yes!"
Dag Hammarskjold

A New Thing

My office has been in a chaotic state for several weeks as a new space for a program assistant is being created. Finding books and resources in boxes isn't fun and everything is covered with a fine dust. The good part of all of this is that I am finding interesting things. Yesterday, I found some undocumented notes that were thought-provoking. Included was the following:

Lovett Weems* says that the task of leaders is not to resolve conflict through victory for one side or compromise for the other, but to watch for God's new creation to emerge. Often a third alternative becomes the "new thing" God is doing in our midst.

As church leaders we often strive for the former and not allow the latter to happen. However, when we patiently let the process of hearing God's Spirit speak to us exciting new life seems to follow. Give us the vision to listen as we move through what Ken identifies as transitional time in the life of this congregation.

*Dr. Lovett Weems is past president of St. Paul School of Theology and now serves as the Director of the Lewis Center for Church Leadership and Distinquished Professor at Wesley Seminary. Both are United Methodist seminaries. I have read several of his books and been fortuate to hear him speak several times about church leadership.

Charge Conference

As we prepared to gather for our annual charge conference on Tuesday evening, I once again realized that our members really don't understand the meaning of a charge conference. Briefly, this basic governing body of each United Methodist church is composed of all members of the Administrative Board or Council and must meet at least once a year. This yearly meeting reviews and evaluates the ministry of the church, sets salaries for the pastor and staff, elects lay leadership for the coming year and recommends candidates for ordained ministry. The District Superintendent usually presides. To me one of the more important aspects of this conference is that it reminds us of our Wesleyan heritage and connects us with the greater United Methodist Church as we follow certain requirements of THE DISCIPLINE. Congregations are held accountable to one another. Next year, I need to offer more explanation to the congregation about the purpose and importance of a charge conference.

Our District Superintendent, Rev. Quay Adams, presided at this year’s charge conference. He asked us two questions that should serve as an evaluative guide to our current and future ministry.

“What are you doing to make disciples of Jesus Christ?”
“What are you doing uniquely?”

These are certainly good questions to keep before us as we plan and do in the coming year.

John Wesley

For the past few years five days a week, I have been reading an e-mail message from Conrad Archer, a United Methodist clergy person from Texas, about John Wesley. He has offered insight into Mr. Wesley by quoting short passages from Wesley's extensive writings in a chronological order. Today is the last regular offering of Days of Wesley. I have found the following to be a good summary by Rev. Archer of what we have gleaned and worth pondering.

The Character of the Man: John Wesley

John Wesley was one of the finest Christians this side of Saint Paul. He was not a great philosophical theologian; but very few could claim to outrank him in terms of practical theology. We see him fully enmeshed in the culture of 18th century England; yet, his life-style could easily be adapted to any time, any location.

He lived in a time colored by beliefs in supernatural entities, e.g. witches, ghosts and demons; but his rational thought would not allow him to be detracted from a positive spirituality. In an age of predominantly deistic thought, he unwaveringly perceived the active intervention of God in all aspects of human life. He was among the most active evangelists of all ages, yet his focus was on spiritual growth into holiness.

His thirst for knowledge pushed him into being among the most learned men of his age, yet he balanced his vast knowledge with an always present quest for vital piety. He was totally dedicated, for all his life, to the proposition that each Christian should strive for, and could achieve, having the mind of Christ within. Few scholars could claim to have read more works of history, medicine, literature, science, etc. But, no man of his time knew and used the contents of the Holy Bible more than he did.

He was a proper English gentleman, yet he strode out into the middle of pastures, drawing thousands of listeners to hear him preach. Often standing on city streets, he would break into a psalm, singing until a small crowd had gathered. Then he would begin his sermon.

When his people were sick and no doctor was available, he treated their illnesses with practical remedies. When banks would not loan money to the poor, he started a "credit union" to help the poor make their way. When hunger plagued the people, Wesley himself would walk the streets begging for resources to feed the impoverished.

Wesley was amazingly inclusive of people with different religious views; but, was exceedingly intolerant of people who argued about their beliefs. Contentiousness was a certain invitation to leave a society. Wesley's main concern was that his people would be holy people, filled with God's love. In 1746, in a preface to a collection of sermons, he wrote:

For how far is love, even with many wrong opinions, to be preferred before truth lf without love. We may die without the knowledge of many truths and yet be carried into Abraham's bosom. But if we do without love, what will knowledge avail?
John Wesley, WORKS (Bic Ed) 1, 107, 1746.

Conrad Archer

Issac J. Bailey

I regularly read Issac Bailey's column, A Different Perspective, in THE SUN NEWS. I don't always agree with what he says, but I always find it well written and thought provoking. So, when I read this morning that he is now writing a blog, A Different World, I immediately logged on and found a compelling interview of a visiting journalist about the genocide in Rwanda. Tonight, I revisited this blog to read the comments to it and was encouraged with the initial response. I think Mr. Bailey has given us a legitimate opportunity for thoughtful dialogue and I commend it to others to read.

A Place Called Home

As we return to South Carolina from a few days in Ohio, I have memories of one more journey to that place called home. Long ago I realized this not only means the geographical location, a farm near Jeffersonville, Ohio, but also a place in my heart. Both understandings have been very much part of this trip. From being with my sister and husband who are dealing with his serious illness to seeing my parents who are experiencing the realities of aging, it has been an opportunity to remember so many things that have been important to me through the years. I also have had the chance to do what family members can do best...hold one another close in time of trial. As the miles once again begin to separate us, I know that I am not really leaving home for it truly is a place in my heart.

Beckley, West Virginia

Ancient Future Worship

My niece, Carrie, sent me this article from the Washington Post.

In addition to experiencing some of this type of spirituality in recent years, I have heard and read about what Robert Webber identifies as ancient future worship. Other writers like Leonard Sweet write, "Our faith is ancient. Our faith is future. We're old-fashioned. We're new-fangled. We're orthodox. We're innovators. We're postmodern Christians." All of this seems to be part of what is now being called emerging worship. For some this may seem to be a disconnect with what they know to be worship. Others find it to be quite transparent as they look at what is happening within their worshipping communities. And, there are others who opine that this is the new Reformation. (Got to use the current pop words!)

It is interesting that today is Reformation Sunday. Wonder what Martin Luther would think of this?

The Way It Was

As a Minister of Education I work closely with those who have answered the call to youth ministry. Over the years I have had the pleasure of working with a variety of persons who each have brought unique gifts to the roles of youth director, teacher and counselor. I will admit there have been tense times when I have found myself caught between supporting these persons in their ministry and appeasing parents and other adult leadership who always have a better idea. These moments usually begin with phrases such as… “When we (or my kids) were teens, we had a strong youth program. We had fundraisers, went on retreats, had a great Sunday school and everyone in town thought our program was the best. So and so was the youth director then and we need someone just like him/her.” And the discontent begins…

Those days probably were wonderful, but I have come to realize we are only hurting our youth when we don’t make the effort to create a program that responds to the needs of this generation.. And, it is the youth and the youth leaders that can often give us the good insights for this. However, we fail to listen and keep on promoting our own thoughts and ideas. Before long youth directors leave in frustration and youth leave the church, because we haven’t provided spiritual fulfillment. All we have provided is lots of activity. Where in the Bible is it written that every youth group must take a ski trip? Our teens do not need more activities for the sake of having something to do. They lead a frantically busy life. But, many want to explore their spiritual life and to have opportunities to practice their faith in relationship with one another. Activities can be a tool for this. However, without a strategy or long term plan that allows teens to know the transforming love of God through Jesus Christ, our youth programs will disappear when “the way it was” becomes the theme for youth ministry. Let’s be open to new possibilities and offer our youth, youth leaders and teachers support in their efforts as they seek to create a youth ministry that nurtures faithful discipleship in today's world.

Festival of Faith

What a rich experience to hear the word proclaimed by Jan Brittain! Jan is an ordained United Methodist minister from Greensboro, NC. As an adopted daughter of this church, it is always like a homecoming when she is with us. During our Festival of Faith, she has challenged us “to keep the body of Christ healthy and fit in the world today.” Drawing on the book of Acts, Jan has reminded us that it is the power of the Holy Spirit that allows us to live in faithfulness as individuals and as a community of believers.

I have especially appreciated Jan’s understanding of Barnabas, Paul’s encourager, and the importance of such persons within the church. Her sermon has led me to remember those persons who have encouraged me to be more than I have known myself to be. What a gift they have given me! I trust it has been important to the church, the body of Christ, as well. From those who invited and encouraged me to serve the church in a variety of ways as a layperson to those who helped me hear the call to ordained ministry, I can name so many significant persons in my life. But, Jan’s message isn’t about what has been, but what must be for the body of Christ to be healthy today. So, how can I be a Barnabas to others?

Claiming the Land

When I saw the above picture, my heart melted. Our grandson, William, was visiting my Ohio home. For a few days he had an opportunity to sense his rich heritage of those who love the land. The land is the canvas for telling our family story and each one of us knows what it means when we say, “the farm”. We remember the stories of each generation that has lived on this land and how the land has shaped them. Some members have stayed and others have moved on to other places taking a bit of the land’s story with them.

The Bible is the story of God’s people with God’s land and its promise. The biblical saga of the promised land is echoed in other stories through the ages including the Owens family. Five generations on this piece of land have trusted the earth for fruitful harvest and have known the sense of joy of belonging to an ordered and bountiful creation. Like the wandering Israelites, we have held fast to the promise of the land through times of tribulation. The land is our past, our present, and our future.

Read-Aloud

We have recently added some good parenting resources in our church library including one that I enjoyed using when my sons were young. The Read-Aloud Handbook by Jim Trelease is now in its fifth edition and still contains wonderful information. The author writes not only about the importance of reading aloud, but also some of the do’s and don’ts. He also includes a listing of over 1500 books from wordless books to full-length novels to be read-aloud to children. Each listing has a brief description and recommended age-level.

Looking through The Read-Aloud Handbook certainly took me down memory lane. Authors such Margaret Wise Brown, E. B. White, and Dr. Suess were early favorites of my sons. I remember Dan laughing at Amelia Bedelia and Curious George. Rob loved James and the Giant Peach by Roald Dahl and Soup by Robert Newton Peck. Later, The Cay by Theodore Taylor and The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis were at the top of the list of must-reads.

During our sons' elementary years, I especially liked the books by Katherine Paterson, Beverly Cleary, Betsy Byars and Judy Blume as their writings had a sensitivity to the issues important for us to discuss. Matters of life and death, friendship, family, justice, and heartache were often explored in a way that invited healthy conversation. It is interesting to note that our sons liked these books, also.

I don’t think I fully understood the importance of this time we spent reading. I was focused on doing the right thing so that they would be good readers and enjoy it. However, the parent-child relationship strengthened, the questions spawned, the imagination inspired, and the creativity nurtured were also important rewards. It certainly is part of sacred memory for me. May my grandchildren and all children share such rich moments.

Friendship

“Faithful friends are a sturdy shelter: whoever finds one has found a treasure.” Sirach 6:14 (also known as Ecclesiasticus in the Apocrypha of the Old Testament)

For the last few days we have enjoyed the company of long time friends, Bob and Patsy. We have supported one another through the joys and frustrations that are part of daily living for twenty years. So this time to share news, memories, and thoughts about the future is important to maintaining this special relationship. Each couple takes the term “friend” seriously and knows that we have to periodically renew the bonds that hold us together. We talk of our children, grandchildren and elderly parents. We compare books read and activities enjoyed. Both couples have relocated to new communities, established new relationships and are part of new churches. We have so many things to discuss. The men watch football and the women shop. We walk the beach and eat seafood. With the goodbye hugs, we know that our lives are richer because of this friendship. We have been blessed.

Tweens

Understanding and nurturing our preteens 9-13 years of age has become an important focus of our ministry at First Church. The current term for this age group is tweens. To help us in this effort, we have been most fortunate to engage Jim Williams to speak with us in March, 2006. Through his book, Parenting on Point and his DVD series, ProActive Parenting, Jim Williams helps parents and those who work with parents examine values and set priorities. Jim is a national parenting advocate and speaker and the director of Parent Education and Asset Development for STARS, a school-based program helping students make healthy lifestyle choices.

I am so excited that through a generous gift we will be able to offer this program about tweens to both parents and teachers March 3-4. We are striving to make this an offering to the community and to our conference, also. We have been blessed and are called to share that which will make a difference in our children's lives.

Parenting on Point is available in our church library.

Learning Partners

How wonderful to see our 5th graders and the Faith Connections class bridge the gap!(see previous post-Bridging the Gap) Together they visited the Mouse Pad and learned about Jacob and Esau through a variety of computer experiences. May these new friendships be important to all.

Children's Sabbath

This week we are joining many congregations, synagogues and mosques in remembering our call to meet the needs of children by being a part of the fourteenth annual National Observance of Children’s Sabbaths. The focus of this ecumenical and interfaith effort is “putting our faith into action to seek justice for children.” As I prepare the sermon for this Sunday, I am overwhelmed by the statistics of child poverty and neglect and am reminded of the following:

The Child’s Name is “Today”
We are guilty of many errors and faults
but our worst crime is abandoning the children,
neglecting the fountain of life.
many of the things we need can wait.
The child cannot.
Right now is the time bones are being formed.
blood is being made, senses are being developed.
To the child we cannot answer “Tomorrow.”
The child’s name is “Today.”
-Gabriela Mistral

Golden Calves

Recently, I have heard several sermons that referenced idols. Usually this word only reminds me of an image of a golden calf in the Old Testament. However, the repeated hearing of this word in a short period of time seemed like a sign for me to give idols more serious thought. Looking again at the scriptures, one finds that the people just don’t get it about idols. They keep making and worshiping idols again and again. This is a hot topic in the Bible.

Idols are still a hot topic. Our culture is as full of idols as Athens was in Paul’s day. We still have the idols of wealth, power, and success. Others may be objects of worship that are unique to our culture. In fact, this is probably not a good topic to explore during the collegiate football season. We can also acknowledge the idols of addictive substances, images of youth and beauty, status and material possessions. We believe somehow that what we can accumulate makes us who we are.

Moses discovered the uniqueness of God at the burning bush. God cannot be depicted or represented in any manner. Therefore, we constantly need to identify those things that have become idols in our lives and recommit ourselves to returning to the worship of God who said to Moses, "I am who I am." (Exodus 3:14). What is almost as amazing as our repeated idolatry is the fact that God always makes a way for us to return to God and accepts us when we come back.

Frederick Buechner

I am more familiar with Frederick Buechner's writings through their use within other person's works than his books. They always seem to be thought provoking. Today I saw the following quote:

"What is both Good and New about the Good News is that mad insistence that Jesus lives on among us not just as another haunting memory but as the outlandish, holy, and invisible power of God working, not just through the sacraments, but in countless hidden ways to make even slobs like us loving and whole beyond anything we could conceivably pull off by ourselves."

One of these days I am going to read more of Buechner's works in their entirety.

The Christian Century

For over one hundred years, The Christian Century has examined a variety of subjects not only theologically, but also politically and culturally. The by-lines of this non-denominational periodical have been ones of the some of the outstanding Christian writers of each generation. Now The Christian Century articles may be read on-line.

This week I discovered "The Burden of the Gospels" by one of my favorite authors, Wendall Berry, on The Chrisitan Century website. This was very timely as I am currently facilitating our Jesus in the Gospels study and am trying to read them with new eyes. I appreciate the challenge that Wendall Berry finds in the Gospels and agree that there is a mystery of life that the Gospels can only partially reveal, but that we "are highly priveleged to live our way into." When we take them seriously we try to answer the question that Berry asks: "How must we live and work so as not to be estranged from God's presence in his work and in all his creatures?" He writes of the complexity of this question and one that calls for many answers. I concur with his final statement - "May heaven guard us from those who think they already have the answers."

Comfort Food

I love the term “comfort food” and enjoy identifying certain foods as such. Some of those heading my list would include meatloaf and mashed potatoes and hearty vegetable soup and cornbread. Of course, homemade bread, ice cream and anything chocolate would also be included. I am not sure why I find so much comfort in such food, but I am sure it relates more to the power of memory than my taste buds.

The mention of these comfort foods evokes wonderful mental pictures. One is of my mother cooking and our family around the table in lively conversation. Another picture would be of me preparing these foods for Ron and two little boys in days past. Both pictures give me a sense of peace and security in a time when our world seems out of kilter. The resulting contentment inspires me not only to return to the kitchen, but also to be in relationship with others so that their memory of well-being will be fed.