Make a Home a Castle

I can’t believe it, but the Sun News has vindicated me. After years of ignoring many decorating trends in favor of using inherited items and family photos to adorn our home, an article in this morning’s paper stated that we should reflect who we are by following this same practice. By incorporating such treasured items into an overall plan gives “a nod to our roots.”

Over the years I do admit that I have spent hours pouring over the pages of home decorating magazines and changed colors and window treatments as advised by the professionals. (No more orange and avocado with heavy drapes in my house!) However, as we have moved from place to place it has become increasingly important to me to surround us with items that reflect family and family. From Grandma Owens’s rocking chair to grandchildren pictures, our space certainly offers a reflection of who we are. To us these special things make our house feel like home. We have also found them to be a great catalyst for sharing family history with our sons and their families. Although not a castle, I find our home to wrap us in its own kind of luxury and to be a witness of a family’s strength.

Learning to be the Body of Christ

For generations we have used a schooling-instructional paradigm as we define Christian education in our churches. That is, in a certain time and place and in a specific manner education is to occur. Although there are certain inherent elements of this that we constantly analyze and perhaps change, it is a basic model that continues to serve us well in some ways as we build up the church. We can read and recite scripture. We study a bit about church history, theological thought and Methodism. We are good students of Christianity and we give thanks for those who have helped us to be at this place on our journey.

However, we are realizing that it is in the everyday living that we can truly discover and be part of the Body of Christ. We learn while serving as Christ’s apprentices each day. We encounter the world and perform the scripture as interpreted within the traditions and understandings of our congregation. Our individual needs become secondary as we ask God in Christ for help in doing what is right, good, and loving as we walk our daily paths. We have a special opportunity for learning when together we open hearts and minds to new insight and understanding and respond to those who are in need of God’s grace and love. We truly experience spiritual formation. For in honoring the guest and stranger we welcome Christ himself. We are transformed and know what it means to be the Body of Christ. So, what changes in Christian education do we need to make as we seek to grow in understanding of our faith?

In Our Connection

An e-mail from my friend Cynthia reminded me how important it is that the local UMC church share the stories of our connectional ministries. She had heard of the four areas of focus for the UMC as named at the 2008 General Conference and was excited to know that we are involved in these matters. Over the next quadrennium, the church will seek to focus the work of making disciples for Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world around these areas of ministry:

• Combating the diseases of poverty by improving health globally.
• Engaging in ministry with the poor.
• Creating new places for new people and revitalizing existing congregations.
• Developing principled Christian leaders for the church and the world.

For further discussion see this UMNS commentary.

This week the Council of Bishops approved a pastoral letter asking church members to participate in the healing. This document, “God’s Renewed Creation: Call to Hope and Action,” was started by the 2004 United Methodist General Conference. More than 5,400 United Methodists around the world have had input into the final document. “We cannot help the world until we change our way of being in it,” the bishops said in adopting the letter. The bishops recommend that this letter be read to congregations during the season of Advent.

If we understand that the Church exists to serve the world and that the congregations of the UMC connect with one another to effectively do so, we need to be more intentional about sharing connectional news and to be in conversation about it.

Whitefoot

Our grandchildren, Annaka and William, are both great first-grade readers and we are impressed by their proficiency. Parents, grandparents and other caring adults dutifully listen and praise them for their accomplishments. I know that our reading to them has been an important contributing factor to their learning to read and we have enjoyed doing this. However, I also know that reading experts urge us to continue this practice as it will further help develop our young readers’ skills. Vocabulary will be enhanced and imagination inspired as we carefully share good literature with them. Recently, I discovered such a book and can’t wait to share it with them.

Whitefoot is written by one of my favorite authors, Wendell Berry. Berry’s engaging prose takes both reader and listener on a fascinating journey with Whitefoot, a small mouse who lives at the edge of the woods. When the nearby river floods Whitefoot is carried into a strange new world and discovers that she can cope with the challenges - certainly a valuable life lesson. The portrait of this tenacious little mouse is not only drawn with well-crafted words, but also is enhanced by several pen and ink illustrations by Davis Te Selle. There is a lot within this small book for a young mind to ponder.

The Greatest Challenge

As a church professional I spend a lot of time studying and thinking about numbers, finances, programs and ministries. I want to help create a vital congregation that makes a difference to Myrtle Beach and the world beyond. My goal is always to nurture discipleship of Jesus Christ. And, I become frustrated and saddened when indifference and apathy seem to prevail. I become distracted about what is reality. It is not easy being a Christian. So, it was providential that I read the following written by Will Willimon: “Let us remind ourselves in worship this Sunday that our greatest challenge is that which it has always been – loving and serving a living, truthful God!" This is all that really matters, isn't it?

For Everything There is a Season

During the past few weeks the opening words of Ecclesiastes 3 have been part of my being as Ron and I made two trips to Ohio:

“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to pluck up what has been planted; a time to kill and a time to heal; a time to break down and a time to build up; a time to weep and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance; a time to throw away stones and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek and a time to lose; a time to keep and a time to throw away; a time to tear and a time to sew; a time to keep silence and a time to speak; a time to love and a time to hate; a time for war and a time for peace.”

Our first trip included spending time with my parents who now live in an assisted living facility. It certainly seemed strange to visit them at this new address, but we were most pleased with their improved state of health and pleasant room and to see them adjusting to this new lifestyle. It was with mixed emotions we joined other family members in dismantling the homestead, as we have known it. Tears, laughs and stories were shared as we divided heirlooms and treasures. We also visited my sister and brother in-law who were coping with his last days of a four-year struggle with colon cancer. What strength they both have exhibited during these years while teaching lessons about living into dying to us all. With heavy hearts we returned to South Carolina knowing we would soon be back in Ohio. But, the call came only a few days later and we made plans to join family and friends in celebrating John’s life.

Although the skies were often gray and misty during this second trip to Ohio, Ron and I saw rainbows several times along the way. The light that reflected through tears when acts of love and concern gave comfort and peace seemed to create them. As did carefully selected music and words that offered hope for the days to come. How Can I Keep from Singing still rings in my mind and heart when sadness returns.

During this season, I became deeply aware that it is family, friends and faith that give us the strength and love to continue the journey. It has become a time not only of self-discovery as I admit it difficult to face my own mortality, but also a time to make sure that my own legacy is shaped by the Micah’s admonition to:

Where is Emily?

Several years ago we had a manners class for 3rd-5th graders as part of our children’s ministry. It was our intent to augment and refine a child’s basic understanding of etiquette. Although it was a successful effort in many ways, we were amazed that we needed to teach many of them how to hold their eating utensils before we could talk about proper table manners. Apparently, this is not a prerequisite for fast food or current family dining. So, why does it come as a surprise that many of our families don’t understand what R.S.V.P. means?

Church event after event is planned that requires some indication as to whether the invited ones will be present. A response is requested by a certain date. After limited replies, we start calling the invitees to try to determine who might be planning to attend. In the meantime, a commitment to final plans for food etc. has to be made. I am not clairvoyant, but I often have to pretend that I have this special talent if we are to go forth with the activity. On Sunday, twenty-five third graders are to receive Bibles during the 8:30 worship service. This is to be followed by a brunch for the student and their parents and a time for discovering how one navigates through the Bible. I would think that this might be an important event in the life of a family. Although some have indicated that they will attend, many have been silent about their intent. Others have made other plans. It would seem that Emily Post needs to be required reading in many of our homes or do we need to submit to this cultural trend and order out when the group arrives?

Labor Day 2009

On this Labor Day weekend, I can’t help but think of those who labor during this time of economic uncertainty. The latest Labor Department reports an unemployment rate of 9.7 percent. We all know stories of those who are under-employed or have given up. The effects continue to ripple through our lives, personally and as a community. Many of us have to re-think our priorities and to make difficult choices as we try to stretch our resources. However, it is important to remember low-wage laborers who support a culture that still demands many services and to offer justice and compassion where needed.

From the blog of Cathleen Falsani:

"So many of the stories in the Bible revolve around labor and laborers. Field workers. Shepherds. Fishermen. Builders. Weavers. Farmers. Servants. As one Labor Sunday sermon on the United Church of Christ Web site reminded me, Jesus (as a carpenter) was himself a “low-wage worker.” In our society, workers such as child-care providers, custodians, farm workers, day laborers, sales clerks, and housekeepers typically make the lowest wages for the longest hours.

“One-quarter of all jobs in the U.S. pay poverty-level wages,” the UCC sermon says. “In addition, these jobs are more likely to require evening, night, weekend or rotating shifts. They are less likely to provide health insurance, a pension, or even paid sick leave. They are more likely to be filled by women and people of color — marginal jobs for the already marginalized. Just like Jesus.”

Keeping Sabbath

The beauty and rage of the ocean have long served as insightful metaphors for many of life’s experiences. Today, as I sat by the ocean and let the rhythms of the waves take away stress and sadness and bring in a state of serenity, my soul was renewed. Finding peace and understanding through God’s creation once again gave direction for the journey and served as a powerful reminder of the biblical instruction to keep Sabbath as a holy day of rest. Why do I keep breaking this commandment?

Wise Words

This is the season of organizing Bible studies and trying to convince folk that this just might be the time for them to participate. Some are afraid to admit their limited knowledge and others feel that that have already done sufficient Bible study. Sometimes it is the wisdom of those who have gone before that provide the best argument for making this commitment. Such are the words of Gregory the Great (540-604):

"Scripture is like a river, broad and deep, shallow enough here for the lamb to go wading, but deep enough there for the elephant to swim."

Social Media

A couple months ago I realized that I had better get on board with social media, especially as to how it might be important to my ministry and the church's ministry. I researched, reviewed and took the plunge. I am now on Facebook and Twitter as is First UMC. James Sturgeon is responsible for the latter and is doing a great job with keeping it current. Although social media has been great summertime fun, I still wonder about the significance of it all. Then, my son, Robert, sent me this video. Maybe we are doing the right thing as we seek new ways to effectively tell the story.


Just when thought I was catching up with the newest and the latest, my husband gives me a smart phone. Now I have a new challenge. Will keep you posted.

A Challenge

As a regular reader of Issac Bailey’s column in The Sun News, I knew that I wanted to read his new book, Proud. Black. Southern. (But I Still Don’t Eat Watermelon in Front of White People) as soon as I was aware of it. Finally, I did read it several weeks ago and have been thinking about it ever since. Much of this book is comprised of previously published columns, which reflect on his personal experiences of growing up in South Carolina. As one might assume, he reveals some of his struggles as an African-American in a culture that is often labeled as racist. What is interesting is that Bailey’s observations are not always predictable and I find myself thinking about some of my views about race, especially in the South. He reminds us of the complexity of race relations and for the need for us to be in dialog about it, not only in our homes, our schools, but in our churches as well. As regular readers of his column know, Bailey just doesn’t write about matters of race, but puts himself in the community to discuss and act upon them. This becomes a challenge to the rest of us as we order our lives.

First Stop Online?

At first I laughed when I read the NY Times report that folks are going online in the morning before coffee. Then I realized that I may be closer to this than I would have ever imagined a few years ago. Slowly, I have found myself needing to read e-mail, Facebook, Twitter, and blogs more frequently. Ron and I each have a computer and an iPhone. Although I could give several almost legitimate reasons for this, I do wonder if this is the best use of my time, But, be assured that coffee still comes first. When that changes I will know that I am trouble. But, the idea about texting Ron to get his attention might have merit.

In Defense of Food

Michael Pollan, author of The Omnivore’s Dilemma, has written another book about the food we eat that will definitely linger in the mind of the reader, especially when one reaches for processed food. In Defense of Food is an account of the evolution and ramifications of the Western diet, which encourages one to return to the real, well-grown and unprocessed food for healthy eating. As Pollan says, ”Don’t get your fuel from the same place your car does.” By reporting how our culture has been immersed in “nutritionism” for the past thirty years and has become progressively sicker and fatter, he makes a good case for his basic conclusion- “eat food, not too much, mostly plants”.

Pollan further states that the habits that surround our eating seem to be very important to the health benefits of food. Eat meals and do so at the table instead of devouring snacks on the go. Eat slowly and not alone. The act of cooking is more than a task; it is a ritual that claims healthy eating as a way of life. Michael Pollan’s books have certainly influenced the choices we are making in our food consumption and I encourage others to consider his compelling case for good eating.

Zoe Ministry

Currently, three First Church members are in Kenya as missioners with Zoe Ministry. Internet has allowed some of us to feel a special connection with them as they have this extraordinary experience. I share some of their thoughts and encourage you to keep them in your prayers as they continue sharing God’s love in Africa.

Some reports from Jean Clemmons:
"…We visited the Maua Methodist Hospital today. The most depressing thing I have ever seen...though they are so proud to have the hospital. The nursery for the premature babies was just deplorable. Had homemade incubators that looked like what mamma and daddy used to hatch biddys. A box with a glass in door and an electric light underneath the the base to give warmth. I talked to a girl (I don't believe she was over 13) who just gave birth to a baby girl ...she was outside with blood on her clothes looking into the window of the nursery.We also toured the lab and patient areas. Had an area especially for treatment for HIV/Aids patients of which they have many. The conditions here are worse than I had ever imagined."

"…This morning we all had a mountain top experience with "Moses". He is a young boy (20 years of age) in the ZOE Ministry who has been in the program 1 year. He touched us all with him ambition and hard work. With the help of ZOE training getting him started with farming, he has a beautiful crop of kale, maize, 2,000 tomato plants, coffee bean trees, and a tea plantation. He sells his crops and re-invest into his farm to increase productivity. He supports and sends 2 siblings to school, and also shares his produce with neighbors who have less."

"…We built a house yesterday and today for an orphan with 5 siblings. She presently is living in a 8x6 hut built with branches and cardboard. One sibling sleeps with her. The others go to different neighbors houses to sleep. I get emotional everytime I look at what sweet little "Faith" (the 17 year old) is presently living in. It is horrible. We will have the dedication for the two houses ( 24ft. x 24ft. 2 bedroom) our team has built on Friday. When we arrived at the site this morning...Faith had done some landscaping after we left yesterday using rocks for borders."

Shannon Hussey says: "...This has been the most wonderful blessing God has given me. I don't plan to simply make a scrapbook of "my tour of misery." See you soon!"

Our friends are part of a larger mission team and one of its members has created a blog to record some of their experiences and reflections. This is well worth reading.

All of this, plus a long-standing interest in Africa and a challenge from Shannon, has left me wondering about what it is that I need to be doing to reach out to my brothers and sisters in this part of the world. In God's time, I will know.

Older Adult Ministry

Maybe it is because I am about to have another birthday, maybe it is because I have been occupied with aging parent issues or maybe it is because I am planning for our Snowbird and Seagull ministry, but I seem to be encountering some interesting articles about the graying of the church that have left me wondering. In our efforts to attract younger members, do we forget the fastest growing segment of our population? According to AARP, 41% of American adults are older than 50 and this number is increasing each year and it is well-documented that the average age of a United Methodist is 57.

We know that the older population cannot be uniformly defined and accommodated. It is popular to name three groupings of older adults as the go-gos, slow-gos and no-gos. Yet, do we really consider this in our planning for and nurturing of this segment of our community? It is much more than fellowship groups and large-print. It is no different than any other age group – know the needs and concerns and how individual gifts can be shared to create a nurturing ministry that promotes faithful discipleship. Somewhere along the way, we have given permission for too many of our older members to retire from the active status. We need them and they need us. It seems to me that we need to rethink much about what we call older adult ministry.

An Ohio Visit

I have just returned from visiting my parents in Ohio. My sister and brothers joined me to celebrate our mother's birthday. Lots of memories were shared as we helped our parents make some important decisions. As my sister says, "Aging is not for the faint of heart." It made us each realize the importance of family when difficult times prevail.

Newsweek

Recently, Newsweek made some radical changes in its format and content that left me wondering if I had lost an old friend. However, during the last few days I have had a good opportunity to spend time reading some of the current issues and have discovered a most interesting new friend. I do miss the shorter articles on a variety of subjects, but realize that I do and can read that kind of journalism on-line. What Newsweek now offers are more in-depth stories with a variety of respected voices reflecting on the subjects. Since I still find a special connection with the written word when I can hold it, dog-ear the pages and carry it with me, I find this quite appealing. Although the July 13 issue had a special report on the life and death of Michael Jackson, the "What to Read Now" focus was also included. It is interesting to note that this was the cover story for subscribers and Jackson was on the cover for newsstand readers. All of this seems to reflect another phase in the evolution of print media.

According to the editorial comment, the list of fifty books recommended in this particular issue of Newsweek are ones that “open a window on the times we live in, whether they deal directly with the issues of today or simply help us see ourselves in new and surprising ways.” Each one has a short explanation as to why one should read it in 2009. Some I have read, some are familiar, but too many I don’t know. Also included in this issue are an interesting roundtable discussion of writing books by those who do so and an article by David Gates about the pleasures of revisiting our favorite books. A listing of the top 100 books of all time can be found at Newsweek.com. All of this has left me hungry to find a comfortable, quiet place and do some serious reading.

Random Thoughts

Reflecting on the week that was, some vivid pictures linger in my mind –

children singing with joy and being enthralled by storytellers,

families walking into the church together,

a confused governor trying to explain why he abandoned his post,

a woman politician saying a woman should not be considered for the county administrator position,

endless commentary about an entertainer’s passing and crowds gathering to mourn him,

a face of suffering and pain as another life was lost to cancer,

a hug from a child when he learned that he would be able to go to camp,

continuing images of Iranian protestors,

tears as we said goodbye to one minister and smiles as we welcomed another one,

dark storm clouds approaching just as VBS children were ready to enjoy a jump castle and other inflatables,

many hands taking down and putting away VBS for another year,

answering a phone to hear that my father’s surgery went well,

having a loving husband that is truly my helpmate.

As the children learned in VBS, I "experience and discover God everywhere."

P.S. – Four years ago today I began this blog and after 612 posts I am still finding new paths on the journey. Thanks for comments and challenges.

Moving Day

Today is moving day for SC United Methodist clergy. Some will be moving to new churches, but all ministers mark this day as significant and lift prayers for congregations and pastors that are experiencing change. We know the history and polity of itinerancy. We know the value of this system. We also know the emotional turmoil that this often creates for those involved. So, today with sadness we say farewell to Scarlett and with excitement welcome Jonathan.

The success of clergy moves is not one-sided. The willingness of a congregation to embrace the newness that will be part of the days to come plays a large role in building a healthy relationship. Clergy are given all sorts of advice as to how to handle moves (although not always followed), but are congregations prepared? Sometimes I wonder if the cone of silence that surrounds these moves for months prior to moving day causes a congregation to circle the wagons in fear of what might be coming over the horizon. Perhaps we need to look again at how we handle this moving process in SC.

Father's Day

Lengthy, eloquent tributes abound as daughters and sons send greetings to their fathers this weekend, but I am thinking more in a ‘top-10” format as I remember my dad.

1. I have never had to question Dad’s love of my mother or his
children.

2. With Mother, he has given us a sense of place, a home, that will always shape who we are.

3. Dad has taught us to appreciate the land on which we tread.

4. From his example, we learned at an early age what it means to be a good citizen and community servant.

5. As a faithful man of God, he has nurtured us in our discipleship.

6. If we tripped or fell on life’s path, he has always been there to catch us.

7. His love of reading has always been contagious.

8. Dad’s passion and care for animals has made us appreciate
all God’s creatures.

9. His ice cream gene has been successfully passed to children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

10. Dad’s appreciation of the restoring value of a good nap has always been modeled for us.


I love you, Dad!

A Very Good Book

The Story of Edgar Sawtelle has been on my to-read list for months and after seemingly being intimidated by it’s length, I recently decided to tackle it as an audio book borrowed from the Socastee Library. During the following weeks, I looked forward to driving anywhere, because I knew Richard Poe’s voice would fill my car with the wonderful telling of David Wroblewski’s captivating novel. Set in rural Wisconsin, this family saga surrounds a unique breed of dogs and a mute young hero whose ability to communicate with both humans and animals is intriguing. Edgar’s tale takes the reader/listener to the extremes of human tragedy with the creative use of language and plot, the makings of a very good novel. I especially enjoyed the exploration of the heart and intelligence of this fictional breed of dogs that filled Edgar’s life with important companionship. Not the usual summer read, but one that I would recommend for others to consider including whenever they have time to savor it.

Woman of Character

When reading the current copy of Sasee, I was delighted to see a picture of Shannon Hussey and Courtney Howard and to read the attached article. Shannon is Sasee’s current “Woman of Character” as a result of Courtney’s nomination. It is great to know that a youth recognizes the importance of a mentoring relationship. Also, I know that Shannon takes this role seriously. I was pleased that their confirmation experience was noted as part of this. Congratulations to both of these fine young women.

Annual Conference 2009

Lay and clergy members of the South Carolina Annual Conference met in Florence this week. In the midst of taking care of business, we worshiped and enjoyed some important time of fellowship. And, sometimes we found ourselves or so it seemed to be for me this week.

For a variety of reasons, I arrived a bit tired and harried late Sunday afternoon. Almost immediately I was in the clergy session followed by the ordination service. Although it with great joy to see Jonathan Tompkins commissioned and Alice Deal ordained, I was beginning to be a bit blurry eyed and fuzzy brained with the final laying on of hands. It wasn’t until Monday that I truly began to be in holy conference with my brothers and sisters.

One of the first orders of business was to address the 32 amendments to the Constitution of the United Methodist Church as proposed by the 2008 General Conference. Some of the usual voices gave the predicted speeches for and against them and most of the comments were ones that had been well circulated prior to Annual Conference. However, all of this was conducted with more civility and in less time than I expected. The outcome in South Carolina was about as I predicted. I am not so sure how the UMC as a whole will respond, but somehow I feel it will be the right answer.

As is our custom, we remembered those clergy and clergy spouses who entered the church triumphant during the past year. The Rev. Mel Arant honored their ministries by sharing the Word with clarity and sincerity. With a background of appropriate music, projected pictures of each one of these servants reminded me of their humanity and devoted service. The power of this cloud of witnesses spoke to my soul and seemed to offer me assurance that I am doing what God has called me to do.

Renewing acquaintances and spending time with friends was nurturing, as it often served as a time of accountability. I have discovered that inherent in these relationships is the challenge to uphold my ordination vows. A sense of renewal began to prevail within my soul and by the time that Bishop Taylor sent us forth I was ready to continue the journey with courage and hope. Thanks be to God.

I Wonder

I recently found this quote in an old file. The source is unknown, but the insight is timeless.

" The superficial church ignores its members gifts. The cannibal church devours its members to keep itself going. But the living church multiplies the gifts it is given and blesses the lives that are offered."

Which of these terms describes our/your church? Personally, I see a little of each of these definitions in my church and wonder how we can become a stronger living church. Any ideas?

Still Knitting

A simple act of knitting three stitches and purling three stitches repeated again and again slowly becomes a prayer shawl. (A 2005 post) The shawl is offered with prayer to those who need to be reminded of God’s presence in their lives. However, this has also been a gift of God’s renewing and sustaining grace in my own life as I have practiced what has become a contemplative act during these last few years.

These days, as the tremors in my right hand challenge me, my knitting has taken on a greater significance in my life. Just as I have to accept that now I knit slower and struggle for even stitches and heartfelt prayers, there has become a greater compassion for others who face physical and spiritual tests. This has opened a door that I have yet to truly enter. I can’t accept my limitations, so it is difficult to honestly minister to others. As I look at my latest half-finished prayer shawl, I realize that God is not finished with me either. I know that I need to keep asking and answering the questions that will reveal a wholeness in this life, but too often the courage is lacking. Let me hear these words: “On God rests my deliverance and my honor; my mighty rock, my refuge is in God.” Psalm 62:7

Food for Thought

According to Eric Weiner in The Geography of Bliss, the following hand-painted sign was seen on the side of road in Bhutan:

"When the last tree is cut,
When the last river is emptied,
When the last fish is caught, only then will man realize that he can not eat money.

Twitter

Old dogs can learn new tricks or this one thinks she can. I am now Twittering. Note that Twitter updates will appear on the sidebar of this blog. It seems that this might be a good way to share links to good stuff and for me to offer some brief thoughts and news. I also want to explore the possibilities of this as a communication tool for the church. I wonder how I will do with this new adventure?

Clergy Home Churches

For various reasons, I recently have been in conversation with those who are beginning their first ministerial appointments. Naming the church that they “came out of” seems always to be part of this. Of course, making such connections is part of South Carolina culture. However, I believe remembering those who have nurtured our call to ministry is an important exercise. It not only gives us a key to who we are, but identifies churches who understand and fulfill their obligation to empower those who have been blessed with special gifts for ministry. I especially think of Socastee UMC who can claim to have called forth at least six ordained clergy in recent years. Personally, I answered a call to ministry while a member of Lexington UMC. What factors make such churches “home” churches for clergy?

I remember Bishop McCleskey reminding clergy to share their personal call story with their congregation at least once a year. This is known to open the door for others to respond to that inner voice that has whispered to their hearts. It seems to be a gift of some clergy to effectively mentor these persons into pursuing ordination. However, it appears to be more often a congregation that is the critical factor for those answering the call to ministry. Persons are encouraged to explore this call through a variety of experiences and are affirmed in their faithfulness.

So, I have to ask –
Am I helping anyone hear a call to ministry? If not, how might I do so?
Why doesn’t First UMC regularly call forth ministers? What must we do to make this happen?

A Hiatus

I didn’t plan a hiatus, it just happened. All at once I was just overwhelmed with lots of busyness and little time for reflection. Bits and pieces of thoughts would drift through my mind as I read and heard of the events of the day, but somehow the habit of developing these into a blog post seemed to be broken. It is now time for me to once again ponder what I am experiencing and to share it with others so that I can ask, “What does God require?” and to claim a clearer understanding of the journey into faithful living.

From family matters to world concerns, the challenge to grow in faith and to act with mercy and justice is ever present. Once again my heart sings, “Precious Lord, take my hand, Lead me on, let me stand.” My story needs to go beyond naming the requirements of God. I need to see and hear the hurts of the world and be a part of the healing. This involves sharing these needs with others and taking risks as I attempt to join the cloud of witnesses who touch the souls of those who need to be reminded of the love of God.

I recently attended the funeral of Delos Corderman, a well-known clergy member of the SC Conference, and heard accounts of how he had led a life of faithful servanthood. His strong perspectives on a wide variety of topics and his willingness to expound upon them often generated criticism from those around him, but he never forgot what he was called to do; i.e., proclaim the Good News. Although he had a variety of pulpits, his ability to genuinely care for others will certainly be remembered as his best sermon, a message always delivered with humor and a chuckle. Delos will be missed, but he left us with the challenge to be informed, to speak with passion about what we believe and to enjoy laughing along the way. A Pilgrim’s Perspective allows me to respond to this challenge, so the hiatus has ended.

Women in Ministry

The greatest joy of ministry is being able to share the news of Easter and yesterday, once again, women were part of telling this story.

Leaders Need Easter

Dan Dick shares a powerful Easter message in his blog. I encourage you to read it all.

"As Christian leaders, we NEED Easter. We need it because it reminds us of who we absolutely must be as clergy and laity guides in the Christian faith. It reminds us that we are entrusted with three (at least…) impossible tasks, made possible by the Lord and Savior we follow. These three irrefutable, unimaginable, and seemingly impossible tasks are:
love sinners
lead change
create a counter-culture"

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A Twist and Turn

The Board of Trustees of Spartanburg Methodist College has been searching for a new president and on Tuesday we were summoned to the college to make the final decision amid discussion that it wasn’t appropriate for us to meet during Holy Week. However, it did provide an interesting time of reflection on many fronts. Wisteria, azaleas, dogwood and other signs of spring along the way offered inspiration for new possibilities not only for me, but also for SMC. In the life of the church, Holy Week can be very demanding. This day away seemed like a gift and a way to focus on the way to Easter.

The Presidential Search Committee reviewed the process and named their selection of Dr. Colleen Perry Keith. The Board of Trustees unanimously approved this choice and look forward to Dr. Keith’s leadership. Her appointment is significant as she will be the first woman president of this institution and her main charge is fundraising. It will be a new day at SMC, one for which Dr. Keith seems to be well prepared. I am excited about the possibilities that are before us.

Spartanburg Methodist Campus

A Charleston Visit

“Charleston – where history lives,” an advertisement line that captures what Ron and I enjoy about this centuries old city and calls us to make periodic visits. Although cloudy and rainy, we ventured forth last Saturday for a Charleston experience. As usual, we walked the streets of The Battery area, peaked through the wrought iron garden gates, checked out unique shops on King St, read historic markers and looked for treasures at The Market. Of course, picking a place to eat was the biggest decision of the day. Fleet Landing was the winner and we enjoyed its waterfront views and well-prepared seafood. All of this is to explain the new banner on my blog.

However, the biggest treat of the day was a visit with Ms. Nell, a former resident of Myrtle Beach who now lives with family on Johns Island. As always, our conversation was stimulating and included many subjects. We looked over the marsh, watched a variety of birds come to the feeders, and admired her lovely new home. Her grace and smile offer joy and hope to all who know her. Thanks, Ms. Nell.

Grandma Jean

“Grandchildren are the crown of the aged” (Proverbs 17:6) Recently, Ron and I enjoyed having our four-year-old grandson, Jack, visit us for a few days. As one might imagine, we had a great time creating good memories for the future. Of course, Ron’s photo blog records much of what we did. However, this picture is one of my favorites and a reminder of my responsibility to be a spiritual guide to Jack, our other grandchildren and all children.

In Psalms 71:17-18 we read:
“O God, from my youth you have taught me,
and I still proclaim your wondrous deeds,
So even to old age and gray hairs,
O God, do not forsake me,
Until I proclaim your might
To all the generations to come”

This is not only our challenge as grandparents, but our sacred responsibility.

A Visit With Norm

What a nice discovery to find that Norm Jones has a blog! Norm was our first Duke Intern five years ago. As with each one since then, we like staying in contact and learning about their ministries. His blog gives us insight into what it is like to be the pastor of a four-point charge and to where his heart is. It is good to know that we have been a part of his journey.

Breaking News!

Few things mandate two blogs in one day, but I just discovered that my favorite political cartoonist, Robert Ariail, is leaving THE STATE. Apparently, he and Brad Warthen, the editorial page editor, are casualities of the economic woes of newspapers. Although, he will still be nationally syndicated, I will miss his insight of local politics. Read Brad Warthen's words about Ariail. This is certainly one change that is difficult to accept. I will be adding his new website to my favorites and suggest that you do, also.

Faithful Parents

In a recent effort to eliminate some of the clutter in my office, I have been reviewing, reorganizing and recycling (throwing or giving away) books, files and projects. Of course, it is hard to part with some things, so it is a slow process that involves a lot of remembering of past days. I have discovered a number of family ministry items that seem to be timeless. Finding ways to remind parents of their contribution to their child's faith development has always been a personal commitment of mine. The following talking points were in a presentation that I did once upon a time about what every child needs to grow in their faith:

-Parents who are comfortable with their faith, ones who read the Bible, pray with their children and use God language.

-Parents who help children make connections between faith and life.

-Participate as a family in the life of a congregation and honor sabbath.

-Have opportunities for faith-building experiences with other adults.

-Have time and space to ask questions about the mystery of God.

-Have opportunities to express themselves in music, art and word.

-Experience wonders of God's Creation.

-Have books to read and read to them.

-Know time, patience and love from those who surround them.

When these needs are met, a legacy of faith is passed on to the next generation. I know this because I had faithful parents.

St Patrick's Day

St, Patrick’s Day evokes memories not only of my Irish ancestry, but also of a wonderful visit to Ireland in 1997. While reminiscing about this trip, I discovered the photo of me wandering through the cemetery at the Rock of Cashel that makes another reflective banner for this blog. Just as my great-grandparents traveled the narrow roads bordered by stone walls and green pastures to find their way to a new life, we, too, were on a journey of discovery. Fascinated by the culture, we explored cities to countryside to learn about a people who have contributed so much to the building of America. The deep and rich perspective of Celtic spirituality has become part of our listening to God as a result this experience and we continue to find God’s grace in the everyday images of humanity and creation expressed in Celtic writings.

This well-known prayer, modeled on the Breastplate hymn of St. Patrick, celebrates Christ in all things.

The Three who are over me,
The Three who are below me,
The Three who are above me here,
The Three who are above me yonder;
The Three who are in earth,
The Three who are in air,
The Three who are in heaven,
The Three who are in the great pouring sea

Lots to think about and celebrate today!

Walking thru Lent

Currently, I am meeting regularly with a person who is in a discernment process before seeking ordination in the Episcopal Church as a deacon. I am not exactly sure how my involvement with this came to be, but what a good experience it is for walking the Lenten path of the Cross. As this is not a set process, we rely on the Spirit to work in and through us. Gary decided to read the Book of Acts during Lent and I was prodded to do this, also. However, we agreed to do this in the manner of lectio divina as outlined in a previous blog. Reading the familiar words in this way is certainly opening our hearts and minds to new possibilities and understandings about what it means to be a deacon. In our world of despair, there is an enormous need for those who know the heart of God to reach out to care, to love, to heal and to offer hope. The promise of the Holy Spirit gives us assurance of being the faithful witnesses that we are called to be. In Acts the repeated links between prayer and the Holy Spirit known in a community of believers, help us accept the challenge of surrendering our lives to the ministry of the diaconate.

This holy season of Lent is passing quickly. I entered into it with dread as I was afraid to intentionally face some of things which seemed to be polluting my soul. Helping Gary find his way has forced me to listen to God and given me a new depth of understanding of my own call to ministry. I find myself at a place that will allow me to more fully enter into the mystery of the passion of Jesus and accept the way of the cross in my own life as Easter approaches. Thanks be to God!

The Take-Away

I am not sure where it began, but during the last year or so the phrase “the take-away” has become an increasingly popular one. Teaching/learning sessions frequently conclude with it and now a daily news program on our local NPR station has it as a title. This leads me to wonder if we shouldn’t ask ourselves about the take-away not only as we preach or teach, but also when we order the life of the church as our efforts to appease various points of view can often leave others wondering what the Gospel message might be.

What’s the take-away when

-we preach matters of stewardship, but fail to consider how we take care of God’screation?
-we teach that Jesus loves all the children, but we do not support measures for adequate education and health care for children within our own state?
-we ask members to be faithful disciples by assuming church leadership roles, then we fail to use their gifts?

During this season of examination, confession and repentance, perhaps we need to daily reflect upon what the take-away has been by those we have encountered in our work and play. Are we living in right relationship with God and others? Are we serving as witnesses to the saving grace of Christ? This kind of preparation might lead us to an authentic celebration of Easter. The take-away is my focus for Lent. What’s yours?

Wesley Study Bible

I have been reading the promos for the Wesley Study Bible for several months, but it was only when I began to read some very positive reviews of it that I decided to buy one. I am not disappointed. This NRSV Bible gives understanding of the Wesleyan faith through text notes that reference the writings of John Wesley and sidebars by Wesley theologians that focus on key terms, like Prevenient Grace, Works of Piety and Sacraments. A third group of notes give insight into faithful discipleship in the Wesleyan tradition. This Bible was edited by Dr. Joel B. Green and Bishop William H. Willimon and published by Abington Press. It would seem to be a wonderful resource for those who lead Bible studies and want to make sure that they are conversant with Wesleyan terms and theology that define Methodism. In fact, I encourage anyone to purchase this Bible and refer readers to Cokesbury for details about it. Please note that the special introductory price of $24.95 is available only until February 28.

This week Larry Hollen has a good review of the Wesley Study Bible on his blog and Bishop Willimon has some interesting thoughts about it on his blog, also. I look forward to using this Bible in the days ahead, especially as I explore the Lenten texts.

Youth Ministry

For ten years, First UMC has had a faithful and dedicated youth director. Then, he was gone. His tenure far exceeded the eighteen months that youth directors usually serve and was ready for a change of focus. We wish him well as he begins his new ministry with children and adults in another church. So we are in the process of finding a replacement. All of this leaves me wondering what should youth ministry in 2009 look like?

First, I applaud the efforts of those who are thoughtfully and prayerfully considering the answer to this question for few things are more hot button within congregations than youth ministry. Everyone has an opinion and it is usually accompanied with quite a bit of emotion. In the past, good youth ministry was primarily programs, events and other gatherings. However, we are told that youth no longer want a cruise director; they want to do things that make a difference like service projects and mission trips. We are realizing that the relationships and role models have the greatest influence on the lives of our youth. Yet, adults seem to have difficulty moving beyond the memories of their own experience and want youth programs to mirror what was important to them. The challenge of bringing these threads of the discussion together seems insurmountable some days. We have a job description that includes everything but walk on water and expectations that are probably not realistic. How do we reconcile the wants and the needs for effective youth ministry? Perhaps, we should listen more closely to what our youth are saying about what they need as they seek spiritual direction and ask only one question of our youth director candidates. Will he/she show our youth Jesus Christ?

Newspapers Then and Now

The conversation continues about the future of newspapers and what this means to our society. This NY Times editorial reminds us of the influence of the newspaper in the past and what their demise might mean. Although I think the writer cites some compelling evidence of the importance of newspapers, I wonder if we already have passed the point of no return for the daily newspaper because of what it is. Most are a part of large media corporations with little investigative reporting or independent thought. Local human interest news often covers the front page and news of real consequence is hard to find. Probably the more significant issue is that of preserving a free press, one that is the voice of, for and by the people. We also need to be concerned about how we synthesize the vast amount of information that is available to us electronically and discern what we do with it. I feel that this is a discussion that should also extend to what we read or hear as church news. However, this is a matter for another day.

FYI – I am still not ready to give up the Sun-News and a cup of coffee each morning. However, I read several newspapers and news sources on-line, also.

A Long Way Gone

In the bestselling book, A Long Way Gone, Ishmael Beah tells about being part of the bloody civil war in his home country of Sierra Leone. A the age of twelve he and several other boys were forced to run for their lives as rebels destroyed the nation. Eventually, he found himself in a village controlled by the national army where he was compelled to join their cause and for over two years he fought for this army, killing and torturing while in a drug-induced haze. It becomes almost too painful to read of whom he was becoming. Suddenly, he is delivered to UNICEF for rehabilitation in Freetown. and the slow journey to recovery begins. Though he was “a long way gone,” the slow journey to healthy self-understanding begins. Although we read some about this time and are in awe of those individuals who are key to his redemption, there remain a lot of elements untold. Beah is still a young man and I would suspect that recovery is an unending story for him. This insight into the lives of many young children caught in the crossfire of political agendas and forced to become soldiers is eye-opening and begs us to be peacemakers. I recommend adding it to your reading list.

Forty-two Years Ago

It is hard to believe that 42years ago today Ron and I were married in the Jeffersonville Methodist Church (a UMC after the 1968 merger) in my Ohio hometown. My mother made my gown; my sister was my only attendant and the wedding created no debts. We said our vows amid family and friends, cut the cake in the fellowship hall in the church basement and left for a brief honeymoon in Lexington, KY. Two sons, two daughter-in-laws, and four grandchildren later we have lots of rich memories of a variety of experiences that have cemented those marital promises. Of course, there have been moments of tension and stress, but somehow we have honored our vows and continue to enjoy traveling life’s journey together. May this be a valuable legacy to our children and grandchildren.

Dan Dick's New Blog

Dan Dick, whose position at the General Board of Discipleship was recently eliminated, is writing a new blog. I understand the need for staff cutbacks during these times, but it would seem that we will miss the important kind of insight that his research provided as we try to respond to the world around us So, I am glad that we can continue to read some of Dan's thoughts such as the this post, “What We’re Not Is As Important As Who We Are.” Through three stories he examines the possibilities that the institutional church excludes instead of welcomes those who are truly seeking spiritual growth. It certainly reminds us to take note of those who are not in our pews and just maybe to do something about it.

A Day of New Beginnings

The psalmist tells us, “This the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” No matter where one’s political heart rests, today is an exciting day for us all. We are part of a democracy that perpetuates itself by the actions of responsible citizens who vote and allow for the transition of leadership to be orderly. Only history will reveal whether the inauguration of Barack Obama has been a defining moment in the life of this country. But one thing is clear, it will only be realized if we each do those things that are needed to build a healthier nation. Let our counsel be our faith as known through Jesus Christ.

These wonderful words of this hymn by Brian Wren (music by Carlton R. Young) come to mind as I try to capture the meaning of this day –

This is a day of new beginnings, time to remember and move on, time to believe what love is bringing, laying to rest the pain that’s gone.

Christ is alive, and goes before us to show and share what love can do. This is a day of new beginnings; our God is making all things new.

News Media Changes

Like many people, I vacillate between embracing change and holding on to the past. One of the greatest examples of this would be how I receive the news. An unbreakable habit seems to be beginning each day with a newspaper (and coffee). Why? Maybe it is just a habit, but I think it is part of an important personal ritual that allows me to know what is happening in the world. The change is that a local newspaper no longer allows much insight into world news or even state news. However, it does allow me to learn how the people of Myrtle Beach are responding to the events and happenings beyond the waterway. Because, a local newspaper reveals so much about a community through its stories, editorial comments and advertisements, its slow demise is painful. Local radio and television stations daily news coverage only offers us the same handful of stories over and over again.

Television’s power to cast an indelible image certainly influences our thought processes and often inspires individual action and commitment. However, the growing tendency for producers to televise stories with very graphic detail has become and should be a parenting issue. Our children need to be aware of news happenings, but only at their level of understanding.

ETV Radio and NPR continue to be great sources for insight into and discussion of current South Carolina and national news stories. Funding struggles often bring changes to personnel and content and I have to adjust.

One aspect of the transition of news coverage of the world that I am enjoying is on-line news. From major newspapers to blog reports, I am gleaning a wide scope of information any hour of the day and almost wherever I happen to be. The overwhelming amount of news available in this way can be mind-boggling.

As a news junkie, I have also read Newsweek since a teenager and know that the words and pictures within have been important to my understanding of my place in the world. I have noticed that it no longer seems to cover a variety of stories, but focuses on a topic. A Washington Post article explains the change that news magazines are undergoing. It will be interesting to see their place develop as a source of cultural reflection and shaping. For the time being, I will continue to renew my subscription.

Karl Barth, a great Christian theologian of the Twentieth Century, often referenced the importance of reading the newspaper in one hand the Bible in the other hand. Although a Blackberry may replace the newspaper, it would seem that this directive continues to be important as we live into faithful discipleship. In many ways, Paul’s letters were news accounts (although biased) of what was happening in the world and helped the early Christians to respond.

As citizens of a democracy we know freedom of the press. In these most important days for our country, it is our responsibility to make sure that we maintain this constitutional right. It would seem to insure this, we need to keep being discerning consumers of all forms of news media.

Warm Thoughts

The weather might be leaving many of us chilled, but our hearts are being warmed by some of the current news stories. The “miracle on the Hudson” has allowed us to believe in what seems unbelievable and has reminded us in so many ways of whom we need to be. We are also being captivated by the stories that are surrounding the upcoming inauguration of Barack Obama as our president. Political preferences aside, this historic moment is one that fulfills the vision of our democracy, a government for and by all the people. In the midst of these stories, we also remember an important voice that has helped lead us to this place in our history, Martin Luther King, Jr. For a number of years, United Methodist Bishop Woodie White has written a birthday letter to Martin as reflection on racial equality. Of course, this year’s letter is about Barack Obama. The weather may be cold, but warm thoughts are allowing many of us to let new ideas grow in our minds and hearts for the days ahead. Praise the Lord!

Full Moon

As the skies darkened tonight, a nearly full moon caught my attention. I prevailed upon Ron to capture this beautiful sight with his camera so that I could share it. The official full moon is tomorrow night, but the weather forecast indicates that we might not see much of it in Myrtle Beach. The moon in any stage can capture our imagination and cause us to cast poetic thoughts into our conversation and writing. I envy those who can include such moments in poems and prose. However, I can enjoy reflecting on its beauty both today and days past, especially the memories of a winter moon reflecting across the snow covered fields of the family farm in Ohio. Tonight’s moon reminds me of Andrew Wyeth’s Full Moon, a print hanging in my home for many years. There are many biblical references to the moon including Psalm 8:3-4 telling us of God's creative power and goodness. Watching this bright solitary light climb across the silent winter sky seems to be a precursor of the healing that night can bring to the soul. May it be so.

Snowbirds Have Arrived!

The snowbirds have once again migrated to Myrtle Beach. Each winter we welcome our friends from the North who come to enjoy our weather and golf. Over the years our Snowbird and Seagull Ministry at First Church has provided a sense of community for many of them. Locals also enjoy making new friends and participating in this fellowship time. Making sure that we continue to have a viable program is one of my responsibilities and since this is one of many programs that I am to make sure happens, I have had to practice what I preach. That is, I have had to establish a committee, define its tasks and delegate, delegate and delegate. It has been a joy to watch this particular group learn to take charge of meals, programs, golf and outings. Dabney, our program assistant, is also an important part of assuring and assisting these leaders in whatever need they have. All of this is to say, each of us – lay and clergy – can discover new ways of being effective servant leaders if we accept change and possibility in our lives. I am learning a lot from my older friends.

Mister Rogers' Neighborhood

Matters that affect children always interest me, but my grandchildren give me more reason to be tuned in to what is being said and written about children’s well being. Thus, a recent commentary about the demise of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood on PBS caught my attention. Although Fred Rogers was often the basis for jokes and laughs, most of us realized that his gentle, caring manner taught our children more about healthy living than most any other television programming. His signature statement, “I like you just the way you are,” has enhanced self-esteem for several generations of children. In his absence, parents and teachers may need to be more attentive to doing this for today's children.

Danny Duncan Collum writes in Sojourners:
"Apparently there will never again be room in the mainstream of American culture for children's programming that is mostly about unquantifiable intangibles such as truth, beauty and love."

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Daily Bread

With the beginning of the New Year, I am looking forward to encountering my journey with renewed energy. Although there will be a certain amount of high-level activity, it is the intentional refueling of the heart and mind that will give me nourishment for the days ahead. In no particular order, the initial efforts include:

Reading – A Long Way Gone by Ishmael Beah. Upon completion, I am sure that I will be sharing my thoughts about this remarkable account.
Family and friends – Lots of good conversations both in person and via phone. I really need to be more attentive to these relationships through regular contacts and visits as they allow me to understand in so many ways who I am and need to be.
Eating and Exercise – I have been enjoying good, healthy meals and know that lots of fruits and vegetables need to be part of my diet. Although we have not been to the gym for two weeks, we are faithfully walking through the neighborhood.
Study – I am preparing a four-part study “How the Bible Shapes My Faith?” and a homily for Seagull-Snowbird worship service. As usual, I am gaining the most.

However, as I reflect on what really does give me real energy and nourishment on my journey, I once again discover that there is a very real and trustworthy source of renewable energy. This source comes straight from God and can be drawn upon in times of silence, stillness and prayer. It also comes in unexpected encounters with God’s surprises. Every day offers a new opportunity to be nourished, to receive my “daily bread.”

New Beginnings

"For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice
And to make an end is to make a beginning."

-T.S. Eliot,
from his poem, "Little Gidding"

Reading these words was a gift as I was trying to fulfill my resolution to be more attentive to this blog and my efforts at profound reflection or insightful prognostication were going nowhere. So I have not only spent the day packing away Christmas decorations, but also have allowed my heart and mind to discover the excitement of new beginnings in 2009.

"In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things came into being through him, and without him not one thing came into being. What has come into being in him was life, and the life was the light of all people. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not overcome it.”
- John 1:1-5