Labor Day Thoughts

As I prepared my sermon about our daily work for today, I read a lot of interesting things. I learned that “vacation deficit disorder” is very prevalent in the U.S. Not only do we accrue fewer vacation days than our counterparts in other industrialized countries, but also one-third of adults do not use their allotted time. We know that our bodies, minds and spirits have to be recharged, but we fail to set aside time to do this. Why don’t we? How can we counter the mindset that discourages taking time off? Just as our work is to please God, so is our rest and relaxation. In taking time for re-creation we can be present to God in important ways. Together, we need to work to remove this stumbling block on our spiritual journey. Perhaps, we should ponder this as we celebrate Labor Day.

An Ohio Trip

As summer wanes, we have traveled to Ohio for a few days of family and fun. Along the way I saw a framed sampler in a gift shop that said, "Family is where your story begins". How true! Each twist and turn of our travel has recalled memories of people, events, and me in days past. I long ago discovered that this kind of trip is an important one to take. Putting myself into the family story in this very real way gives valuable insight into how I think, react, and relate. It also reminds me of how God's love and grace have been shared with me in very significant ways.

With one ear to weather in Myrtle Beach, we began our journey home yesterday afternoon. We are glad to hear that there are few lingering effects of Ernesto in MB. However, it would appear that we will get to experience some of the rain as we attempt to do some sightseeing on the way home. One thing I also learned in my Ohio days was the importance of being flexible when it comes to planning.

New Sunday School Year

I was most pleased to see so many familiar and new faces as our new Sunday school year began yesterday. In fact, there were 424 of them. What a good affirmation of this important part of our church life.

Our children's teachers have created a wonderfully welcoming space in the Wesley Building. This dedicated group of teachers provides an exciting experience for our children. Following the Exploring Faith curriculum, they offer the stories of faith both in traditional and in new ways. Fun and fellowship are always part of their time together. Parents can preview or review story by noting in THE STEEPLE their child's weekly lesson.

Youth and adult classes are also setting their course for the coming months. Although we have a great group of teachers/leaders, new teaching voices are always welcome. I must work on helping give some of these prospective teachers the tools and confidence that they need to do this.

On September 10th a new adult class for any age or stage of life will begin under the leadership of Ron Carpenter. This newly formed group will study Noah Built His Ark in the Sunshine by James W. Moore. The book jacket says, "Noah trusted God enough to prepare in advance for the coming storms. We, too, can reach Noah's level of spiritual maturity." After this, the class will decide what their next study will be. My prayer is that we will be able to help some more adults discover new understanding of their faith through this class. It is great to be a part of a church that values its education ministry, especially Sunday school.

Stained Glass Ceiling

Today a New York Times article reported on the stained glass ceiling that clergywomen experience in their ministry. After fifty years one would think that United Methodist clergywomen would not encounter this. However, I know that they do. Personally, being a deacon is more of a stumbling block than being a woman. I am always last in the chain and have been told that I will always be paid less than an elder, no matter the experience or responsibilities. However, I am blessed to be at a church that values my ministry and gives me an opportunity to fulfill my calling.

Internet Socializing

The Internet has become an important social network for over 100 million persons through MySpace. Teenagers use this website to communicate with friends and to develop new friendships. However, as recent news stories have revealed, online predators are using this to seek new prey. Also, MySpace can become a major distraction in the life of the user. Internet use as social contact has become a parenting issue, one that needs education and discussion.

Three of us attended a Christian Educators Fellowship meeting in Columbia on Thursday to learn more about safe Internet socializing. The speaker was a technology specialist from the State Dept.of Education and an active member of his local United Methodist Church. We want to share this information with our youth and their parents. The first step will be to discuss this matter at our parent roundtable on Wednesday, September 20. Together, maybe we can offer our youth important guidance.

Family "Back to School" Prayer

This was distributed to families attending the Back to School Supper and CDM Open House last Wednesday evening. I hope all families offer such prayers as the school year begins.

God of all learning, we pray for your blessing on this new school year. May (child’s name) know your presence as he/she begins this day. We are all excited and a bit scared, but we do give thanks for you always being with us. As parents, guide our judgment and understanding as we seek ways to grow our children. We ask for your protection throughout the day.

Be with all teachers and students today so that they know your wisdom. Let words spoken be gentle and actions nurturing. May mistakes be learning experiences and may forgiveness always be on all our lips. Fill our hearts with your love and help us to share it with others. In the name of Jesus, our teacher and Lord. Amen

Confirmation Begins

Tonight I met with our new 6th graders and their parents to discuss the confirmation experience. As we have done for the past several years, our youth will be prepared for confirmation during the Sunday school hour beginning this week. Confirmation Sunday will be on May 13, 2007. The curriculum includes a wide variety of subjects that will help the confirmand claim their baptismal vows for themselves. Rachel Platt and Doug Baxter are the resident teachers. The clergy are responsible for this class and give leadership throughout the year.

I look forward to being with our confirmands each year and learning who they are. It is exciting to see them grow in their understanding of Christianity. A significant part of this year is the relationship they develop with their mentors. These adults share their faith with the confirmands and together they explore what it means to be a United Methodist. We repeatedly speak of the journey of faith and how it is a continuing one. The challenge for us is to help them to be excited about what this means for their lives into the future. This is truly one of my favorite responsibilities. May these youth be in the prayers of parents, mentors and the congregation throughout the year.

Wedding Memories

Saturday evening I officiated at a wedding. Several months ago a delightful young couple asked to be married in our sanctuary, but neither Ken nor Scarlett could be present. Therefore, I was pressed into service. I usually avoid being involved with weddings unless they are to include someone who is near and dear to me. However, I agreed to marry them. We did the usual pre-wedding counseling and reviewed the wedding vows. Terry, the wedding director, made sure that everything was in order for the day. All seemed to be ready. However, when I arrived at the church, I was told we had a problem. This was not what I wanted to hear. We had a bridegroom that was overly anxious and had probably celebrated the occasion a little too much. For the next hour we reviewed our possibilities as to how we could preserve this wedding. He wanted to proceed and we outlined several changes that we might make during the ceremony, if needed. By this time, I am not sure who was more nervous, the groom or the minister. However, all went well. It was a beautiful wedding and I trust that the bride and groom are now enjoying their honeymoon. I think I will return to my usual roles of ministry.

The involvement in any wedding causes me to remember my own wedding and weddings of my sons. Fortunately, these are pleasant memories and ones I like to recall. However, I am really concerned about the failure of so many marriages and wonder if weddings contribute to this. For months the bride and groom overly plan every detail of the day and spend lavishly on every aspect of the wedding. Often they create a fantasy wedding that does not prepare them for the reality of a less than perfect marriage. How can we not feed this cultural phenomenon of extravgant weddings, but rather encourage thoughtful preparation for marriage?

A Social Justice Matter

According to a recent article in Sojourner's magazine-

"Farm workers who pick tomatoes for McDonald's sandwiches earn 40 to 50 cents for every 32-pound bucket of tomatoes they pick, a rate that has not risen significantly in nearly 30 years. Workers who toil from dawn to dusk without the right to overtime pay or any benefits must pick two tons of tomatoes to earn $50 in one day. Worse yet, modern-day slavery has reemerged in Florida's fields; since 1997, the U.S. Department of Justice has prosecuted five slavery rings, freeing more than 1,000 workers. As a major buyer of Florida tomatoes, McDonald's high-volume, low-cost purchasing practices place downward pressure on farm worker wages, putting corporate profits before human dignity."

I am sure that there are two sides to this story. However, any system that robs persons of their dignity needs review. The tomato supply chain for our food market seems to repeatedly come under fire. Something must not be right in this matter. It is our responsibility to learn about this and to act, if so indicated.

Clergy Women Gather

From United Methodist News Service:

More than 1,500 United Methodist pastors from around the globe met Aug. 13-17 in Chicago for the 2006 International Clergywomen's Consultation, with the theme,"The Spirit of God Is Upon Us: Celebrating Our Courageous Past - Claiming Our Bold Future." The women discussed challenges and opportunities and marked the 50th anniversary of full clergy rights for women in the denomination. Bishop Hope Morgan Ward of Jackson, Miss., invited the women to look within themselves "to see, to renew that call again, to hear that voice of God speaking to us again." The event was coordinated by the United Methodist Board of Higher Education and Ministry.

Scarlett attended this consultation and reports that it was a wonderful experience. I can't wait to hear more of the details and impressions from her point of view. I usually have found these kind of events to be very transforming and trust that it was the same for her.

Happy Birthday

As I opened the door of the church this morning, my cell phone rang. How wonderful to hear William's voice singing Happy Birthday followed by "I love you, Grandma." That was the best present I could have. It was a great beginning to a busy day.

Now at the close of the day, I can give thanks for hearing God's word in so many ways. Through worship and fellowship, I was renewed. Through our Council on Ministries planning session, I heard God's voice in the possibilities for the days ahead. And, phone conversations with family tonight reminded me of God's abiding love. Yes, it was a Happy Birthday.

Football Fever

The perennial disease, Ohio State football fever, that hits our home every year is about to strike. The symptoms are now prevalent. Polls are being read, statistics being quoted and bios of players are being recited. The countdown is on and only thirteen days to the first game. After following the recruiting and signing of players and reading about spring practices, the opening kick-off is much anticipated. Will the Woody Hayes tradition being upheld? I don’t think that there is any known cure for this particular strain of football fever, but one Script Ohio certainly is an effective antidote to bring it under control. Go, Bucks!

Family Photo Album

Our son, Daniel, has given us a wonderful gift over the past three and one-half years. He created and has maintained a website that has allows the family to post pictures, especially those of our grandchildren. We have also shared old family photos on this site. It truly has become the family photo album.

Visiting this website daily keeps us in touch with our children and grandchildren. We feel very present in their lives as we view their latest smiles, activities and antics. It enhances our distant grandparenting as we get to know each child. And, what a morale booster in the midst of an overwhelming day to click on a cute picture! Not only do we enjoy this, but also our extended family in distant places finds pleasure in logging on to this site. It certainly helps us all stay connected. Being family in the 21st Century is not easy, but has some interesting new ways to strengthen the ties. Thanks to Daniel and Shannon we constantly have new images and insights of our grandchildren and other family members.

Thoughts about the News

There appears to be a major break in the JonBenet murder case. It certainly would be great for this horrible crime to be solved. However, once again the TV press is putting this front and center to the exclusion of stories of war, terrorism, human rights and other matters that probably have a more profound effect on the world. I feel like something of importance is going on behind my back as the press is not keeping watch for me. A whole evening of one news story that has few verifiable facts at this point is ridiculous. Since TV news is the main source of information for many persons, a limited view of what is happening in the world is presented and we will all suffer because of it. This is another reason we must have good newspapers. On-line ones count.

I found Issac Bailey’s blog to be very interesting today. It was about the Confederate flag. Some issues are not going away until we do the right thing even if it's in the name of athletics.

Sunday Night Check -In

Last night our son, Robert, called us. This was not for any specific reason. He called us because he usually calls us on Sunday night and he knew it was time to check-in with his parents. This habit began when he first went to college. We soon discovered that Sunday night was a good time for him to check-in and let us know what was happening at Clemson. Seventeen years later, Robert is still calling us from Clemson. I wish that I had kept a diary of those phone calls. We have heard about classes, roomates and friends, career choices, football, canoeing, Wesley Foundation, Kristen, summer jobs, football, graduate school, Kristen, employment possibilities, new job, Kristen, wedding, travel, home buying, do-it-yourself projects, engineering in the real world and children. Now this Sunday night ritual includes their children, Annaka and Jack. Through the marvels of technology we talk to them via the computer as though they were in our living room. It is fun to talk with Robert and Kristen and to have children's voices interjected into the conversation. Sunday night is much anticipated at our house for we know we will have special family time in the style of the 21st century.

Soul Cafe

I visited my favorite soul café today…my home. No alarm, no schedule, no make-up. Lots of good coffee, food and conversation with my best friend, Ron, interspersed with the rhythm of Saturdays…wash the bed linens, iron some clothes, care for the houseplants, dust and vacuum, enjoy the gentle rain and read a chapter in a novel. Yet, all the while, I experienced a time of reflection. Each day, each week, each season, each lifetime has purpose and meaning and is filled with blessings. Lost in this thought I was able to touch and be touched by a God who keeps on feeding my soul.

P.S. My parents are celebrating their 62nd wedding anniversary today. What a lesson in faithful living they have been to us.

Ethan is 5 months old

Our grandson, Ethan, is an important reminder of why I can't give up when the stories of war, death, child abuse and terrorism dominate my days. I want him to remember me as one who worked for peace and justice in such a time. I want him to inherit a world that honors God's creation and to know the hope offered through Jesus Christ. May his life be guided by the Holy Spirit. Ethan calls me to answer my call to be a grandmother that gives him a legacy of faithful living.

Safe Sanctuaries

Today I was at Lexington UMC for Safe Sanctuaries training. I am very familiar with the policies and procedures that are part of this program that helps churches reduce the risk of child abuse. In fact, I helped create the guidelines that we use at First Church as we strive to be a safe place for our children and youth. However, I have been asked to help other churches develop their policies and needed this refresher class to be better prepared to do so. Almost immediately I realized that it is time that we review our policies and check that we are following them.

Some interesting facts to consider:

• Every church is at risk to be a site of child abuse.
• Less than 20% of child abuse is perpetuated by strangers.
• 1 out of 3 girls will be sexually abused by the age of 18.
• 1 out of 6 boys will be sexually abused by the age of 18.
• 3 million incidents of child abuse are reported each year in this country. That equates to one incident every 10-12 seconds around the clock, seven days a week
• The legal costs of accusation of sexual abuse is $500,000 to 1 million dollars.

The Gospel of Jesus Christ calls us to welcome children and to offer unconditional love and care of them. Unfortunately, some of our churches have failed to be vigilant in assuring this. Let us not be one of them.

What I Am Reading

This week's Newsweek's cover story about Billy Graham is filled with humility and warmth. He speaks with wisdom that only age can reveal. I was especially touched by his obvious love for his wife, Ruth.

I continue to try to understand the latest chapter in the Israel's border wars. My heart hurts for the destruction of innocent lives, especially the children. Joe Hale's commentary offered through United Methodist News Service is thought provoking. He asks, "Is it ever possible to make peace by destroying bridges?" We must be in prayer daily for peace.

I have just started reading Abide with Me by Elizabeth Strout and am enjoying it. Her style of writing allows the story to unfold with quiet fullness and power. It feels good to take time to read some good fiction.

Dancing With God 2006

Dancing With God once again offered women in attendance an opportunity to look at their souls and claim their spiritual selves. The Rev. Patricia Parrish gave us the perfect words about what it means to dance with God in our opening worship. Workshops on various topics from addictive behavior to Mary Magdalene allowed us to reflect on our personal spiritual health. A service of Holy Communion sent us forth to live as sisters in Christ. I was left with a sense of peace about our effort to touch God and to be touched by God.

But, I wonder...
-how can we invite more women to dance with God every day?
-what new steps do women need to be learning?
-do we effectively encourage women to practice this dance?
-who is God calling into leadership of this ministry?

Hot Days and Other Matters

Why haven’t I been blogging? Sometimes there seems to have been little to say. Death and destruction in the Middle East is beyond reason and words. Hot, humid days seems to have melted my mind at times. Grandchildren have been welcome distractions. Preaching a sermon and preparing for Dancing with God have occupied my days. However, I have thought about our Asbury Hills campers, family ministry, confirmation classes, safe sanctuary policies, tween needs and teacher enrichment. I look out my office window and see the Pavilon. It has become representative of change in our lives and asks the question – what is God calling us to do next?

Middle East War

Like others, I have been attentively watching, hearing and reading the media coverage of the latest war in the Middle East. Remnants of past military encounters litter the scene as new bombs explode destroying the fragile peace that has existed in Lebanon, Palestine and Israel recently. I wonder isn't there a better way to combat terriorism? The violence of Hezbollah and Hamas is to be condemned. Although I affirm Israel’s existence and right to live in peace, I do wonder if the excessive retaliation of Israel that has followed has been necessary. I think it means I don’t really comprehend the complexity of the situation. I do believe that I have to keep trying to understand and remember that there are many Arab Christians in this region, also. Many of them are now in need of humanitarian aid as their homes and livelihoods have been destroyed. Are we not called to hear their voices also as we seek a cease-fire and a solution to this conflict? May our prayers be for courageous and moral leadership as the world community demands peace and justice.

A Busy Week

We have been busy saying goodbye to Rebecca, our Duke intern. She will leave us after worship on Sunday. In ten short weeks she has become one of us and we will miss her. Not only have we been able to provide her with a varied field experience, but also she has helped us to understand the process of answering the call to ministry. We will look forward to knowing where God leads her.

Church camp is more than canoeing, creek hiking and vespers. It means lots of forms to be completed and getting all of this in order for our campers seems always to mean a flurry of activity at the last moment. This week has been no exception. Thank heavens for e-mail and FAX machines. I am so glad that we have a busload of children going to Asbury Hills. The generosity of others has made this possible.

This is the season of planning and reorganization. Making sure that teachers and curriculum are in place for Sunday school, organizing small groups studies, and scheduling Wednesday Night Fellowship and other programs fills my days. Participation in this part of church life continues to grow. However, we need to encourage other persons to experience structured study as we seek to strengthen this part of the Body of Christ.

I seem to enjoy good health. However, periodically I do have to check on how this 6o year old body is doing. So, this week I visited Dr. Butler and Dr. Smith. My teeth and eyes got at good report and once again I give thanks for good health.

Today I am going to retreat to finish a sermon for Monday night. May God's Word inspire me.

Wesley's Wisdom

The news headlines of each day seem to leave us feeling like we are living under a cloud of despair and discouragement. Yet, we know that we are called to offer hope by sharing the gifts we have been given. How? Perhaps the familiar words of John Wesley answer this question.

"Do all the good you can,
By all the means you can,
In all the ways you can,
In all the places you can,
At all the times you can,
To all the people you can,
As long as every you can."

Reduce, Reuse, Recycle

Ron's commitment to environmental issues moved to a new level today when he taught the Brittain Sunday School Class. I know that he was out of his comfort zone doing this. However, he is zealous about caring for God's creation and wants everyone to "reduce, reuse, recycle". He opened with the Native American Prayer found in the UM Hymnal (329).

O Great Spirit,
whose breath gives life to the world,
and whose voice is heard in the soft breeze:
We need your strength and wisdom.
Cause us to walk in beauty. Give us eyes
ever to behold the red and purple sunset.
Make us wise so that we may understand
what you have taught us.
Help us learn the lessons you have hidden
in every leaf and rock.
Make us always ready to come to you
with clean hands and steady eyes,
so when life fades, like the fading sunset,
our spirits may come to you without shame. Amen.

The CNN Earth Day quiz reminded the class of some of the issues that we are facing as we deplete our natural resources by conspicious consumption. Ex: Oil production has peaked in 15 of the 23 top oil producing countries.

Ron also said that we have lost a sense of awe in God's creation and that we have forgotten how to listen to nature. For instance, butterflies with their acute sensitivity to pesticides and toxins, their presence, diversity and relative abundance indicate the overall well-being of our ecosystems. His personal conviction of this has been strengthened by exploring our backyard through the lens of a camera. He has created a photo blog of his findings.

"The earth is the Lord's and all that is in it, the world, and those who live in it." Psalm 24:1

10 Commandments of Parenting

Being able to share good parenting and grandparenting information is important to me as I seek ways to help strengthen families. Sometimes it means returning to the basics as known through scripture. According to Frank Bernat, senior associate minister of Roswell UMC, these parenting tips may be passed on as a spiritual legacy from generation to generation.

1. Teach them, using God’s Word (Deut. 6:6-9)
2. Tell them what’s right and wrong (Prov. 22:6)
3. See them as gifts from God. (Ps. 127:3-5)
4. Guide them in godly ways. (Prov. 4:1-2)
5. Discipline them. (Deut 21:18-19)
6. Love them unconditionally. (1 Cor. 13:4-7)
7. Do not provoke them to wrath. ( Eph. 6:4)
8. Earn their respect by example. (Titus 2:7)
9. Provide for their physical needs (Tim. 5:8)
10. Pass your faith along to them (2 Tim. 1:13)

WMC News

Given the global headlines of the week, news from the World Methodist Conference is especially interesting. I assume that the multi-cultural worship and fellowship must give participants a greater understanding of peace and justice issues that threaten our world. I look forward to Ken's report of this event.

Funerals

Of course, we encounter some interesting challenges and conversations when planning funerals with families. However, I don't think we have had ice cream truck or marching band requests as noted in this article . After chuckling my way through this article, I do think that perhaps we need to rethink some of the traditions of funerals. If it is to be a celebration of life, why do we usually sing somber music? Who says black is the color of the day? Yet, we do not want to hide the pain, the sorrow and sadness. A period of mourning is known to be important to the grief process that leads us into blessed assurance that there is eternal life. We know healing power through caring and loving people who wrap their arms around us, love us, cry with us, laugh with us and pray for us. Jesus meets us and offers us comfort and hope. Alleluia!

Rebecca Preaches

On Monday evening during our contemporary worship service, our Duke Seminary intern preached her first sermon. Rebecca blessed us with her message and we left feeling that we had been part of a special experience. Her presence among us has helped us remember that God uses us to call forth our ministers. In addition, we have a responsibility to nurture and love them into their ministry. Our congregational support of Rebecca has been exemplary. We will miss her when she returns to Duke, but we know that she has become a part of who we are and for this we give thanks.

World Methodist Conference

Ken is flying to Korea today to be a part of the 19th World Methodist Conference. This assembly represents 76 denominations with roots in the Methodist movement meets every five years. The focus will be on crucial issues facing Methodists worldwide. Our prayers go with him and may this experience be a blessing to him and to us.

Environmental Matters

Environmental matters are once again in the forefront of our thinking. Our dependence on foreign oil and the resulting higher prices at the gas pump have been a wake up call to the mulititude of issues that are moving us toward ecological disaster. It has been interesting to read the current issue of NEWSWEEK and to learn that a number of Americans are taking conservation seriously. I also hope to see the Tom Brokaw report about global warming Sunday evening. Friends tell me that Al Gore's film, "An Inconvenient Truth" is a must see, also. Remembering that "the earth is the Lord's and the fullness therein", the UMW Action Alert in May, 2006 is a good overview of this climate change issue and what we can do. As enviromentalists tell us, it is the time to reduce, reuse, recycle.

VBS Postscript

Ron has captured a sense of VBS in video clips and posted them on the church webpage. Our VBS was a wonderful example of lay leadership and intergenerational ministry at its best. A high standard has been set for such future events.

A Great Week!

We are having a great time discovering God's promises this week in our VBS experience. It is wonderful to have children, parents, grandparents and others gather to explore God's Word. I do so enjoy this "family" style VBS, especially having the fathers and grandfathers being such a visible part of it. What an important message they are sending to all the children about their role in nurturing faith.

A New U.S.Citizen

Yesterday, Scarlett and I celebrated with Mira, one of our nursery workers, and her co-workers at CDM. Seven years ago she came to America from Albania. Monday, Mira, her husband and adult son became US citizens. Words of congratulations brought tears of happiness (hers and ours) as she shared what it means to be a citizen. After years of living under communism, she truly appreciates the freedoms she knows here and wants each of us to remember this blessing that we have. Another son will soon come from Albania to join them. What a humbling and important few minutes we spent with her.

A Living Church

Written on a piece of paper tucked in one of my books, I rediscovered this snippet of wisdom -

"The superficial church ignores its members gifts. The cannibal church devours its members to keep itself going. But the living church multiples the gifts it is given and blesses the lives that are offered."

This week we are truly being a living church. Last night we had 180 children, 13 youth and 86 adults in VBS classes. There were probably 60-80 other adults who assisted with meals, security, teaching, recreation, crafts, childcare, story time, music etc. The smiles and chatter witnessed to blessings being received.

Methodists Blogging

Methodists around the world are blogging and the UM Reporter has an interesting article about this. Some feel that this form of communication could have an important influence on the the polilty of the church. For this to happen, bloggers must commit to healthy dialogue and not just tirades of uninformed opinion. I wonder is blogging cutting edge or a passing fad?

VBS 2006

Vacation Bible School as we know it today got its start in the late 1800’s when Mrs. Walker Aylette Hawes rented a saloon to run a Bible School on New York City’s East Side. She provided a structured program for immigrant children in the slums that focused on Bible stories, games, crafts, drawing, etc. When Mrs. Hawes retired several years later she was presiding over seven separate schools. This idea quickly spread throughout communities across the country and a summer tradition was soon established.

Shelly, Alex and many others are busy preparing for next week’s VBS at First UMC. Adventure of the Treasure Seekers will be the theme. Children, youth and adults will be exploring God’s promises through a variety of activities all centered in Scripture. Fellowship and fun will be important ingredients as church members and visitors gather each evening. The meals are planned, the eye-catching decorations are nearly finished, crafts planned, Bible stories studied and music practiced. It is exciting to present the Word in this way and to know that we have a great opportunity to provide an important experience for those participating makes it even more significant. What a joy to be in ministry with those who share their time and talents so willingly so that VBS can happen in a special way.

Pantomine Lifes

L. Gregory Jones, Dean of Duke Divinity School, recently wrote in Christian Century about the life of pantomine that many of us live. His antidote is cultivating holy friends that can hold us accountable and help us discern God's work in our lives. He maintains that "the challenges and affirmations from holy friends cause our world to enlarge again, and they call us to dream God's dreams in new ways that give life and offer hope to others." His thoughts have encouraged me to try to be more intentional about nurturing holy friendships.

Fourth of July

As the day ends with fireworks across the sky, I give thanks that the sights and sounds are of celebration and not of war. Isn't wonderful that we pause to reflect with patriotic fervor the basic tenets of our political being and remember our founding fathers (and mothers)? We are inspired to public declaration of our freedoms and resulting moral convictions. In doing so we often struggle with the separation of church and state issues and the reality that freedom of religion reaches beyond Christianity. However, as Christians, we do understand that with this freedom comes the requirements of "do justice, love kindness and walk humbly with God" (Micah 6:8)

"....long may our land be bright with freedom's holy light; protect us by thy might, great God, our King." (My Country, 'Tis of Thee)

UMCOR

UMCOR has been named by Newsweek as one of the big names in Katrina Relief. This was part of their special "Giving Back" issue that told of people who generously devote themselves to others. See UMC news release about this, also. It was interesting to note that this was published just before Warren Buffett's big announcement about giving billions of dollars to the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation so he was not listed in this article.

Both of these stories remind me of the importance of the altruistic spirit that has been so important to this country and how I have been benefited from this. The Carnegie Public Library in my hometown helped open my mind to a world beyond Dick and Jane readers. I remember a dedicated group of persons that fought a fierce political battle to better our local schools. One of those persons was my father. My grandfather was instrumental in establishing 4-H clubs in my community. At one time I directed the Retired Senior Volunteer Program in the Richland/Lexington County area. I meet many persons from 65-90+ years of age who gave hundreds of hours each year to schools and other non-profit organizations. Their efforts
improved the quality of life in their hometowns. They taught me a lot about selfless giving. The list is long when I stop to think about those who I know who could be nominated for "giving back" awards. It is a call to think about my own servanthood.

Anniversary

A year ago this week I began writing this blog as a way of journaling my thoughts and sharing them with others. As a Christian educator, I was hopeful that this would be a way of offering some information that would be helpful to others on their faith journey. In some way, perhaps there would be a little light in my blog for those knowing darkness. Also, I had hoped that this would encourage a dialogue that would widen the scope of the topic presented. I am not sure that I can say my goals have been achieved, but I can say that blogging has been an important discipline for me. It has caused me to regularly reflect on a variety of everyday issues and to name them as faith matters.

What’s next after 210 posts? I think I will continue with this for awhile. As our church moves forward with some long range planning, this could be a place for conversation about what God needs us to be doing. Together, perhaps we can explore some of the complicated issues that are part of our culture especially as they relate to our faith. Christian values do include peace and justice issues, healthcare, human rights and environmental stewardship. I also plan to offer more reviews of books in our library. I live in hope.

Being

Be still, and know that I am God!
Be still, and know that I am
Be still, and know
Be still
Be

Elizabeth J. Canham
A Table of Delight

Friends and Neighbors

I have read several articles recently that have affirmed what I have been sensing for some time. We are becoming an isolated people with frayed social ties. The Washington Post reported on Friday that this growing trend has resulted in a quarter of Americans saying that they have no one to discuss personal troubles. Reflection on how many of us live our lives make this a plausible statistic. It also helps us understand the popularity of small group ministries within growing churches. The opportunity to build personal relationships makes this focus very attracting to folks needing confidants with whom to share their thoughts and concerns. It would appear that this issue of social isolation needs attention in our cultural institutions, including our churches.

I Wonder

Shai sent me the following and I found it to be thought provoking.

I wonder what would happen if we treated our Bible like we treat our cell phones?

What if we carried it around in our purses or pockets?
What if we turned back to go get it if we forgot it?
What if we flipped through it several times a day?
What if we used it to receive messages from the text?
What if we treated it like we couldn't live without it?
What if we gave it to kids as gifts?
What if we used it as we traveled?
What if we used it in case of an emergency?
What if we upgraded it to get the latest version?

This is something to make you go...hmmm...where is my Bible?

Oh, and one more thing. Unlike our cell phone, we don’t ever have to worry about our Bible being disconnected because Jesus already paid the bill!

Healthy Eating Habits

At one time in my life I was a home economist and some of that knowledge resurfaces in my mind from time to time, especially when I see children feasting on fast food. Although, I know it is dated information, many of the basic principles remain the same. The importance of eating habits and its correlation to our health is an example. Articles about encouraging children to eat healthy food are everywhere. Yet, I know parents who are nearly obsessive about many aspects of their children lives, but allow their children to exist on french fries, sugar and little else. Homestyle cooking has some pitfalls also. Especially, menus that include overcooked vegetables and lots of starch can deprive a child of nutritious foods. This website has some good information. Also, I have heard several good programs on Parent's Journel discuss these matters. My ministry with children and their families may need to take on new dimensions.

Wesley Choral Festival

Scarlett sent me the web link that advertises the Wesley Choral Festival at Lincoln Center in February. Impressive to know a couple of these musicians. Hope a number of our choir members will be able to make the trip. I understand Ken and Scarlett will be there to applaud their efforts. I guess that means I'll be in Myrtle Beach. Tim better leave someone behind to lead the singing on that day.

http://www.musiccelebrations.com/wesley_choral_festival.html

Clergy Facts

Interesting to note the following statistics as the United Methodist Church celebrates the 50th year of full clergy rights for women.

- 18.5 percent of all United Methodist clergy are women.

- 14 percent of all ordained elders are women.

- 75.3 percent of all ordained deacons are women.

- 21 percent off all district superintendents are women.

- 22 percent of all United Methodist bishops are women.

- 36 percent of all student in degree programs at seminaries are women.

Long Range Planning

The First UMC Long Range Planning Committee met last week for the first time in over four years. The main topics of discussion were why and how we need to plan for the future. I am thrilled that we are beginning to work on this important process. This reminded me of some of the questions that professional church planners ask congregations. It seems like that the answers could provide some good insight into our planning.

-What do neighbors and friends know about First UMC?
-What is the community perception of First UMC?
-What are our strengths? weaknesses?
-What is your vision for First UMC in ten years?

Clemson Wesley Foundation

Clemson Wesley Foundation is alive and well. Under the dynamic leadership of Rev. Lane Glaze, Clemson students have a great opportunity for Christian fellowship, worship, nurture and service through this campus ministry. One highlight of this past year has been the participation in hurricane relief efforts. Several hundred students, alumni and friends have been part of four trips to the Gulf Coast to help rebuild lives of storm victims.

Clemson Wesley Foundation has been important to the Osbornes for a long time. Robert found it to be a welcoming place when he arrived on the campus in 1989. A couple years later this is where he met his future wife, Kristen. They have remained active as alumni and currently Kristen serves on its board. She has been part of several of their mission trips including the one to New Orleans this past March.

It is interesting to note that this involvement in Wesley Foundation continues a tradition that began with Robert's grandfather, Robert, who served as the president of Wesley Foundation at Ohio State University in the early 1940s.

THE ADVOCATE

Recently, I realized that I was not receiving the SC UNITED METHODIST ADVOCATE. For some unknown reason, the subscription had not been renewed. Nita took care of matters and soon a whole packet of past issues arrived. Each issue was filled with interesting stories from around the world. Some of these I had read online or in other sources. However, it was the stories of United Methodists in South Carolina that I had really missed. Not only what is happening in our churches, but also what we are thinking. The March edition had stories about our Knit One, Pray One ministry and Kathy Heustess being named Executive Director of The Coastal Samaritan Counseling Center.

Since 1837, THE ADVOCATE has been important to S.C. Methodism. At times, it was the subject of its own headlines. One of my faith heroes, McKay Brabham, served as its editor during the Civil Rights Era and irritated many Methodists with his views. During my tenure as Chair of the Advocate Board of Trustees, Maryneal Jones created discontent with her editorials about Methodism and its leaders. Publishing schedules and formats have varied and now is a 24-page monthly newspaper. Financial struggles have been prevalent through the years and readership has waxed and waned. However, it has been and continues to be an important voice of South Carolina Methodism.

Although I read a lot of news online, the format of print media often entices me to read significant articles that I would not chose to read online. A newspaper and a cup of coffee constitutes one of the finer moments of a day. I hope THE ADVOCATE continues to serve Methodism for years to come. I promise not to let my subscription lapse again. I need to encourage others to read it also.

Five Star Award

This year twenty-two churches were recognized for the Bishop's Five Star Award of Excellence during Annual Conference. This award is given to provide incentive for churches to annually embrace new ministries that are geared specifically toward growth and outreach. The award criteria is as follows:

• Increase Sunday School attendance by 5%.
• Developing a new ministry that impacts youth.
• Having a "new work" program that impacts growth.
• Having a 1% increase for members who received by professiion of faith.
• All apportionments must be paid in full for 2005 or a 25% increase in apportionment payments.

I am not usually interested in what appear as gimmick awards. However, these points certainly are proven ingredients for church growth and would give us a basic plan to follow. I wonder if we could incorporate this into our planning for the coming year?

On-line

Noticed that the new ministerial appointments made at Annual Conference are now posted at www.umcsc.org. There are also some video clips that give a hint of some of the Annual Conference experience.

The websites for Lake Junaluska and South Carolina Camps and Retreats offer information that might be helpful for summer planning. Many good things are happening at these places that provide an opportunity for spiritual growth. I wish more of our folks would attend their events.

The news of the United Methodist Women is always interesting to read. It continues to be the strong voice of mission within the United Methodist Church and certainly is an advocate for justice issues that relate to women and children. My participation in United Methodist Women has been an important part of my faith journey and I encourage others to be a part of this vital ministry.

Car Wash

This is our grandson, William, and his friend. It would appear that he may have been bitten by the love bug. However, we are sure that he loves his little brother, Ethan.
Our grandchildren and their pictures bring us much joy. We are blessed.

Committee Meetings

In light of some organizational name changes made at Annual Conference, our COM Chairperson, Jean C, and I had an interesting discussion about terminology and what it connotes. Many church growth persons are advocating restructuring and renaming church leadership in a variety of ways. Some churches have ministry teams and I am becoming more interested in using that term. It has energy. The word “team” connotes purpose, goals, equal efforts and unity. The word “committee” is lethargic. The image is one of bureaucracy, policy and lots of meetings. Ministry teams focus on ministry with periodic strategy sessions rather than traditional meetings. It is something to think about as we look at who we are and need to be in our long range planning.

Annual Conference

I have spent the last few days in Orangeburg with some of my best friends. On Sunday, United Methodists from across the South Carolina gathered at Claflin University for our Annual Conference. Bishop Mary Virginia Taylor presided for the second time over this week’s worship and business. A highlight of our time together was celebrating the jubilee year of full clergy rights for women in the UMC. Remembering those who have paved the way for us and affirming our own ministry was truly a joy. During our opening worship, all women clergy were invited to stand before the Conference. What an impressive sight! Women clergy, including Scarlett and I, were the communion servers during this service and each morning. Yet, I still hear the stories of rejection that some of our sisters encounter even before they arrive at their appointments.

A couple of noteworthy items marked this conference for me. Bishop Taylor continues to emphasize worship and Bible study during our time together. Although there were a number of the same issues and same voices, we implemented some new directions. The Conference Council on Ministries will now be known as the Conference Council on Connectional Ministries and the related staff positions will be congregational specialists assigned to two districts. Marion and Florence Districts will share a specialist who will be available to resource local churches in a variety of ways. Congregational Development is in the process of implementing a conference-wide strategy to strengthen our churches through Natural Church Development and is in the process of fulfilling the conference mandate to start 10 new churches by 2010. Hearing of our response to Katrina and other missional needs was inspiring. Increased use of technology during this event and throughout the year was in evidence. The 2007 Annual Conference will be held at the Florence Civic Center. This shift from the traditional college campus setting may be one more indication that we are willing to try new and different things. May the Holy Spirit guide and direct us as we go forth in ministry in the coming year.

Easter Lilies

Currently, a number of Easter lilies are blooming in my yard. Originally, these plants have filled several different church chancel areas on Easter mornings past. Their elegant beauty continues to suggest the triumphant of life over death as known through the Resurrection of our Lord. I think it is interesting that they have appeared just as we conclude the Easter season. It is as though they are one last reminder that we are an Easter people living in hope all of our days.

New Rules for Clergy

I recently read an interesting article by Richard Lischer, Professor of Preaching at Duke Divinity School, about the shift from a theological to a market-driven model for ministry. I especially noted the following paragraph as one of my responsibilities with the Board of Ordained Ministry is serving on the Call and Disciplined Life Committee.

"Little Baptist, Methodist, and Presbyterian churches that once constituted the community's memory and anchored its values have been swallowed up by the religious Wal-Marts of this age. More and more consumers are being served by fewer and fewer clerks. While many minsiters still confess to satisfying relationships in their parishes, 74 percent of them say their biggest problem is communicating the gospel to their very own culture. From[Larry] Witham's book we learn that ten percent of the clergy report persistent depression, 67 percent are either obese by medical standards or overweight, four in ten acknowlege "inappropraite sexual behavior for a minsiter," and another four in ten have "doubted their call." Nearly a third have "considered leaving." "

Although the role of the BOM is often under scrutiny, this article affirms the importance of our work.

Sexual Ethics

Last Saturday I helped lead a sexual ethics workshop for clergy. Participants were those who will be receiving their first appointments at Annual Conference and have not had this required training. It was interesting to note the quiet resignation that all expressed for this necessity. Tragically, news headlines have made us aware that we have to take proactive and preventive measures even among those who should know better, our clergy. We have to anticipate potential situations where we might be vulnerable and establish appropriate behavioral patterns that reflect a healthy code of ethics. As our Conference policies state, “Sexual misconduct, harassment, and abuse are violations of the integrity of the body of Christ.”

Of course, there are many contributing factors when a breach in the covenant relationship we have with one another and God is violated. These need to be examined and we need to be held accountable for any transgressions so that healing of all parties involved can begin. I am glad that United Methodists are addressing these matters and working to truly create safe sanctuaries. However, there still seems to be a failure to equip our congregants in such a way that they go forth to create safe homes, schools and workplaces. How can we effectively do this? Hellfire and damnation sermons seem not to be the answer.

Church Softball

Finally, I made it to one of First Church's softball games this year. It was good to see fathers and sons, new and long time members, experienced and rookie players enjoy this recreational fun. Jim took a bold step this year and decided that a church team really should be one composed of players that regularly worship and represent us with integrity. That means that some of the heavy hitters of the past have moved on to other playing venues. It also means that this has been a year of rebuilding. Although the record book may not say so, I think we have had a winning season.

Memorial Day

Although my family is not a military family (mainly because there are too many Quakers in it), my grandmother taught me that Decoration Day was very important. I would accompany her as she placed flowers, usually iris and peonies, on family graves in several cemeteries. She also included the graves of former neighbors who no longer had family to attend to this duty. Of course, hearing family stories was an important part of the ritual. But, most of all I was taught to remember and respect those whose lives had created my world. In many ways it was a sacred journey. This ritual usually was done during the twilight hours before Decoration Day, so that the flowers could bear testimony to love and honor the whole next day.

My brothers, sister and I looked forward to the parade that was part of the local Decoration Day celebration. Led by the high school band, grey haired veterans of the armed services would proudly remind us of the day’s purpose. A fire truck and a few old cars were the remainder of this parade that ended at the cemetery. Speeches and taps followed. I am glad that I have these rich memories of those who gave so much to their community and country in so many ways.

Mary Magdalene

I have claimed a few hours for reading this morning and finally finished last week's issue of Newsweek. An Inconvenient Woman, an article about Mary Magdalene by Jonathan Darman, was especially interesting and I will keep it for future reference. As evidenced in many of my bible study classes, a large number of persons still idenify her as a prostitute. This article also includes twelve fact or fiction subjects from The Da Vinci Code. A good quick reference.

Alban Institue

The mission of the Alban Institute is to provide new research-based information and new ways to learn and minister more effectively within and outside the faith community. This ecumenical, interfaith organization is a well-respected source of continuing education for clergy and information for churches. So, when their electronic newsletter appears in my in-box, I look forward to reading it. One of today’s articles is about Twelve Characteristics for Effective 21st Century Ministry. The summation is that clergy need to be generalists. Focusing on one facet of ministry may not be the best path to take. This is not only an important consideration for clergy, but also for congregations who are quick to say, “What we need is a good ...." Something about which to think.

Rebecca

For a second year, First UMC has a Duke Divinity School student as a summer intern. Rebecca has completed her first year of seminary and will be with us for ten weeks learning what it is like to serve in the local church. This field experience is designed to help her further understand her call to ministry. That is, is she to be an elder or deacon? Is her ministry to be in the local church or in another setting? In this introductory week, Rebecca has observed that clergy have a varied and busy schedule, one that has to adjust to the moment. Rebecca has been to three worship services, flute concert, birthday party, hospital, Child Development Ministry, staff meeting, home visit and funeral. She has met with staff persons about what they do, created a bulletin board for Dancing With God and laid sod at our Habitat house. I have given her an armload of books and more advice than she could possibly use. I think that she is looking forward to some rest.

With the direction of a lay committee, Ken and I supervise this field experience. It is a joy to see that the congregation senses a responsibility to nurture Rebecca and to warmly welcome her, also. Together, we are understanding what it means to pass the mantle.

Endings or Beginnings?

The month of May is often defined by endings. Our children are finishing their school year and some will graduate. Our confirmation class has ended and MYF has concluded its regular schedule until fall. Our DISCIPLE and Companions in Christ classes are completing their studies. Wednesday Night Fellowship and our children's choirs are on hiatus until September.

As I watched the four year old class graduation at our Child Development Ministry, I realized that each of these endings is just a calling into a new beginning. Taking what is formative of these experiences, we know that we are to move to a new place in our lives. Part of our being soars at new possibilities, but part mourns with the pain of leaving behind the past. However, the One who moves with us blesses each of these moments and we hear, "Behold, I am doing a new thing." A new day dawns and the conversation with God continues in new and exciting ways.

Spartanburg Methodist College

In the early morning hours of Thursday, I drove to Spartanburg for a Spartanburg Methodist College Board of Trustee meeting. For the past couple of years I have served as a trustee of SMC and have gained a greater appreciation for this two year college. From its inception, SMC has chosen to serve those who probably will not have an oppportunity to attend college. In the beginning, it was mill village youth who did not have financial resources. Today, students who have a variety of challenges are welcomed and ushered into the world of higher education. Many are first in their family to attend college. Upon graduation, a large number of the students continue their education at other places. The leadership of Dr. Teague and the staff is to be commended. The commitment of Board Chair, Dan Foster, and a number of the other trustees is inspiring. As a United Methodist, I am proud that we continue to support SMC and hope that we find new ways to assist this institution. I am convinced that this is an important investment in the future as we prepare the next generation to think and learn in the midst of real life challenges. John Wesley would want us to be involved in such a venture.

Shandon UMC

Yesterday, I was at Shandon UMC in Columbia. Five years ago I left this church to serve at First UMC. Since then I have returned several times for different occasions. Good memories and good friends have made these experiences bittersweet. However, this visit was different. It was like visiting my parents in the home place. I realized that that the door will always be open and I will always have a place at the table. That feels good. However, my home is elsewhere with my own furniture, family and lifestyle. Yet, a few touches from the home place can be found not only on the mantle, but also in the closets. Thank you, God, for providing me with “parents” that have nurtured me and continue to love and teach me in the way that I should go.

Jubilee Voices

This past Thursday and Friday, Scarlett and I joined clergy women from across the country at Columbia College to celebrate Methodism’s 50th anniversary of full clergy rights for women. We remembered the women, especially those who endured rejection and great obstacles to fulfill their calls, who have made our personal ministries possible. It was good to hear Bishop Minerva Carcano say that gender is not an issue when the Council of Bishops meet. All voices at the table are heard. An outspoken advocate for social justice issues, the Bishop reminded us that we too are called to take risks if we are to offer a liberating God to others.

A variety of workshops gave us an opportunity to explore topics that are important to our journey as a clergywoman. I especially enjoyed “Women’s Ways of Knowing, Learning and Leading” presented by Drs. Burk and Fowler of Columbia College. By looking at various leadership theories and the culture that surrounds men and women, important understandings of different leadership styles was examined. The challenge for each of us is to define our style and use it effectively.

Our worship experiences were filled with different voices representative of women in ministry. From the exuberant preaching of Telley Gadsen to the poignant and humorous storytelling of Rosemary Brown, the Word was declared. I especially appreciated the meditation and music of the Taize service. Each worship service offered an opportunity for personal reflection of where I had been and where I am going. I feel renewed in my call to ministry.

The Da Vinci Code Revisited

On our recent trip to Ohio, I did listen to The Da Vinci Code audio book. I enjoyed it as a mystery thriller. However, as is often in such a book, fact and fiction are blurred. Thus, the reader may be motivated to research the facts through the study of early church history. The UMC General Board of Discipleship website has posted some helpful information for questioning minds. As always, I would be glad to share other resources for those wanting to read more about Early Christianity.

Predators

I have been watching bits and pieces of Chris Hansen’s confrontations with sexual predators on NBC’s Dateline over the last few weeks. Disgusting! Sick! I would rather ignore this social ill, but I realize that I can’t. I don’t know what the appropriate response needs to be. But, somehow I need to educate parents to this danger their teens face when they enter into this dark side of the Internet and help them talk with their youth about this danger. I also know that parents still are reluctant to help their children understand their sexual being. This makes them vulnerable to this kind of scum. It is interesting that the suggestion that the church offer a human sexuality program for 4-6th grade students and their parents has not been welcomed by those who could make it happen. I think our church family sometimes insulates itself from the greater community. Somehow I need to help our parents address some of these issues.

A Pastoral Prayer

First United Methodist Church
May 7, 2006
I Corinthians 12:1-13

O God, giver of all good gifts, we come together this morning to give thanks for the abundance of our many blessings. We are aware and open to the variety of gifts that you have allotted each of us by the Holy Spirit. Your goodness fills us with gratitude and joy. We come together to take up our crosses and to follow our Lord and Savior.

However, God, we are such a busy, stress-filled people. Sometimes your holy calling is an idea too big to get our hearts around. So, we place before you our tired and empty lives. May our commitment to share what you have so generously given us be renewed.

Hear us as we cry out to you. We want to experience the steadfast love realized through faithfulness. We want to do your will. Help us, O God. Reveal your abiding presence amid the “to do” lists of our lives. May your love be perfected in our doing and being.

We place before you this church who has been given so many gifts. Each person adds to the richness of this congregation and allows us to serve you. Empower us to be compassionate so that we might hear and respond to the cries of your children in need of healing of mind, body or spirit (esp. in Darfur and…. ) Empower us to be instruments of your hope to those who have lost their way (esp those who are struggling with addictions and ….) May we be instruments of your grace to those who need to begin again (esp. those along the Gulf Coast and… ) And make us instruments of your love to the lonely and forgotten ones (esp. the sick, elderly persons in our community and …). Empower us to make your love a reality in this world, for all we have comes from one source, your great love for us.

And so we humbly offer all of our gifts and all of ourselves to your glory in the name of the one who taught us to pray, Our Father.....

What We Believe

Last Sunday I met with the confirmands and mentors to discuss/review what it is that we believe as Christians and United Methodists. Together, we began to create an affirmation of faith that will be used when they are confirmed on Sunday, May 14. This week as I put their words together in a rough draft for its final editing by the class, I was pleased with how they have been able to articulate the understanding of their faith. Family and mentors have played an important role in this, also. We may not have quantity this year, but we have a quality group of youth.

Periodically, I am questioned about what United Methodists believe. Although many books and pamphlets have been written, I think a good beginning point for those seeking answers would be to look at this part of the UMC website. Our library does has a number of resources, also. Of course, any of the clergy welcome discussion of this subject as far too often what one believes only reflects the latest book by a popular author.

Picture Words

My friend, Miss Nell, says that pictures are very important to the story. This one of Annaka and Jack brings joy to my heart everytime I see it. Ron has been enjoying doing a photo blog, Pixel Pics. These pictures capture something that has caught his attention and he wants to remember. I enjoy them, also.

Darfur

I have been reading about the genocide in the Darfur region of Sudan for months, but very seldom have seen or heard much about it in popular news sources. So it was with a sense of relief when I saw George and Nick Clooney using the power of their name recognition to capture the attention of the press. After a recent trip to this overlooked part of the world, they have made a short documentary about what they learned of the conditions and conflict within it and are making the rounds of news and talk shows. At the heart of the conflict is the escalating violence in the western region of Sudan against ethnic Africans who have been targeted for elimination by Arab Janijaweed militias in collaboration with Sudan’s central government in Khartoum. An estimated 200,000 to 400,000 have died and forced migrations have displaced about 2.5 million.

I referenced Darfur in my February 25th blog after reading Elie Wiesel’s book, Night. In this blog I noted that he concluded his acceptance speech for the Nobel Peace Prize by saying, “Our lives no longer belong to us alone, they belong to all those who need us desperately.” The people of Darfur need us desparately.

A Week in Review

Monday – Our staff was saddened to learn that Sara Dee’s father died after a long period of illness. We searched for ways to be supportive of her and her family during this time. Appropriate responses to grief are always difficult to make. May God’s abiding presence be known to them this week and in the weeks to come.

Tuesday – I am glad to know that some of our folks are using The Da Vinci Code and other popular books etc. as a springboard for study about early church history. This Sunday our short-term study group will begin exploring this topic during the Sunday school hour. Many church members do not have much understanding of the period from Paul to the Reformation as it relates to the church. I think a study of such can be both informing and affirming as it relates to our faith.

Wednesday - Eddie’s Garden at the Child Development Ministry serves not only as a wonderful space for children, but also as a loving reminder of a man that joyfully served his church and his Lord. Always willing to lend a hand, Eddie especially wanted the CDM to have the very best. He knew how important this ministry was to children. I trust that Eddie knows he will always have a special place in our hearts and the lives of our children. I am so glad that the rain abated and we were able to dedicate this garden on Wednesday.

Thursday – The SC Board of Ministry met to finalize matters before Annual Conference. One of our concerns is that our candidates maintain a healthy lifestyle so as to be able to do effective ministry. Generous servings of Southern cooking and lack of exercise have led some of our folks into a state of obesity and poor health. We now ask them to address this before being commissioned and ordained. This can be a very difficult discussion for all concerned. What a joy it was to meet with a candidate that has accepted our words about the importance of losing weight and is doing all the right things to make it happen.

Friday – I met with my covenant group (UM ministers who study and share together in a small group) in Florence. We continued our discussion about the church of the 21st century and learning about the different approaches for shaping the life our congregations. The most effective churches seem to be where there is a careful, ongoing process of discernment by the congregation of its strengths and weaknesses in relation to who they are and need to be. This becomes the basis for congregational planning. There are a number of good models for this kind of assessment. I would love to see us use such a model and develop a good overall plan for First UMC. Although well meaning, we need to be careful of not following the loudest voice or a personal agenda. Together, we need to create a working strategy for the 21st century that involves both ministries and facilities.

Saturday – What another beautiful day! Thank you, God, for your creation. I need to use the gift of today to work on a sermon for May 8. Let this be a labor that bears fruit.

4-H

One of the more formative experiences in my life came through my participation in 4-H. It was a rite of passage in my home community to join a 4-H club at age 10. With the leadership of adult volunteers (primarily some of our mothers) we learned about sewing, cooking and other homemaking skills. In addition, the organizational structure taught us about leadership. We had officers and responsibilities in our local clubs. As teenagers we assisted with younger members, served as camp counselors and assumed major roles at the county fair. Because of my 4-H experience I was a home economics major at Ohio State University. I planned to be an extension agent and work with 4-H clubs. Instead of rural Ohio and Extension Service, I found myself in inner-city Dayton after graduation teaching welfare mothers homemaking skills. That's another part of my story.

To this day the 4-H pledge and motto come to mind and give direction to who I am.

PLEDGE I pledge my HEAD to clearer thinking
my HEART to greater loyalty
my HANDS to larger service
and my HEALTH to better living for my club, my community, my country and my world.

MOTTO
To make the best BETTER.

The Irises Are Blooming

I look forward to Eva's visit each year about this time. That is, I know all is well in my yard when the irises bloom. Eva was my grandmother and she loved her flowers. Most of them started as cuttings, seeds or bulbs from family and friends. In turn, she enjoyed passing these special plants to others. So, when we moved into our first home in Dayton, she gave me some of her irises. Each of our moves has included digging a few of the irises and taking them with us. These irises have become a metaphor for our moves...leaving a bit of ourselves, taking the remainder and establishing ourselves in a new location.

Ethan

Our youngest grandson, Ethan, has RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus) and is in Children’s Hospital at Palmetto Richland in Columbia. Of course, we have had to check out the situation for ourselves. A five-week old baby attached to things is not a pleasant sight and this grandmother just wanted to hold him. Worried and tired parents needed to know that they are good parents and things like this just happen. In fact, I wanted to hold them, also. The good news is that Ethan is doing better and should go home in another day or so. Their three year old son, William(with an ear infection), is with his other grandparents. The past few weeks have been very hectic for Dan and Shannon and they are so anxious to establish some sense of normalcy with their family. How do I help this precious family during this time and not be the meddlesome mother/mother-in-law? I certainly can hold them close in prayer.

Sabbath Reflection

After being married, our first home was in Dayton, Ohio, the home of the Wright Brothers. However, Orville and Wilbur were before my time. The story I like to tell is that Erma Bombeck, Phil Donahue and I all started out in Dayton at the same time, the late 60’s. Erma wrote a weekly column in a suburban newspaper. The Dayton Daily News and national syndication came later. Phil was a radio personality and just beginning his talk show on a local TV channel. Of course, he also moved on to bigger and better things. Although my name is not recognized by the general public or my bank account has never looked like theirs, my life since Dayton has been interesting and rewarding, also. There certainly is a sense of richness when I reflect upon the fabric of the life that I am weaving and for this I give thanks. And, I trust that as Erma wrote in her last column:

“My deeds will be measured not by my youthful appearance, but by the concern
lines on my forehead. The laugh lines around my mouth and the chins from
seeing what can be done for those smaller than me or who have
fallen.”

Sabbath Time

I am enjoying a role reversal situation. We are at Lake Junaluska and Ron is attending a conference, Caring for God’s Creation. My plan was to enjoy walking around the lake and reading on the Lambuth Inn porch while he attended the sessions. Rainy weather has forced me indoors. However, comfortable reading areas with plenty of coffee available will make this day special. Wireless internet connection will allow me to do some blogging and e-mailing. The phone is on silent. In this quiet, peaceful environment, I truly sense Sabbath.

Easter Postscript

With the joy of the Easter morning worship still ringing in our ears and heart, Ron and I began our trip to visit family in Ohio on Sunday afternoon. The blooming azaleas, redbud and dogwood trees along the highways continued the uplifting spirit of the day. What a glorious sight! This drive also became a reflective time of past Easters…. joyful celebrations as a child, dramatic sunrise services as a youth and inspiring worship experiences as an adult. This became a journey of remembering of the one whose love and life is stronger than death. With each twist and turn through the mountains, I felt the dark shadows that have hovering around me being replaced by light. I sensed a new part of my life unfolding and I knew that Christ would be walking with me.

The great cycle that lies at the center of the Easter story is the journey from death to life. It happens in nature and it happens in our own lives over and over again. When the stone has been rolled away for us, revealing the transformation that occurs when light replaces the darkness, then we are called to seize that hope and to offer it back to one another and to our world. Sometimes we need to spend time sharing this message of hope with family. I trust that I have.

Five Years Ago

Today is the anniversary of one of the milestones on Ron’s and my journey together. Five years ago on this date we moved to Myrtle Beach. It was Easter and following the last worship service at Shandon UMC in Columbia, we drove to our new home. (Our furniture had arrived two weeks earlier.) Prior to this move, Ron’s career had dictated where we lived. Now I was the one who had said that I thought we needed to make this change in our lives. As one might imagine, those first weeks were ones of wondering if I had done the right thing. However, as life has unfolded for us, the hand of God has seemed evident in some very real ways. So, I celebrate this day with prayers of thanksgiving for what has been. I also ask God to give guidance to my days ahead.

Maundy Thursday

Remembering a night of sorrow, we sense the Holy as we worship on this saddest day of the church year. Following the Last Supper, the agony of the garden and the truncated court proceedings send most of Jesus friends away. They forget that they were chosen to follow him and Peter denies him. They are facing the end of hope. Their lives will be forever changed. Yet, later they will remember that he loved them and he went willingly to the cross because of this love. They will share this remembrance with others. Because they remembered, tonight we share in the Lord’s Supper. We remember the meaning of the words and acts of our Lord. However, we will leave in darkness as the service ends. The light gone. This is a darkness not without hope. It is a darkness that invites solitude, prayer and repentance. We go into the night preparing to walk to the cross.

College Student Voters

The Christian Science Monitor reports today that the majority of college students view key political issues through a moral lens. This is according to a poll released by Harvard University’s Institute of Politics. Collectively, 9/11 terror attacks have shaped their political worldview. In addition to the traditional issues of abortion, gay marriage, and stem-cell research, their issues include the federal government’s response to Katrina, education policy and the Iraq war.

Although college students identify less with specific denominations than previous generations, they have a high interest in spirituality. They are more involved in community service and are voting more than their immediate predecessors. Political strategists are identifying these students as a swing group in the 2008 election.

Is this kind of commitment to justice issues welcomed within congregations? These matters are the kind Jesus addressed, but we seem to feel uncomfortable discussing them as they might be divisive within our churches. It would appear that we need to make sure there is a place for those who find healthcare, sustainable environment and other moral issues important to their understanding of faith. We need them to remind us how we are to live in God’s world.

The Judas Gospel

The Judas Gospel is our latest invitation to explore early church history and its implications for Christianity then and today. On Sunday, April 9 - 8 pm, the National Geographic channel will air the story of these lost (and found) writings. Of course, there are those who consider it heretical to even contemplate their meaning. Others are disturbed when they learn about how the Bible came to be. I find the story of the canonization of scriptures and the omission of other writings both intriguing and affirming to our understanding of the Bible. I appreciated what Elaine Pagels wrote today for The New York Times about the Judas Gospel. This noted biblical scholar was a consultant on the project. I look forward to viewing this production and learning about these writings.

Church Turn-Offs

Dabney, our new program assistant, is helping me to bring order out of chaos in my office. This means going through lots of files. What treasures I have found! Here is one of these recovered gems:

TOP TEN WAYS TO TURN YOUR KIDS OFF TO CHURCH

1. Schedule personal or family events to conflict with church services and activities.
2. Don’t get too close to anyone in the church. Refrain from developing relationships with Christians lest your child learn about the joy and benefits of fellowship.
3. Look often at your watch during worship services and complain bitterly, look annoyed, or freak out when church lasts longer than you think it should.
4. Do the best you can to make sure your child arrives on time for soccer, lessons and school events, but don’t worry if he or she skips or is late to church or Sunday School.
5. Bring your family to church only when (a) you have nothing better to do; (b) you have a personal need; or (c) you feel really guilty.
6. Don’t volunteer for anything or make any kind of long-term commitment at church. Remember, you’ve got to keep your options open to do things that are more important.
7. Remind your child how imperfect your church leaders are and regularly point out their mistakes. Make sure he/she understands that you know more about leading the church than its current leadership.
8. Tithe and financially support your local church and its missions with the same enthusiasm as when you pay your taxes.
9. Change churches every few years.
10. And whatever you do, don’t let church influence the way you live your life.

Author Unknown

Women Clergy

This year the United Methodist Church celebrates the 50th anniversary of women being ordained. In doing so we give thanks for the rich legacy these women in ministry have given us. I am placing Courageous Spirit - Voices from Women in Ministry, a new book published in recognition of this anniversary, in our library. This collection of personal reflection and worship resources shares the joy and the pain of the spiritual journey of clergywomen. A variety of voices tell this story. These words are for all women as we seek to live in the fullness of God's will. I trust that men will blessed by these witnesses to the faith.

Words of Hope

The last few days have been difficult for us as a church family as we prepare for the funeral of a young man. I have searched for words of comfort for those who knew him and for me. This is one of those times we just don't understand, but we do know that we can pour out our sadness and sorrow to God. Words of assurance are thoughtfully spoken by some persons, but today I find solace in these words of scripture:

"For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers,nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth,nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. " (Romans 8:38-39)

Snowbirds

Although the migration north began several weeks ago, today is the official end of the snowbird season. Thanks to the efforts of Big Tom, Bill K. and others, snowbirds are warmly welcomed at First UMC each winter. Our snowbirds come from a variety of places with varied stories and make a wonderful addition to our congregation. They faithfully worship with us on Sunday and Monday, play golf on Tuesday and enjoy Thursday’s program and lunch with our Snowbird and Seagull ministry, eat and study with us Wednesday night, knit prayer shawls and can be counted on to support our special worship services and programs. They give of their time and talents while here. All of this helps strengthen who we are and we sense a loss in their leaving.

It is always sad to say goodbye for some snowbirds are aware that they probably won’t be able to be with us next year. Many tell us that they find an ingredient here that they miss in their home church. As the face of Myrtle Beach changes and we loose the motels that have welcomed our friends, I hope that the snowbirds will still join us in future winters.

The Da Vinci Code Intrigue

Although I have never read the Da Vinci Code, the current conversation that surrounds it intrigues me. Two different persons have asked me if we are going to teach it. While I don't plan to "teach" it, I do believe that there is value in exploring the questions that are being asked. However, debate and a defensive posture are of little value in this offering. I think it is a good opportunity for us to have conversation about early Church history and the divinity of Jesus. Questions surrounding The Da Vinci Code could offer clues to the Jesus for which people are searching. I am pondering how we can best use this book/movie as an appropriate teachable moment.

Go Forth...

According to Bishop Michael Coyner, 43 percent of United Methodist churches in America did not receive a member by profession of faith in 2004. He said that existing congregations need to be transformed in a variety of ways, but at the heart of the transformation is "simply to have a passion that we are all about making disciples for Jesus Christ."

When the UM Board of Discipleship heard this at their March meeting, they were not surprised. Nor should this be news to us. Many of us are part of churches that spend more energy taking care of who we are than reaching out to those beyond our steeple who need to know Jesus in their lives. According to census data, 30-40% of the persons in the main part of Myrtle Beach do not name themselves as part of a religious faith. Yet, we struggle at First UMC to receive a couple of new members each month and most of these are churched folks from other places. This is more than a numbers game, we must renew our commitment to making disciples who are willing to go forth and claim others in the name of Jesus the Christ.

Grandparenting

What a busy and wonderful week I have had. First, I made a quick trip to Columbia to meet my new grandson, Ethan, and cuddle with his brother, William. Then, Annaka and Jack came to visit while their dad was at a conference at the beach. Their mother was in New Orleans with a mission team from Clemson Wesley Foundation. And, as another sign of the times, Ron was the grandparent-in-charge. However, we both enjoyed having individual time with Jack and Annaka and I trust they enjoyed getting to know their grandparents a little bit better. My memories of grandparents are special and I wish the same for our grandchildren. As I read and read to Annaka I felt the presence of Grandma Eva.

Precious Picture

Daniel, William and Ethan. Will be interesting to see what William thinks of his little brother in a few weeks. His parents have done all the right things to prepare him, but I predict that there will be those sibling moments. I can't wait to rock Ethan and read William more stories. Some days Columbia is just too far away.

Family News

Ethan Cyr Osborne was born this afternoon in Columbia. I arrived just in time to hold him before he was taken to the nursery for the weigh in and clean up. Our fourth grandchild weighed 8 lbs and 11 oz. and appears to be quite healthy. Tonight Ron and I get to take care of big brother, William, all by ourselves. Mama did leave us detailed instructions about what we are to do. Ron will be on grandpa duty for the next few days while this grandma works. Times have changed.

Yesterday, I learned that my brother-in-law's first set of chemo treatments have been quite effective. They will continue, but have been adjusted to allow John and Mary to visit us the last week of March. I pray that we will have some warm, sunny days while they are here. They need them.

What a blessed week!

Change

As previously noted, one of my favorite blogs is Perspectives by Larry Hollon, Chief Executive of United Methodist Communications. Several of his recent posts have cited change as it relates to communication - Changes in Media, Changing Relationships, Changing with the Times and Change or Perish. Hollon asks the important question, "How does an organization or a corporation formed under older values and management structure adapt to the new realities?" This is not only the challenge of the United Methodist Church in general, but also to the local church as well. I think I will continue to ponder his reflections.

Temple Emanu-el

Last evening our confirmands and mentors worshiped at Temple Emanu-el. Rabbi Avi Perets welcomed us warmly and spent time with us after the service answering questions. As usual, our youth found much about this service to be fascinating, but hard to comprehend. We reminded them that this is probably how the non-churched feel when they visit our church. The language and the meaning of what we do have to be explained for participants to truly worship.

Each year I include this synagogue experience in the confirmation preparation. It is important for us to understand our Jewish roots. Also, interfaith awareness and dialogue invite us to establish an environment for bridge building. May this generation be open to new possibilities of peace by working together more closely with the other religions.

Mary's Birthday

Today is Mary’s (my sister) birthday. I think of her a lot these days. This past fall her husband, John, was diagnosed with colon cancer. He is one of those persons who should have had a colonoscopy before he did. Now he is undergoing treatment for cancer that has spread to the liver and lymph nodes. John's body is broken; Mary's heart is wounded. This was not in their plan for this time in their lives. Fortunately, they are surrounded by family and a wonderful church family. Their faith is strong, but being tested. Fear and frustration, tears and tension, anger and anxiety intrude into their days. However, John's determination to do all the right things - physically, mentally, and spiritually - has given us, his cheerleading team, courage to face the days ahead. So family events, like birthdays, become very important. They become the milestones on the journey. Tonight, as Mary enjoys a nice dinner at a favorite restaurant, my prayer is that they can live in the moment with laughter and love. Happy Birthday, Mary, and I love you, John.

Companions in Ministry

Today, Scarlett and I were in Lexington to be a part of the Gathering of the Fellowship of Clergy. The orders of elders, deacons, and local pastors convene several times of year to explore topics that impact our ministry and to be in fellowship with one another. As always I enjoyed being with some folks that have been very important to me through the years and meeting others who now will be part of my continuing journey. Our focus today was clergy companionship and friendship. Many of us know the feeling of isolation in our ministry. While we have important relationships with other clergy and laity, we miss those special friendships that support and affirm us as individuals. As we discussed, the intineant system discourages the opportunity to develop these friendships. It was good to recognize this as an important issue among clergy and their families and to sense that we need to make this a priority for healthy living.

Coincidentally, Lexington is the place of many long time friends. We moved to Lexington in 1982 and joined Lexington UMC soon thereafter. Many friendships were formed in that congregation that we continue to enjoy. Fred Reese was one of the ministers during this time. He and others encouraged me to answer the call to ministry. Yes, friendships are important to our well-being.

Jim Williams - Part 2

I continue to think about several of the comments made by Jim Williams, our guest parenting specialist including the following:

By the age of 14 - 80-90% of a child's value system is complete.

Kids need 3-4 positive adult role models plus parents.

A child receives on average 15 minutes a day individual attention by parent. Only 3 minutes of that could be named as positive.

A child is influenced 5-7 hours a day from entertainment-television, video games, Ipod, internet, etc.

By the age of 13 - 75% of kids no longer play organized sports.

Children need to learn from mistakes. This doesn't happen when their parents follow the drill sergeant or helicopter (hovering) models of parenting.

All families need to name their core values and continually point to them in all that they do.

Jim Williams

Through the vision of Jeanne Voltz Loomis and Cindy Cooper and the generosity of a church member, First UMC was able to provide an outstanding speaker, Jim Williams, to the community during the last few days. On Friday, Jim spoke to nearly 1400 tweens about choices, drugs, bullying and other issues that are so important to them. Much of the effectiveness of this came through his ability to share stories from his own experiences including the powerful story of his son’s death.

On Saturday, fifty parents and other adults attended a seminar at the church based on Jim’s book, Parenting on Point. He has processed and distilled some of the best parenting and tween information available and created a simple methodology for effective parenting. The response of those attending was very positive and I am so pleased that we were able to provide this important program. However, there is a sadness in my being that more parents did not make this a priority and choose to attend. Our children are living in a world that bombards them with many messages. We have to help them interpret their meaning and most of us need help doing this. Jim would like to return to Myrtle Beach. How can we convince our parents that they are being given a second chance?

Ash Wednesday

I need Lent. I need once again to journey into the desert to see if my life reflects the life of Jesus. My intellectual understandings of faith need more direction by the heart, a heart that needs to reveal its fear, anger, hurt and doubt to God. I need to know God's grace as I bow at the cross. So, I enter into Lent with expectations, but also knowing that I must wrestle with my sinful humanity if I am truly to know the risen Christ.