A Pilgrim's Perspective

Legacy

2010-10-09T16:39:00.002-04:00

Perhaps, it is the waning of daylight hours and the fading of nature's colors. Perhaps, it is the recent acquisition of a Medicare card. Or, it may be that I attend too many funerals. Whatever it is, I have been thinking about what kind of legacy will my loved ones inherit when I leave my earthly life. It won't be money, but what will it be?

Family remembrances at funerals often include stories of selfless giving, abiding faith and humorous incidents. Each reflects devoted commitment to those we love and certainly are part of my game plan. Yet, what is it that I need to be doing that will prepare future generations, especially four precious grandchildren, to build a fairer and safer world? First, it seems as though I must continue to find ways to encourage them to learn about and to practice their Christian faith. I need to kindle a fire of compassion for those who need acts of mercy and justice. Of course, modeling is the best teaching method. So what is required of me? I think Micah 6:8 says it very plainly -

do justice
love kindness
walk humbly with God

Labor Day

2010-09-06T11:14:00.004-04:00

Labor Day is here. College football season is the focus of many conversations. The weather is beginning to transition to cooler fall days and we keep tuned to news of potential hurricanes. A more demanding schedule rules our lives and we notice that the daylight hours are fewer. Soon we will officially say good-by to summer and be left with memories of what has warmed our hearts. For me, family time has been both fun and important. Not only the joy of grandchildren (see picture), but also the renewing of relationships with other family members. The young adults are leading most interesting lives and keeping me connected with our changing culture. Reflections of such family time define unconditional love for me and shape my tomorrows.

As we move into fall, we return to living in community with one another. Our routines name who and what are important to us. The time of personal retreat has ended for now and we join with one another to build a better world. Perhaps, the book/movie title for us should be Eat Together, Pray Together, Love Together as we write the next season of our lives.

The Gift of Teaching

2010-08-20T08:18:00.005-04:00

The new Sunday school year begins this week. That means all sorts of organizational tasks have been happening, including the calling forth of teachers. The conversation that surrounds this often focuses on the person's perception that one must have all the answers to the hard questions otherwise he/she is not qualified to teach. I realized a long time ago that I am not responsible for another's answers. The real gift of teaching is to be free to risk the questions, to share our faith stories and to recognize that growth comes through the struggle. It seems that those teachers who have most influenced my life were not those who made the faith simple and easy to understand. The teachers who have encouraged me to struggle with the questions are the ones that have been the most effective. The answers come as we live in the Spirit, and hold each other in love. We, the learners, become empowered to define that which is meaningful in our lives and to identify with scripture. We are formed and transformed into disciples of Jesus Christ. As teachers and learners may this year be one of living into the questions.

Hiatus to End

2010-08-14T17:15:00.002-04:00

Yes, I realize that I haven’t paid attention to my blog since April and I’m not sure why. But, trying to find excuses has inspired me to try again. It would seem quite appropriate that I reflect on why I use social media.

Last summer a confluence of three events – Facebook, Twitter and iPhone - refocused my life in many ways. It all started when I decided I needed to check out FB and Twitter for its possible use as First Church communication tools. Almost immediately, I was captivated by the wide variety of voices, which were expressing their thoughts and sharing information. It was apparent that we should add this to our methods of communication and thanks to James Sturgeon, the church soon had a FB page and a Twitter account.

Personally, I am not only enjoying social media as a way of connecting with church members, but also with friends and family. Knowing what is happening in their everyday lives gives me a stronger sense of relationship with them. Immediate concerns can be addressed through a visit, a phone call, an e-mail message and/or a prayer. I enjoy being in community with new and old friends, young and old. As we share personal moments, I feel that we allow a more genuine caring relationship to happen in this often disconnected society. Also, for an effective ministry, I have to be in tune with our changing culture that seems often to be revealed through social media. My Twitter world shares breaking news and interesting links to the latest thoughts about technology, politics, religion and ministry. Through well-known to lesser-known voices, I am able to capture a glimpse of important cultural trends and perspectives. However, all of this does consume time and I have to be careful to avoid over-consumption, esp. since my dear husband introduced me to my iPhone. Almost anytime or anywhere I can be connected. Yet, I have neglected my blogging.

For the past five years I have used my blog, A Pilgrim’s Perspective, as a means of sharing my thoughts and reflections on a variety of topics. At times it has served as a forum for discussion and always a learning place for me as it is in the expression of these thoughts that I have been able to crystallize my thinking and name what is important to me. I know that it is my responsibility as a clergyperson to give voice to issues that we as Christians and responsible citizens need to address and this has given me a place to do so. So, why have I found it increasingly difficult to do this? Perhaps, it is because I feel that the thinking about such subjects is shaped for many persons by influential factors other than faith and reason. I have become discouraged in our ability to have productive discussions. But, my call to ministry as a deacon invokes a commitment to connect our faith beyond the steeple. Social media, including blogging, may be an important way. I am willing to try. Blog #639.

A Visit to Berea, KY

2010-04-10T10:12:00.004-04:00

Through the years as we have made our north and south trips, we have often visited Berea, Ky. to enjoy its unique culture. This past Thursday evening we once again found ourselves looking at the work of potters, weavers, instrument makers, glassblowers, painters and sculptors in this interesting college town. The history of Berea College reveals a longstanding tradition of preserving the Appalachian arts and providing a commitment to educating those who might not otherwise been given the opportunity of a college degree. This visit we witnessed the weekly jam session of local folks who brought their guitars, banjos, fiddles, etc. to play gospel, bluegrass and country music. What a treat! Berea is named Kentucky’s Folk Arts and Crafts Capital and is certainly a must place to visit when traveling I-75. In fact, I think to truly experience this delightful community, one should name it a destination for a day or two.

I am afraid that too many travelers do not allow time to see, hear and absorb the by-ways and communities that would take them beyond our interstate highways. Robert Frost’s timeless observation - “the one (road) less traveled by, and that has made all the difference” – is an important directive as we seek to know and understand our rich heritage. This is a corner piece of the puzzle as we claim our responsibility of being an informed architect of what is before us.

Civility

2010-04-03T20:44:00.002-04:00

My sensibilities have been assaulted and I have been left nearly speechless as the recent political rhetoric has filled the media. Divisive and hateful words seem to be shaping public discourse and the stridency prohibits civil conversation. Not so subtly racist and sexist comments seem to be edging into our public opinions. I am left feeling very sad and wonder what are we teaching our children?

It is also interesting to observe how this political warfare is creeping into our life together in the body of Christ. Health care and immigration reform have polarized us and we treat one another with disrespect. If faith communities can’t accept these challenges with the understanding that all are created in the image of God and are to be offered respect, how are we going to live together in a way that strengthens our nationalism?

Children's Sermons

2010-03-27T20:01:00.002-04:00

It’s Saturday night and once again I’m wondering what am I going to do for a meaningful children’s sermon tomorrow. The children will have been well saturated in the story of Palm Sunday by the time they get to me. The text for the sermon (Matthew 26:50-56) is difficult for children to understand. All of this leads me to once again wonder why we do children’s sermons. Yes, it is good to be intentionally inclusive of children during worship, but is there another way that would be more effective? Our children who come forward during this time are usually 3-7 years old and this age span in itself creates a challenge. Time constraints do not allow for dialogue about the thoughts presented and most of us have difficulty remembering that these children are concrete thinkers when choosing our words. Each of us is guilty of being too aware of the adult congregation and encouraging laughter in response to our comments. Of course, this further confuses the children. However, I will carefully craft a sermon that will introduce my little friends to Passion Sunday and Holy Week and hope that somewhere in it they will find the good news that they are loved not only by God, but also by all that know Jesus. I still believe that we may need to revisit this common practice and create a different model for children to truly worship. I would like to know what others think about children's sermons.

Knowing God in All Our Days

2010-03-20T18:47:00.004-04:00

During the past few months I have spent a lot of time with the Snowbirds and Seagulls, our older adult ministry at First UMC. Also, my parents are in assisted living because of health matters and I am quite aware of their concerns and needs. Of course, my own experience of working with a council on aging and enjoying elderly family and friends in days gone by have also given me an informed perspective as I reflect on how to be in ministry with those who are trying to face their latter years with meaning and hope.

However, it has been the writings of Missy Buchanan that have recently helped to keep me focused on the frail and aging. Nearly everyday a Twitter tweet @MissyBuchanan provides an insight that needs to be pondered and shared in some way. Her two devotional books written for older adults have especially touched my soul. These Upper Room publications are Living with Purpose in a Worn-Out Body and Talking with God in Old Age and make wonderful gifts for special older persons. I also understand that they have been used to sensitize youth to the realities of aging and I hope we will use them in this way soon.

The struggle to find meaning and fulfillment occurs at various stages in our lives, but seems to be especially poignant in our later years. We question God when we feel that our being is slipping away in so many ways and we wonder why we have to face these issues. We seek assurance that God is with us. This is the gift that we are called to offer those who have prepared the way for us. May the frail and the elderly know peace and comfort through our love and care.

Human Trafficking

2010-02-13T15:31:00.002-05:00

Yesterday, as I listened to NPR's The Takeaway while driving to the church, I suddenly heard words that I needed to know about human trafficking. Why haven't I paid more attention to this important topic?

"For most Americans, human trafficking is a horrific practice that nearly always seems to happen overseas and far away. However, a recent report by the Ohio Trafficking in Persons Study Commission says about 1,000 American-born children are forced into the sex trade every year in Ohio alone." To hear more...

Periodically, I have read/heard local voices express concern about human trafficking as a real concern for Myrtle Beach, but have not let this direct me to action. I fear there are too many folks like me who are counting on others to do something about this very serious social issue. What is it that we need to do?

Haiti Response

2010-01-30T22:08:00.002-05:00

In this aftermath of the disastrous earthquake in Haiti, my heart and mind have joined millions of others in sorrow and in the need to respond. I am so glad that I am part of a church that leads me through this in a faithful way. First, we know that God in Christ Jesus knows suffering and is an abiding presence in tragedy. Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote “only the suffering God can help.” We know a God who brings redemption out of the depths of human suffering and deprivation. As United Methodists, we know our church to be on task before the press arrives to tell us of the human needs as a result of the crisis. Aware of this, I have found a place of peace as I seek ways to respond and to lead others to open their hearts to our brothers and sisters in Haiti.

We pray and we offer gifts of caring. To date, we have sent over $9,000 and 134 health kits to UMCOR. Today, we packaged 20,000 meals for Stop Hunger Now to distribute in Haiti and there are more opportunities to respond being planned for the days to come and I know our generous congregation will. United Methodists everywhere are responding in numerous and creative ways and for this I give thanks.

However, it was a conversation that I had with my son that has given me the most encouragement. About ten years ago, he was part of a mission team that did construction in Jeremie, Haiti and he now wants to return to this broken country to be part of the recovery process. This is not only a faithful response, but also a sign of hope for a world that needs young adults accepting the responsibility to care for God’s hurting people. May he find a way to do so.

Social Media

2010-01-16T21:48:00.003-05:00

I share a status on Facebook. I put tweets on Twitter. I post to a blog. I, obviously, have become part of social media. Why? To explore how this might be an effective communication tool for ministry. What have I discovered?

Facebook is a great way for me to connect with church members whom I might not regularly have an opportunity to know what is happening in their lives and I can respond to pastoral concerns in a timely way. I sense that I have a better understanding of what is happening in my FB friends lives which is certainly significant as I give shape to our programs and ministry. The fan pages give me lots of important current information that can also helpful to this end. Sharing some things about my personal life seems to offer an opportunity for others to know me somewhat better and feel more connected to me. My sharing with family and friends beyond First UMC is not only fun, but also reminds me I do have a good life beyond the church and this is certainly healthy for my being. Brandon Taylor, our youth director, used Facebook to keep parents and church member informed of a recent ski trip that was wrought with frustrations.

One hundred and forty characters can be powerful. Careful choice of words for Twitter tweets in this quick read culture can mean making a meaningful statement about a variety of issues. Many of my tweets include a link to a longer post that offers more insight about the topic. I follow a wide variety of Twitterers for information and understanding of trends and find my mind constantly trying to process what is happening in relation to my faith. This week, I have gathered a lot of Haiti disaster response information without having to search numerous websites. Thanks to James Sturgeon, First Church regularly uses Facebook and Twitter as a means of communicating and we are growing into how this can be an effective way of connecting.

Nearly five years ago I began writing a blog, A Pilgrim’s Perspective, and after 631 posts I still find this to be good way to create a conversation about issues that are challenging me. This time of personal reflection is often very directive to my spiritual journey. I also enjoy regularly reading other blogs and especially enjoy the Wesley Report and God’s Politics.

Although I enjoy social media and find it to be a new frontier that is offering all sorts of possibilities, I have discovered that the number of books read during the last six months has decreased. The stack of books by my bed is growing and I think some of them are just as or more important than Facebook etc. It’s time to visit some of my favorite authors.

Connect the Dots

2010-01-09T19:21:00.000-05:00

Connect the dots has been the overused phrase of the week and I am ready for it to go away. However, it did give me a good focus for reflection during my road trip this past week. My life seems to have a lot of dots that aren’t always connected and this often leaves me sensing a great disconnect, another trendy word. My failure to post to this blog for many weeks is representative of how I am not reflecting and connecting the happenings of the world to my understanding of God as known through Jesus Christ. A new year offers the opportunity for new beginnings.

Tomorrow is known as Baptism of the Lord Sunday, a remembrance of new life. The story of the baptism in the Jordan is our story as it is that of Jesus of carpenter. It is a story about our foundational identity. As Jesus is immersed, a heavenly voice is heard: “You are my Son, the Beloved; with you I am well pleased” (Luke 3:22) Not only is he called, son, God’s own child, but also beloved. In these simple words, the truth of spiritual life is revealed. We are God’s children, created in the divine image and likeness, and we are beloved. Our being has infinite worth. So as we are invited to renew our baptism, we connect to whose and who we are. This act nurtures the next stage of our spiritual journey. May it be for you and for me.

Make a Home a Castle

2009-11-21T16:15:00.001-05:00

I can’t believe it, but the Sun News has vindicated me. After years of ignoring many decorating trends in favor of using inherited items and family photos to adorn our home, an article in this morning’s paper stated that we should reflect who we are by following this same practice. By incorporating such treasured items into an overall plan gives “a nod to our roots.”

Over the years I do admit that I have spent hours pouring over the pages of home decorating magazines and changed colors and window treatments as advised by the professionals. (No more orange and avocado with heavy drapes in my house!) However, as we have moved from place to place it has become increasingly important to me to surround us with items that reflect family and family. From Grandma Owens’s rocking chair to grandchildren pictures, our space certainly offers a reflection of who we are. To us these special things make our house feel like home. We have also found them to be a great catalyst for sharing family history with our sons and their families. Although not a castle, I find our home to wrap us in its own kind of luxury and to be a witness of a family’s strength.

Learning to be the Body of Christ

2009-11-14T22:13:00.002-05:00

For generations we have used a schooling-instructional paradigm as we define Christian education in our churches. That is, in a certain time and place and in a specific manner education is to occur. Although there are certain inherent elements of this that we constantly analyze and perhaps change, it is a basic model that continues to serve us well in some ways as we build up the church. We can read and recite scripture. We study a bit about church history, theological thought and Methodism. We are good students of Christianity and we give thanks for those who have helped us to be at this place on our journey.

However, we are realizing that it is in the everyday living that we can truly discover and be part of the Body of Christ. We learn while serving as Christ’s apprentices each day. We encounter the world and perform the scripture as interpreted within the traditions and understandings of our congregation. Our individual needs become secondary as we ask God in Christ for help in doing what is right, good, and loving as we walk our daily paths. We have a special opportunity for learning when together we open hearts and minds to new insight and understanding and respond to those who are in need of God’s grace and love. We truly experience spiritual formation. For in honoring the guest and stranger we welcome Christ himself. We are transformed and know what it means to be the Body of Christ. So, what changes in Christian education do we need to make as we seek to grow in understanding of our faith?

In Our Connection

2009-11-07T15:01:00.003-05:00

An e-mail from my friend Cynthia reminded me how important it is that the local UMC church share the stories of our connectional ministries. She had heard of the four areas of focus for the UMC as named at the 2008 General Conference and was excited to know that we are involved in these matters. Over the next quadrennium, the church will seek to focus the work of making disciples for Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world around these areas of ministry:

Combating the diseases of poverty by improving health globally.
Engaging in ministry with the poor.
Creating new places for new people and revitalizing existing congregations.
Developing principled Christian leaders for the church and the world.

For further discussion see this UMNS commentary.

This week the Council of Bishops approved a pastoral letter asking church members to participate in the healing. This document, “God’s Renewed Creation: Call to Hope and Action,” was started by the 2004 United Methodist General Conference. More than 5,400 United Methodists around the world have had input into the final document. “We cannot help the world until we change our way of being in it,” the bishops said in adopting the letter. The bishops recommend that this letter be read to congregations during the season of Advent.

If we understand that the Church exists to serve the world and that the congregations of the UMC connect with one another to effectively do so, we need to be more intentional about sharing connectional news and to be in conversation about it.

Whitefoot

2009-10-30T21:34:00.003-04:00

Our grandchildren, Annaka and William, are both great first-grade readers and we are impressed by their proficiency. Parents, grandparents and other caring adults dutifully listen and praise them for their accomplishments. I know that our reading to them has been an important contributing factor to their learning to read and we have enjoyed doing this. However, I also know that reading experts urge us to continue this practice as it will further help develop our young readers’ skills. Vocabulary will be enhanced and imagination inspired as we carefully share good literature with them. Recently, I discovered such a book and can’t wait to share it with them.

Whitefoot is written by one of my favorite authors, Wendell Berry. Berry’s engaging prose takes both reader and listener on a fascinating journey with Whitefoot, a small mouse who lives at the edge of the woods. When the nearby river floods Whitefoot is carried into a strange new world and discovers that she can cope with the challenges - certainly a valuable life lesson. The portrait of this tenacious little mouse is not only drawn with well-crafted words, but also is enhanced by several pen and ink illustrations by Davis Te Selle. There is a lot within this small book for a young mind to ponder.

The Greatest Challenge

2009-10-24T19:40:00.002-04:00

As a church professional I spend a lot of time studying and thinking about numbers, finances, programs and ministries. I want to help create a vital congregation that makes a difference to Myrtle Beach and the world beyond. My goal is always to nurture discipleship of Jesus Christ. And, I become frustrated and saddened when indifference and apathy seem to prevail. I become distracted about what is reality. It is not easy being a Christian. So, it was providential that I read the following written by Will Willimon: “Let us remind ourselves in worship this Sunday that our greatest challenge is that which it has always been – loving and serving a living, truthful God!" This is all that really matters, isn't it?

For Everything There is a Season

2009-10-11T19:18:00.006-04:00

During the past few weeks the opening words of Ecclesiastes 3 have been part of my being as Ron and I made two trips to Ohio:

“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to pluck up what has been planted; a time to kill and a time to heal; a time to break down and a time to build up; a time to weep and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance; a time to throw away stones and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek and a time to lose; a time to keep and a time to throw away; a time to tear and a time to sew; a time to keep silence and a time to speak; a time to love and a time to hate; a time for war and a time for peace.”

Our first trip included spending time with my parents who now live in an assisted living facility. It certainly seemed strange to visit them at this new address, but we were most pleased with their improved state of health and pleasant room and to see them adjusting to this new lifestyle. It was with mixed emotions we joined other family members in dismantling the homestead, as we have known it. Tears, laughs and stories were shared as we divided heirlooms and treasures. We also visited my sister and brother in-law who were coping with his last days of a four-year struggle with colon cancer. What strength they both have exhibited during these years while teaching lessons about living into dying to us all. With heavy hearts we returned to South Carolina knowing we would soon be back in Ohio. But, the call came only a few days later and we made plans to join family and friends in celebrating John’s life.

Although the skies were often gray and misty during this second trip to Ohio, Ron and I saw rainbows several times along the way. The light that reflected through tears when acts of love and concern gave comfort and peace seemed to create them. As did carefully selected music and words that offered hope for the days to come. How Can I Keep from Singing still rings in my mind and heart when sadness returns.

During this season, I became deeply aware that it is family, friends and faith that give us the strength and love to continue the journey. It has become a time not only of self-discovery as I admit it difficult to face my own mortality, but also a time to make sure that my own legacy is shaped by the Micah’s admonition to:

Where is Emily?

2009-09-17T22:21:00.002-04:00

Several years ago we had a manners class for 3rd-5th graders as part of our children’s ministry. It was our intent to augment and refine a child’s basic understanding of etiquette. Although it was a successful effort in many ways, we were amazed that we needed to teach many of them how to hold their eating utensils before we could talk about proper table manners. Apparently, this is not a prerequisite for fast food or current family dining. So, why does it come as a surprise that many of our families don’t understand what R.S.V.P. means?

Church event after event is planned that requires some indication as to whether the invited ones will be present. A response is requested by a certain date. After limited replies, we start calling the invitees to try to determine who might be planning to attend. In the meantime, a commitment to final plans for food etc. has to be made. I am not clairvoyant, but I often have to pretend that I have this special talent if we are to go forth with the activity. On Sunday, twenty-five third graders are to receive Bibles during the 8:30 worship service. This is to be followed by a brunch for the student and their parents and a time for discovering how one navigates through the Bible. I would think that this might be an important event in the life of a family. Although some have indicated that they will attend, many have been silent about their intent. Others have made other plans. It would seem that Emily Post needs to be required reading in many of our homes or do we need to submit to this cultural trend and order out when the group arrives?

Labor Day 2009

2009-09-05T08:17:00.003-04:00

On this Labor Day weekend, I can’t help but think of those who labor during this time of economic uncertainty. The latest Labor Department reports an unemployment rate of 9.7 percent. We all know stories of those who are under-employed or have given up. The effects continue to ripple through our lives, personally and as a community. Many of us have to re-think our priorities and to make difficult choices as we try to stretch our resources. However, it is important to remember low-wage laborers who support a culture that still demands many services and to offer justice and compassion where needed.

From the blog of Cathleen Falsani:

"So many of the stories in the Bible revolve around labor and laborers. Field workers. Shepherds. Fishermen. Builders. Weavers. Farmers. Servants. As one Labor Sunday sermon on the United Church of Christ Web site reminded me, Jesus (as a carpenter) was himself a “low-wage worker.” In our society, workers such as child-care providers, custodians, farm workers, day laborers, sales clerks, and housekeepers typically make the lowest wages for the longest hours.

“One-quarter of all jobs in the U.S. pay poverty-level wages,” the UCC sermon says. “In addition, these jobs are more likely to require evening, night, weekend or rotating shifts. They are less likely to provide health insurance, a pension, or even paid sick leave. They are more likely to be filled by women and people of color — marginal jobs for the already marginalized. Just like Jesus.”

Keeping Sabbath

2009-09-04T20:09:00.005-04:00

The beauty and rage of the ocean have long served as insightful metaphors for many of life’s experiences. Today, as I sat by the ocean and let the rhythms of the waves take away stress and sadness and bring in a state of serenity, my soul was renewed. Finding peace and understanding through God’s creation once again gave direction for the journey and served as a powerful reminder of the biblical instruction to keep Sabbath as a holy day of rest. Why do I keep breaking this commandment?

Wise Words

2009-08-24T12:04:00.003-04:00

This is the season of organizing Bible studies and trying to convince folk that this just might be the time for them to participate. Some are afraid to admit their limited knowledge and others feel that that have already done sufficient Bible study. Sometimes it is the wisdom of those who have gone before that provide the best argument for making this commitment. Such are the words of Gregory the Great (540-604):

"Scripture is like a river, broad and deep, shallow enough here for the lamb to go wading, but deep enough there for the elephant to swim."

Social Media

2009-08-17T19:54:00.005-04:00

A couple months ago I realized that I had better get on board with social media, especially as to how it might be important to my ministry and the church's ministry. I researched, reviewed and took the plunge. I am now on Facebook and Twitter as is First UMC. James Sturgeon is responsible for the latter and is doing a great job with keeping it current. Although social media has been great summertime fun, I still wonder about the significance of it all. Then, my son, Robert, sent me this video. Maybe we are doing the right thing as we seek new ways to effectively tell the story.

Just when thought I was catching up with the newest and the latest, my husband gives me a smart phone. Now I have a new challenge. Will keep you posted.

A Challenge

2009-08-15T17:22:00.004-04:00

As a regular reader of Issac Bailey’s column in The Sun News, I knew that I wanted to read his new book, Proud. Black. Southern. (But I Still Don’t Eat Watermelon in Front of White People) as soon as I was aware of it. Finally, I did read it several weeks ago and have been thinking about it ever since. Much of this book is comprised of previously published columns, which reflect on his personal experiences of growing up in South Carolina. As one might assume, he reveals some of his struggles as an African-American in a culture that is often labeled as racist. What is interesting is that Bailey’s observations are not always predictable and I find myself thinking about some of my views about race, especially in the South. He reminds us of the complexity of race relations and for the need for us to be in dialog about it, not only in our homes, our schools, but in our churches as well. As regular readers of his column know, Bailey just doesn’t write about matters of race, but puts himself in the community to discuss and act upon them. This becomes a challenge to the rest of us as we order our lives.

First Stop Online?

2009-08-11T20:59:00.003-04:00

At first I laughed when I read the NY Times report that folks are going online in the morning before coffee. Then I realized that I may be closer to this than I would have ever imagined a few years ago. Slowly, I have found myself needing to read e-mail, Facebook, Twitter, and blogs more frequently. Ron and I each have a computer and an iPhone. Although I could give several almost legitimate reasons for this, I do wonder if this is the best use of my time, But, be assured that coffee still comes first. When that changes I will know that I am trouble. But, the idea about texting Ron to get his attention might have merit.

In Defense of Food

2009-07-31T22:44:00.003-04:00

Michael Pollan, author of The Omnivore’s Dilemma, has written another book about the food we eat that will definitely linger in the mind of the reader, especially when one reaches for processed food. In Defense of Food is an account of the evolution and ramifications of the Western diet, which encourages one to return to the real, well-grown and unprocessed food for healthy eating. As Pollan says, ”Don’t get your fuel from the same place your car does.” By reporting how our culture has been immersed in “nutritionism” for the past thirty years and has become progressively sicker and fatter, he makes a good case for his basic conclusion- “eat food, not too much, mostly plants”.

Pollan further states that the habits that surround our eating seem to be very important to the health benefits of food. Eat meals and do so at the table instead of devouring snacks on the go. Eat slowly and not alone. The act of cooking is more than a task; it is a ritual that claims healthy eating as a way of life. Michael Pollan’s books have certainly influenced the choices we are making in our food consumption and I encourage others to consider his compelling case for good eating.

Zoe Ministry

2009-07-23T22:14:00.002-04:00

Currently, three First Church members are in Kenya as missioners with Zoe Ministry. Internet has allowed some of us to feel a special connection with them as they have this extraordinary experience. I share some of their thoughts and encourage you to keep them in your prayers as they continue sharing God’s love in Africa.

Some reports from Jean Clemmons:
"…We visited the Maua Methodist Hospital today. The most depressing thing I have ever seen...though they are so proud to have the hospital. The nursery for the premature babies was just deplorable. Had homemade incubators that looked like what mamma and daddy used to hatch biddys. A box with a glass in door and an electric light underneath the the base to give warmth. I talked to a girl (I don't believe she was over 13) who just gave birth to a baby girl ...she was outside with blood on her clothes looking into the window of the nursery.We also toured the lab and patient areas. Had an area especially for treatment for HIV/Aids patients of which they have many. The conditions here are worse than I had ever imagined."

"…This morning we all had a mountain top experience with "Moses". He is a young boy (20 years of age) in the ZOE Ministry who has been in the program 1 year. He touched us all with him ambition and hard work. With the help of ZOE training getting him started with farming, he has a beautiful crop of kale, maize, 2,000 tomato plants, coffee bean trees, and a tea plantation. He sells his crops and re-invest into his farm to increase productivity. He supports and sends 2 siblings to school, and also shares his produce with neighbors who have less."

"…We built a house yesterday and today for an orphan with 5 siblings. She presently is living in a 8x6 hut built with branches and cardboard. One sibling sleeps with her. The others go to different neighbors houses to sleep. I get emotional everytime I look at what sweet little "Faith" (the 17 year old) is presently living in. It is horrible. We will have the dedication for the two houses ( 24ft. x 24ft. 2 bedroom) our team has built on Friday. When we arrived at the site this morning...Faith had done some landscaping after we left yesterday using rocks for borders."

Shannon Hussey says: "...This has been the most wonderful blessing God has given me. I don't plan to simply make a scrapbook of "my tour of misery." See you soon!"

Our friends are part of a larger mission team and one of its members has created a blog to record some of their experiences and reflections. This is well worth reading.

All of this, plus a long-standing interest in Africa and a challenge from Shannon, has left me wondering about what it is that I need to be doing to reach out to my brothers and sisters in this part of the world. In God's time, I will know.

Older Adult Ministry

2009-07-17T16:38:00.000-04:00

Maybe it is because I am about to have another birthday, maybe it is because I have been occupied with aging parent issues or maybe it is because I am planning for our Snowbird and Seagull ministry, but I seem to be encountering some interesting articles about the graying of the church that have left me wondering. In our efforts to attract younger members, do we forget the fastest growing segment of our population? According to AARP, 41% of American adults are older than 50 and this number is increasing each year and it is well-documented that the average age of a United Methodist is 57.

We know that the older population cannot be uniformly defined and accommodated. It is popular to name three groupings of older adults as the go-gos, slow-gos and no-gos. Yet, do we really consider this in our planning for and nurturing of this segment of our community? It is much more than fellowship groups and large-print. It is no different than any other age group – know the needs and concerns and how individual gifts can be shared to create a nurturing ministry that promotes faithful discipleship. Somewhere along the way, we have given permission for too many of our older members to retire from the active status. We need them and they need us. It seems to me that we need to rethink much about what we call older adult ministry.

An Ohio Visit

2009-07-09T21:00:00.004-04:00

I have just returned from visiting my parents in Ohio. My sister and brothers joined me to celebrate our mother's birthday. Lots of memories were shared as we helped our parents make some important decisions. As my sister says, "Aging is not for the faint of heart." It made us each realize the importance of family when difficult times prevail.

Newsweek

2009-07-08T20:22:00.002-04:00

Recently, Newsweek made some radical changes in its format and content that left me wondering if I had lost an old friend. However, during the last few days I have had a good opportunity to spend time reading some of the current issues and have discovered a most interesting new friend. I do miss the shorter articles on a variety of subjects, but realize that I do and can read that kind of journalism on-line. What Newsweek now offers are more in-depth stories with a variety of respected voices reflecting on the subjects. Since I still find a special connection with the written word when I can hold it, dog-ear the pages and carry it with me, I find this quite appealing. Although the July 13 issue had a special report on the life and death of Michael Jackson, the "What to Read Now" focus was also included. It is interesting to note that this was the cover story for subscribers and Jackson was on the cover for newsstand readers. All of this seems to reflect another phase in the evolution of print media.

According to the editorial comment, the list of fifty books recommended in this particular issue of Newsweek are ones that “open a window on the times we live in, whether they deal directly with the issues of today or simply help us see ourselves in new and surprising ways.” Each one has a short explanation as to why one should read it in 2009. Some I have read, some are familiar, but too many I don’t know. Also included in this issue are an interesting roundtable discussion of writing books by those who do so and an article by David Gates about the pleasures of revisiting our favorite books. A listing of the top 100 books of all time can be found at Newsweek.com. All of this has left me hungry to find a comfortable, quiet place and do some serious reading.

Random Thoughts

2009-06-27T09:39:00.002-04:00

Reflecting on the week that was, some vivid pictures linger in my mind –

children singing with joy and being enthralled by storytellers,
families walking into the church together,
a confused governor trying to explain why he abandoned his post,

a woman politician saying a woman should not be considered for the county administrator position,

endless commentary about an entertainer’s passing and crowds gathering to mourn him,

a face of suffering and pain as another life was lost to cancer,

a hug from a child when he learned that he would be able to go to camp,

continuing images of Iranian protestors,

tears as we said goodbye to one minister and smiles as we welcomed another one,

dark storm clouds approaching just as VBS children were ready to enjoy a jump castle and other inflatables,

many hands taking down and putting away VBS for another year,

answering a phone to hear that my father’s surgery went well,

having a loving husband that is truly my helpmate.
As the children learned in VBS, I "experience and discover God everywhere."

P.S. – Four years ago today I began this blog and after 612 posts I am still finding new paths on the journey. Thanks for comments and challenges.

Moving Day

2009-06-24T08:23:00.002-04:00

Today is moving day for SC United Methodist clergy. Some will be moving to new churches, but all ministers mark this day as significant and lift prayers for congregations and pastors that are experiencing change. We know the history and polity of itinerancy. We know the value of this system. We also know the emotional turmoil that this often creates for those involved. So, today with sadness we say farewell to Scarlett and with excitement welcome Jonathan.

The success of clergy moves is not one-sided. The willingness of a congregation to embrace the newness that will be part of the days to come plays a large role in building a healthy relationship. Clergy are given all sorts of advice as to how to handle moves (although not always followed), but are congregations prepared? Sometimes I wonder if the cone of silence that surrounds these moves for months prior to moving day causes a congregation to circle the wagons in fear of what might be coming over the horizon. Perhaps we need to look again at how we handle this moving process in SC.

Father's Day

2009-06-20T12:30:00.002-04:00

Lengthy, eloquent tributes abound as daughters and sons send greetings to their fathers this weekend, but I am thinking more in a ‘top-10” format as I remember my dad.

1. I have never had to question Dad’s love of my mother or his
children.

2. With Mother, he has given us a sense of place, a home, that will always shape who we are.

3. Dad has taught us to appreciate the land on which we tread.

4. From his example, we learned at an early age what it means to be a good citizen and community servant.

5. As a faithful man of God, he has nurtured us in our discipleship.

6. If we tripped or fell on life’s path, he has always been there to catch us.

7. His love of reading has always been contagious.

8. Dad’s passion and care for animals has made us appreciate
all God’s creatures.

9. His ice cream gene has been successfully passed to children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

10. Dad’s appreciation of the restoring value of a good nap has always been modeled for us.

I love you, Dad!

A Very Good Book

2009-06-19T08:34:00.002-04:00

The Story of Edgar Sawtelle has been on my to-read list for months and after seemingly being intimidated by it’s length, I recently decided to tackle it as an audio book borrowed from the Socastee Library. During the following weeks, I looked forward to driving anywhere, because I knew Richard Poe’s voice would fill my car with the wonderful telling of David Wroblewski’s captivating novel. Set in rural Wisconsin, this family saga surrounds a unique breed of dogs and a mute young hero whose ability to communicate with both humans and animals is intriguing. Edgar’s tale takes the reader/listener to the extremes of human tragedy with the creative use of language and plot, the makings of a very good novel. I especially enjoyed the exploration of the heart and intelligence of this fictional breed of dogs that filled Edgar’s life with important companionship. Not the usual summer read, but one that I would recommend for others to consider including whenever they have time to savor it.

Woman of Character

2009-06-13T08:04:00.000-04:00

When reading the current copy of Sasee, I was delighted to see a picture of Shannon Hussey and Courtney Howard and to read the attached article. Shannon is Sasee’s current “Woman of Character” as a result of Courtney’s nomination. It is great to know that a youth recognizes the importance of a mentoring relationship. Also, I know that Shannon takes this role seriously. I was pleased that their confirmation experience was noted as part of this. Congratulations to both of these fine young women.

Annual Conference 2009

2009-06-06T18:04:00.004-04:00

Lay and clergy members of the South Carolina Annual Conference met in Florence this week. In the midst of taking care of business, we worshiped and enjoyed some important time of fellowship. And, sometimes we found ourselves or so it seemed to be for me this week.

For a variety of reasons, I arrived a bit tired and harried late Sunday afternoon. Almost immediately I was in the clergy session followed by the ordination service. Although it with great joy to see Jonathan Tompkins commissioned and Alice Deal ordained, I was beginning to be a bit blurry eyed and fuzzy brained with the final laying on of hands. It wasn’t until Monday that I truly began to be in holy conference with my brothers and sisters.

One of the first orders of business was to address the 32 amendments to the Constitution of the United Methodist Church as proposed by the 2008 General Conference. Some of the usual voices gave the predicted speeches for and against them and most of the comments were ones that had been well circulated prior to Annual Conference. However, all of this was conducted with more civility and in less time than I expected. The outcome in South Carolina was about as I predicted. I am not so sure how the UMC as a whole will respond, but somehow I feel it will be the right answer.

As is our custom, we remembered those clergy and clergy spouses who entered the church triumphant during the past year. The Rev. Mel Arant honored their ministries by sharing the Word with clarity and sincerity. With a background of appropriate music, projected pictures of each one of these servants reminded me of their humanity and devoted service. The power of this cloud of witnesses spoke to my soul and seemed to offer me assurance that I am doing what God has called me to do.

Renewing acquaintances and spending time with friends was nurturing, as it often served as a time of accountability. I have discovered that inherent in these relationships is the challenge to uphold my ordination vows. A sense of renewal began to prevail within my soul and by the time that Bishop Taylor sent us forth I was ready to continue the journey with courage and hope. Thanks be to God.

I Wonder

2009-06-05T11:18:00.004-04:00

I recently found this quote in an old file. The source is unknown, but the insight is timeless.

" The superficial church ignores its members gifts. The cannibal church devours its members to keep itself going. But the living church multiplies the gifts it is given and blesses the lives that are offered."

Which of these terms describes our/your church? Personally, I see a little of each of these definitions in my church and wonder how we can become a stronger living church. Any ideas?

Still Knitting

2009-05-30T10:07:00.002-04:00

A simple act of knitting three stitches and purling three stitches repeated again and again slowly becomes a prayer shawl. (A 2005 post) The shawl is offered with prayer to those who need to be reminded of God’s presence in their lives. However, this has also been a gift of God’s renewing and sustaining grace in my own life as I have practiced what has become a contemplative act during these last few years.

These days, as the tremors in my right hand challenge me, my knitting has taken on a greater significance in my life. Just as I have to accept that now I knit slower and struggle for even stitches and heartfelt prayers, there has become a greater compassion for others who face physical and spiritual tests. This has opened a door that I have yet to truly enter. I can’t accept my limitations, so it is difficult to honestly minister to others. As I look at my latest half-finished prayer shawl, I realize that God is not finished with me either. I know that I need to keep asking and answering the questions that will reveal a wholeness in this life, but too often the courage is lacking. Let me hear these words: “On God rests my deliverance and my honor; my mighty rock, my refuge is in God.” Psalm 62:7

Food for Thought

2009-05-26T21:42:00.003-04:00

According to Eric Weiner in The Geography of Bliss, the following hand-painted sign was seen on the side of road in Bhutan:

"When the last tree is cut,
When the last river is emptied,
When the last fish is caught, only then will man realize that he can not eat money.

Twitter

2009-05-25T20:14:00.003-04:00

Old dogs can learn new tricks or this one thinks she can. I am now Twittering. Note that Twitter updates will appear on the sidebar of this blog. It seems that this might be a good way to share links to good stuff and for me to offer some brief thoughts and news. I also want to explore the possibilities of this as a communication tool for the church. I wonder how I will do with this new adventure?

Clergy Home Churches

2009-05-24T21:44:00.003-04:00

For various reasons, I recently have been in conversation with those who are beginning their first ministerial appointments. Naming the church that they “came out of” seems always to be part of this. Of course, making such connections is part of South Carolina culture. However, I believe remembering those who have nurtured our call to ministry is an important exercise. It not only gives us a key to who we are, but identifies churches who understand and fulfill their obligation to empower those who have been blessed with special gifts for ministry. I especially think of Socastee UMC who can claim to have called forth at least six ordained clergy in recent years. Personally, I answered a call to ministry while a member of Lexington UMC. What factors make such churches “home” churches for clergy?

I remember Bishop McCleskey reminding clergy to share their personal call story with their congregation at least once a year. This is known to open the door for others to respond to that inner voice that has whispered to their hearts. It seems to be a gift of some clergy to effectively mentor these persons into pursuing ordination. However, it appears to be more often a congregation that is the critical factor for those answering the call to ministry. Persons are encouraged to explore this call through a variety of experiences and are affirmed in their faithfulness.

So, I have to ask –
Am I helping anyone hear a call to ministry? If not, how might I do so?
Why doesn’t First UMC regularly call forth ministers? What must we do to make this happen?

A Hiatus

2009-05-22T18:22:00.002-04:00

I didn’t plan a hiatus, it just happened. All at once I was just overwhelmed with lots of busyness and little time for reflection. Bits and pieces of thoughts would drift through my mind as I read and heard of the events of the day, but somehow the habit of developing these into a blog post seemed to be broken. It is now time for me to once again ponder what I am experiencing and to share it with others so that I can ask, “What does God require?” and to claim a clearer understanding of the journey into faithful living.

From family matters to world concerns, the challenge to grow in faith and to act with mercy and justice is ever present. Once again my heart sings, “Precious Lord, take my hand, Lead me on, let me stand.” My story needs to go beyond naming the requirements of God. I need to see and hear the hurts of the world and be a part of the healing. This involves sharing these needs with others and taking risks as I attempt to join the cloud of witnesses who touch the souls of those who need to be reminded of the love of God.

I recently attended the funeral of Delos Corderman, a well-known clergy member of the SC Conference, and heard accounts of how he had led a life of faithful servanthood. His strong perspectives on a wide variety of topics and his willingness to expound upon them often generated criticism from those around him, but he never forgot what he was called to do; i.e., proclaim the Good News. Although he had a variety of pulpits, his ability to genuinely care for others will certainly be remembered as his best sermon, a message always delivered with humor and a chuckle. Delos will be missed, but he left us with the challenge to be informed, to speak with passion about what we believe and to enjoy laughing along the way. A Pilgrim’s Perspective allows me to respond to this challenge, so the hiatus has ended.

Women in Ministry

2009-04-13T07:27:00.003-04:00

The greatest joy of ministry is being able to share the news of Easter and yesterday, once again, women were part of telling this story.

Leaders Need Easter

2009-04-11T15:20:00.003-04:00

Dan Dick shares a powerful Easter message in his blog. I encourage you to read it all.

"As Christian leaders, we NEED Easter. We need it because it reminds us of who we absolutely must be as clergy and laity guides in the Christian faith. It reminds us that we are entrusted with three (at least…) impossible tasks, made possible by the Lord and Savior we follow. These three irrefutable, unimaginable, and seemingly impossible tasks are:
love sinners
lead change
create a counter-culture"
more...

A Twist and Turn

2009-04-11T09:38:00.003-04:00

The Board of Trustees of Spartanburg Methodist College has been searching for a new president and on Tuesday we were summoned to the college to make the final decision amid discussion that it wasn’t appropriate for us to meet during Holy Week. However, it did provide an interesting time of reflection on many fronts. Wisteria, azaleas, dogwood and other signs of spring along the way offered inspiration for new possibilities not only for me, but also for SMC. In the life of the church, Holy Week can be very demanding. This day away seemed like a gift and a way to focus on the way to Easter.

The Presidential Search Committee reviewed the process and named their selection of Dr. Colleen Perry Keith. The Board of Trustees unanimously approved this choice and look forward to Dr. Keith’s leadership. Her appointment is significant as she will be the first woman president of this institution and her main charge is fundraising. It will be a new day at SMC, one for which Dr. Keith seems to be well prepared. I am excited about the possibilities that are before us.

Spartanburg Methodist Campus

A Charleston Visit

2009-04-03T09:06:00.002-04:00

“Charleston – where history lives,” an advertisement line that captures what Ron and I enjoy about this centuries old city and calls us to make periodic visits. Although cloudy and rainy, we ventured forth last Saturday for a Charleston experience. As usual, we walked the streets of The Battery area, peaked through the wrought iron garden gates, checked out unique shops on King St, read historic markers and looked for treasures at The Market. Of course, picking a place to eat was the biggest decision of the day. Fleet Landing was the winner and we enjoyed its waterfront views and well-prepared seafood. All of this is to explain the new banner on my blog.

However, the biggest treat of the day was a visit with Ms. Nell, a former resident of Myrtle Beach who now lives with family on Johns Island. As always, our conversation was stimulating and included many subjects. We looked over the marsh, watched a variety of birds come to the feeders, and admired her lovely new home. Her grace and smile offer joy and hope to all who know her. Thanks, Ms. Nell.

Grandma Jean

2009-03-30T07:25:00.003-04:00

“Grandchildren are the crown of the aged” (Proverbs 17:6) Recently, Ron and I enjoyed having our four-year-old grandson, Jack, visit us for a few days. As one might imagine, we had a great time creating good memories for the future. Of course, Ron’s photo blog records much of what we did. However, this picture is one of my favorites and a reminder of my responsibility to be a spiritual guide to Jack, our other grandchildren and all children.

In Psalms 71:17-18 we read:
“O God, from my youth you have taught me,
and I still proclaim your wondrous deeds,
So even to old age and gray hairs,
O God, do not forsake me,
Until I proclaim your might
To all the generations to come”

This is not only our challenge as grandparents, but our sacred responsibility.

A Visit With Norm

2009-03-21T16:36:00.003-04:00

What a nice discovery to find that Norm Jones has a blog! Norm was our first Duke Intern five years ago. As with each one since then, we like staying in contact and learning about their ministries. His blog gives us insight into what it is like to be the pastor of a four-point charge and to where his heart is. It is good to know that we have been a part of his journey.

Breaking News!

2009-03-20T15:17:00.004-04:00

Few things mandate two blogs in one day, but I just discovered that my favorite political cartoonist, Robert Ariail, is leaving THE STATE. Apparently, he and Brad Warthen, the editorial page editor, are casualities of the economic woes of newspapers. Although, he will still be nationally syndicated, I will miss his insight of local politics. Read Brad Warthen's words about Ariail. This is certainly one change that is difficult to accept. I will be adding his new website to my favorites and suggest that you do, also.

Faithful Parents

2009-03-20T05:59:00.000-04:00

In a recent effort to eliminate some of the clutter in my office, I have been reviewing, reorganizing and recycling (throwing or giving away) books, files and projects. Of course, it is hard to part with some things, so it is a slow process that involves a lot of remembering of past days. I have discovered a number of family ministry items that seem to be timeless. Finding ways to remind parents of their contribution to their child's faith development has always been a personal commitment of mine. The following talking points were in a presentation that I did once upon a time about what every child needs to grow in their faith:

-Parents who are comfortable with their faith, ones who read the Bible, pray with their children and use God language.

-Parents who help children make connections between faith and life.

-Participate as a family in the life of a congregation and honor sabbath.

-Have opportunities for faith-building experiences with other adults.

-Have time and space to ask questions about the mystery of God.

-Have opportunities to express themselves in music, art and word.

-Experience wonders of God's Creation.

-Have books to read and read to them.

-Know time, patience and love from those who surround them.

When these needs are met, a legacy of faith is passed on to the next generation. I know this because I had faithful parents.

St Patrick's Day

2009-03-17T07:59:00.002-04:00

St, Patrick’s Day evokes memories not only of my Irish ancestry, but also of a wonderful visit to Ireland in 1997. While reminiscing about this trip, I discovered the photo of me wandering through the cemetery at the Rock of Cashel that makes another reflective banner for this blog. Just as my great-grandparents traveled the narrow roads bordered by stone walls and green pastures to find their way to a new life, we, too, were on a journey of discovery. Fascinated by the culture, we explored cities to countryside to learn about a people who have contributed so much to the building of America. The deep and rich perspective of Celtic spirituality has become part of our listening to God as a result this experience and we continue to find God’s grace in the everyday images of humanity and creation expressed in Celtic writings.

This well-known prayer, modeled on the Breastplate hymn of St. Patrick, celebrates Christ in all things.

The Three who are over me,
The Three who are below me,
The Three who are above me here,
The Three who are above me yonder;
The Three who are in earth,
The Three who are in air,
The Three who are in heaven,
The Three who are in the great pouring sea

Lots to think about and celebrate today!

Walking thru Lent

2009-03-11T15:51:00.002-04:00

Currently, I am meeting regularly with a person who is in a discernment process before seeking ordination in the Episcopal Church as a deacon. I am not exactly sure how my involvement with this came to be, but what a good experience it is for walking the Lenten path of the Cross. As this is not a set process, we rely on the Spirit to work in and through us. Gary decided to read the Book of Acts during Lent and I was prodded to do this, also. However, we agreed to do this in the manner of lectio divina as outlined in a previous blog. Reading the familiar words in this way is certainly opening our hearts and minds to new possibilities and understandings about what it means to be a deacon. In our world of despair, there is an enormous need for those who know the heart of God to reach out to care, to love, to heal and to offer hope. The promise of the Holy Spirit gives us assurance of being the faithful witnesses that we are called to be. In Acts the repeated links between prayer and the Holy Spirit known in a community of believers, help us accept the challenge of surrendering our lives to the ministry of the diaconate.

This holy season of Lent is passing quickly. I entered into it with dread as I was afraid to intentionally face some of things which seemed to be polluting my soul. Helping Gary find his way has forced me to listen to God and given me a new depth of understanding of my own call to ministry. I find myself at a place that will allow me to more fully enter into the mystery of the passion of Jesus and accept the way of the cross in my own life as Easter approaches. Thanks be to God!

The Take-Away

2009-02-28T18:02:00.002-05:00

I am not sure where it began, but during the last year or so the phrase “the take-away” has become an increasingly popular one. Teaching/learning sessions frequently conclude with it and now a daily news program on our local NPR station has it as a title. This leads me to wonder if we shouldn’t ask ourselves about the take-away not only as we preach or teach, but also when we order the life of the church as our efforts to appease various points of view can often leave others wondering what the Gospel message might be.

What’s the take-away when

-we preach matters of stewardship, but fail to consider how we take care of God’screation?
-we teach that Jesus loves all the children, but we do not support measures for adequate education and health care for children within our own state?
-we ask members to be faithful disciples by assuming church leadership roles, then we fail to use their gifts?

During this season of examination, confession and repentance, perhaps we need to daily reflect upon what the take-away has been by those we have encountered in our work and play. Are we living in right relationship with God and others? Are we serving as witnesses to the saving grace of Christ? This kind of preparation might lead us to an authentic celebration of Easter. The take-away is my focus for Lent. What’s yours?

Wesley Study Bible

2009-02-21T10:55:00.002-05:00

I have been reading the promos for the Wesley Study Bible for several months, but it was only when I began to read some very positive reviews of it that I decided to buy one. I am not disappointed. This NRSV Bible gives understanding of the Wesleyan faith through text notes that reference the writings of John Wesley and sidebars by Wesley theologians that focus on key terms, like Prevenient Grace, Works of Piety and Sacraments. A third group of notes give insight into faithful discipleship in the Wesleyan tradition. This Bible was edited by Dr. Joel B. Green and Bishop William H. Willimon and published by Abington Press. It would seem to be a wonderful resource for those who lead Bible studies and want to make sure that they are conversant with Wesleyan terms and theology that define Methodism. In fact, I encourage anyone to purchase this Bible and refer readers to Cokesbury for details about it. Please note that the special introductory price of $24.95 is available only until February 28.

This week Larry Hollen has a good review of the Wesley Study Bible on his blog and Bishop Willimon has some interesting thoughts about it on his blog, also. I look forward to using this Bible in the days ahead, especially as I explore the Lenten texts.

Youth Ministry

2009-02-15T22:17:00.001-05:00

For ten years, First UMC has had a faithful and dedicated youth director. Then, he was gone. His tenure far exceeded the eighteen months that youth directors usually serve and was ready for a change of focus. We wish him well as he begins his new ministry with children and adults in another church. So we are in the process of finding a replacement. All of this leaves me wondering what should youth ministry in 2009 look like?

First, I applaud the efforts of those who are thoughtfully and prayerfully considering the answer to this question for few things are more hot button within congregations than youth ministry. Everyone has an opinion and it is usually accompanied with quite a bit of emotion. In the past, good youth ministry was primarily programs, events and other gatherings. However, we are told that youth no longer want a cruise director; they want to do things that make a difference like service projects and mission trips. We are realizing that the relationships and role models have the greatest influence on the lives of our youth. Yet, adults seem to have difficulty moving beyond the memories of their own experience and want youth programs to mirror what was important to them. The challenge of bringing these threads of the discussion together seems insurmountable some days. We have a job description that includes everything but walk on water and expectations that are probably not realistic. How do we reconcile the wants and the needs for effective youth ministry? Perhaps, we should listen more closely to what our youth are saying about what they need as they seek spiritual direction and ask only one question of our youth director candidates. Will he/she show our youth Jesus Christ?

Newspapers Then and Now

2009-02-14T10:08:00.004-05:00

The conversation continues about the future of newspapers and what this means to our society. This NY Times editorial reminds us of the influence of the newspaper in the past and what their demise might mean. Although I think the writer cites some compelling evidence of the importance of newspapers, I wonder if we already have passed the point of no return for the daily newspaper because of what it is. Most are a part of large media corporations with little investigative reporting or independent thought. Local human interest news often covers the front page and news of real consequence is hard to find. Probably the more significant issue is that of preserving a free press, one that is the voice of, for and by the people. We also need to be concerned about how we synthesize the vast amount of information that is available to us electronically and discern what we do with it. I feel that this is a discussion that should also extend to what we read or hear as church news. However, this is a matter for another day.

FYI – I am still not ready to give up the Sun-News and a cup of coffee each morning. However, I read several newspapers and news sources on-line, also.

A Long Way Gone

2009-02-07T16:42:00.005-05:00

In the bestselling book, A Long Way Gone, Ishmael Beah tells about being part of the bloody civil war in his home country of Sierra Leone. A the age of twelve he and several other boys were forced to run for their lives as rebels destroyed the nation. Eventually, he found himself in a village controlled by the national army where he was compelled to join their cause and for over two years he fought for this army, killing and torturing while in a drug-induced haze. It becomes almost too painful to read of whom he was becoming. Suddenly, he is delivered to UNICEF for rehabilitation in Freetown. and the slow journey to recovery begins. Though he was “a long way gone,” the slow journey to healthy self-understanding begins. Although we read some about this time and are in awe of those individuals who are key to his redemption, there remain a lot of elements untold. Beah is still a young man and I would suspect that recovery is an unending story for him. This insight into the lives of many young children caught in the crossfire of political agendas and forced to become soldiers is eye-opening and begs us to be peacemakers. I recommend adding it to your reading list.

Forty-two Years Ago

2009-02-04T20:00:00.005-05:00

It is hard to believe that 42years ago today Ron and I were married in the Jeffersonville Methodist Church (a UMC after the 1968 merger) in my Ohio hometown. My mother made my gown; my sister was my only attendant and the wedding created no debts. We said our vows amid family and friends, cut the cake in the fellowship hall in the church basement and left for a brief honeymoon in Lexington, KY. Two sons, two daughter-in-laws, and four grandchildren later we have lots of rich memories of a variety of experiences that have cemented those marital promises. Of course, there have been moments of tension and stress, but somehow we have honored our vows and continue to enjoy traveling life’s journey together. May this be a valuable legacy to our children and grandchildren.

Dan Dick's New Blog

2009-01-24T07:43:00.002-05:00

Dan Dick, whose position at the General Board of Discipleship was recently eliminated, is writing a new blog. I understand the need for staff cutbacks during these times, but it would seem that we will miss the important kind of insight that his research provided as we try to respond to the world around us So, I am glad that we can continue to read some of Dan's thoughts such as the this post, “What We’re Not Is As Important As Who We Are.” Through three stories he examines the possibilities that the institutional church excludes instead of welcomes those who are truly seeking spiritual growth. It certainly reminds us to take note of those who are not in our pews and just maybe to do something about it.

A Day of New Beginnings

2009-01-20T17:02:00.004-05:00

The psalmist tells us, “This the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” No matter where one’s political heart rests, today is an exciting day for us all. We are part of a democracy that perpetuates itself by the actions of responsible citizens who vote and allow for the transition of leadership to be orderly. Only history will reveal whether the inauguration of Barack Obama has been a defining moment in the life of this country. But one thing is clear, it will only be realized if we each do those things that are needed to build a healthier nation. Let our counsel be our faith as known through Jesus Christ.

These wonderful words of this hymn by Brian Wren (music by Carlton R. Young) come to mind as I try to capture the meaning of this day –

This is a day of new beginnings, time to remember and move on, time to believe what love is bringing, laying to rest the pain that’s gone.

Christ is alive, and goes before us to show and share what love can do. This is a day of new beginnings; our God is making all things new.

News Media Changes

2009-01-19T14:05:00.003-05:00

Like many people, I vacillate between embracing change and holding on to the past. One of the greatest examples of this would be how I receive the news. An unbreakable habit seems to be beginning each day with a newspaper (and coffee). Why? Maybe it is just a habit, but I think it is part of an important personal ritual that allows me to know what is happening in the world. The change is that a local newspaper no longer allows much insight into world news or even state news. However, it does allow me to learn how the people of Myrtle Beach are responding to the events and happenings beyond the waterway. Because, a local newspaper reveals so much about a community through its stories, editorial comments and advertisements, its slow demise is painful. Local radio and television stations daily news coverage only offers us the same handful of stories over and over again.

Television’s power to cast an indelible image certainly influences our thought processes and often inspires individual action and commitment. However, the growing tendency for producers to televise stories with very graphic detail has become and should be a parenting issue. Our children need to be aware of news happenings, but only at their level of understanding.

ETV Radio and NPR continue to be great sources for insight into and discussion of current South Carolina and national news stories. Funding struggles often bring changes to personnel and content and I have to adjust.

One aspect of the transition of news coverage of the world that I am enjoying is on-line news. From major newspapers to blog reports, I am gleaning a wide scope of information any hour of the day and almost wherever I happen to be. The overwhelming amount of news available in this way can be mind-boggling.

As a news junkie, I have also read Newsweek since a teenager and know that the words and pictures within have been important to my understanding of my place in the world. I have noticed that it no longer seems to cover a variety of stories, but focuses on a topic. A Washington Post article explains the change that news magazines are undergoing. It will be interesting to see their place develop as a source of cultural reflection and shaping. For the time being, I will continue to renew my subscription.

Karl Barth, a great Christian theologian of the Twentieth Century, often referenced the importance of reading the newspaper in one hand the Bible in the other hand. Although a Blackberry may replace the newspaper, it would seem that this directive continues to be important as we live into faithful discipleship. In many ways, Paul’s letters were news accounts (although biased) of what was happening in the world and helped the early Christians to respond.

As citizens of a democracy we know freedom of the press. In these most important days for our country, it is our responsibility to make sure that we maintain this constitutional right. It would seem to insure this, we need to keep being discerning consumers of all forms of news media.

Warm Thoughts

2009-01-17T09:16:00.002-05:00

The weather might be leaving many of us chilled, but our hearts are being warmed by some of the current news stories. The “miracle on the Hudson” has allowed us to believe in what seems unbelievable and has reminded us in so many ways of whom we need to be. We are also being captivated by the stories that are surrounding the upcoming inauguration of Barack Obama as our president. Political preferences aside, this historic moment is one that fulfills the vision of our democracy, a government for and by all the people. In the midst of these stories, we also remember an important voice that has helped lead us to this place in our history, Martin Luther King, Jr. For a number of years, United Methodist Bishop Woodie White has written a birthday letter to Martin as reflection on racial equality. Of course, this year’s letter is about Barack Obama. The weather may be cold, but warm thoughts are allowing many of us to let new ideas grow in our minds and hearts for the days ahead. Praise the Lord!

Full Moon

2009-01-10T20:09:00.004-05:00

As the skies darkened tonight, a nearly full moon caught my attention. I prevailed upon Ron to capture this beautiful sight with his camera so that I could share it. The official full moon is tomorrow night, but the weather forecast indicates that we might not see much of it in Myrtle Beach. The moon in any stage can capture our imagination and cause us to cast poetic thoughts into our conversation and writing. I envy those who can include such moments in poems and prose. However, I can enjoy reflecting on its beauty both today and days past, especially the memories of a winter moon reflecting across the snow covered fields of the family farm in Ohio. Tonight’s moon reminds me of Andrew Wyeth’s Full Moon, a print hanging in my home for many years. There are many biblical references to the moon including Psalm 8:3-4 telling us of God's creative power and goodness. Watching this bright solitary light climb across the silent winter sky seems to be a precursor of the healing that night can bring to the soul. May it be so.

Snowbirds Have Arrived!

2009-01-10T11:36:00.003-05:00

The snowbirds have once again migrated to Myrtle Beach. Each winter we welcome our friends from the North who come to enjoy our weather and golf. Over the years our Snowbird and Seagull Ministry at First Church has provided a sense of community for many of them. Locals also enjoy making new friends and participating in this fellowship time. Making sure that we continue to have a viable program is one of my responsibilities and since this is one of many programs that I am to make sure happens, I have had to practice what I preach. That is, I have had to establish a committee, define its tasks and delegate, delegate and delegate. It has been a joy to watch this particular group learn to take charge of meals, programs, golf and outings. Dabney, our program assistant, is also an important part of assuring and assisting these leaders in whatever need they have. All of this is to say, each of us – lay and clergy – can discover new ways of being effective servant leaders if we accept change and possibility in our lives. I am learning a lot from my older friends.

Mister Rogers' Neighborhood

2009-01-04T19:15:00.002-05:00

Matters that affect children always interest me, but my grandchildren give me more reason to be tuned in to what is being said and written about children’s well being. Thus, a recent commentary about the demise of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood on PBS caught my attention. Although Fred Rogers was often the basis for jokes and laughs, most of us realized that his gentle, caring manner taught our children more about healthy living than most any other television programming. His signature statement, “I like you just the way you are,” has enhanced self-esteem for several generations of children. In his absence, parents and teachers may need to be more attentive to doing this for today's children.

Danny Duncan Collum writes in Sojourners:
"Apparently there will never again be room in the mainstream of American culture for children's programming that is mostly about unquantifiable intangibles such as truth, beauty and love."

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Daily Bread

2009-01-03T10:10:00.005-05:00

With the beginning of the New Year, I am looking forward to encountering my journey with renewed energy. Although there will be a certain amount of high-level activity, it is the intentional refueling of the heart and mind that will give me nourishment for the days ahead. In no particular order, the initial efforts include:

Reading – A Long Way Gone by Ishmael Beah. Upon completion, I am sure that I will be sharing my thoughts about this remarkable account.
Family and friends – Lots of good conversations both in person and via phone. I really need to be more attentive to these relationships through regular contacts and visits as they allow me to understand in so many ways who I am and need to be.
Eating and Exercise – I have been enjoying good, healthy meals and know that lots of fruits and vegetables need to be part of my diet. Although we have not been to the gym for two weeks, we are faithfully walking through the neighborhood.
Study – I am preparing a four-part study “How the Bible Shapes My Faith?” and a homily for Seagull-Snowbird worship service. As usual, I am gaining the most.

However, as I reflect on what really does give me real energy and nourishment on my journey, I once again discover that there is a very real and trustworthy source of renewable energy. This source comes straight from God and can be drawn upon in times of silence, stillness and prayer. It also comes in unexpected encounters with God’s surprises. Every day offers a new opportunity to be nourished, to receive my “daily bread.”

New Beginnings

2009-01-01T20:49:00.003-05:00

"For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice
And to make an end is to make a beginning."

-T.S. Eliot,
from his poem, "Little Gidding"

Reading these words was a gift as I was trying to fulfill my resolution to be more attentive to this blog and my efforts at profound reflection or insightful prognostication were going nowhere. So I have not only spent the day packing away Christmas decorations, but also have allowed my heart and mind to discover the excitement of new beginnings in 2009.

"In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things came into being through him, and without him not one thing came into being. What has come into being in him was life, and the life was the light of all people. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not overcome it.”
- John 1:1-5

Christmas Worship

2008-12-23T16:04:00.004-05:00

As we make our way to Christmas and the daylight hours become fewer, we long for the light to shine into our lives. We remember and we hope. The moods of this time are a mixture of surprise and assurance. These become part of the great expectations of those who come to worship and give us focus as we plan for our services. What is it that we need to do to allow this to be an authentic celebration of the birth of Christ? With all this in mind Dan Dick’s blog caught my attention.

"If this year is like every other year in recent memory, United Methodist conegations will see a marked increase in attendance on Christmas Eve. The estimates are general, but taken together they provide a striking range: most Protestant churches see somewhere between a 70-200% increase in church attendance on December 24. It is easy to assume that most people attend worship on Christmas Eve because of their faith, but what REALLY brings so many out just one time each year? Here are some reflections from a 2006 survey of once-a-year church attenders in UMCs.
Why do you come to church on Christmas Eve?
family — this is what my family does (tradition) and I want to be with family (30%)
music — I love the Christmas music and want to sing the familiar and favorite songs (22%)
experience — I love the songs, the candles, the story, the feeling (16%)
focus — Christmas has gotten so crazy; I like the clear focus on the reason for the season (12%)
habit — we do this every year (11%)
faith — this is the most special and important event in my faith; I wait all year for this (5%)
other — friends asked me, I got an invitation in the mail, I just decided to, etc. "
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A Season of Traditions

2008-12-13T08:27:00.005-05:00

As Christmas approaches, I have discovered once again how tightly the heart can be bound by tradition. Simplifying Christmas does not come easily when each custom, decoration, ornament, card and recipe tell stories from our past and seems to require continuance lest something important about Christmas at the Osbornes will be lost. So, we find ourselves in the midst of the usual seasonal activity and maybe much of this is especially important this time of great economic uncertainty. Although gift giving is certainly part of our celebration, we have always known it is the thought and not the quantity or cost that matters. We are blessed to be able to tell the Christmas Story through our own traditions and truly know the message of peace, joy, hope and love. May it be so for the days and years to come.

FYI: Ron and I bought this star forty-one years ago for our first Christmas tree.

Let's Walk to the Stable

2008-12-06T12:11:00.002-05:00

As we enter into the season of Advent, I am sensing the usual conflict of thoughts and emotions about how we journey to Bethlehem and this Robert Ariail cartoon doesn't help. However, perhaps this state of mind might be the way it should be as it offers an opportunity for important reflection and introspection. Maybe the preparation becomes more purposeful. For this I often seek wisdom not only in scripture, but also in the thought provoking words of others. Last evening my sister introduced me to these lyrics of the hymn, Like a Child, by Daniel Charles Damon.

Like a child love would send to reveal and to mend,

like a child and a friend, Jesus comes.

Like a child we may find claiming heart, soul, and mind,

like a child strong and kind, Jesus comes.

Like a child we will meet, ragged clothes, dirty feet,

like a child on the street, Jesus comes.

Like a child we once knew coming back into view,

like a child born anew, Jesus comes.

Like a child born to pray and to show us the way,

like a child here to stay, Jesus comes.

Like a child we receive all that love can concieve,

like a child we believe, Jesus comes.

#2092 The Faith We Sing

Thanks, Mary!

Three Cups of Tea

2008-11-25T16:23:00.001-05:00

Once in awhile, I read a book that captures my attention long after the last page is read. Such has been Three Cups of Tea by Greg Mortenson and David Oliver Relin. This real life story of a former mountaineer turned humanitarian working to build schools in Pakistan and Afghanistan offers words of promise to the human spirit. Through amazing trials and circumstances, Mortenson has been able to offer education – especially to girls – as a way to promote peace in this impoverished and war-torn part of the world. How has he accomplished what might seem an impossible task? As advised by his mentor, Haji Ali, he learned to take time to share three cups of tea as the way to do business. “The first time you share tea with a Balti, you are a stranger. The second time you take tea, you become family, and for our family, we are prepared to do anything, even die.” Mortenson learned “to slow down and make building relationships as important as building projects.”

This book not only tells a fascinating story, but also provides insight into the geography and culture of this region, plus an understanding of the Taliban. It is on the 2009 UMW Reading Program List and is available in our church library as an audio book. I recommend that others add this to their want-to-read list and then sit down with a cup of tea and enjoy this story of a real life hero.

God Has Big Ears!

2008-11-23T20:50:00.002-05:00

Our five-year-old granddaughter, Annaka, is asking a lot of faith questions these days according to her mother. “How can God hear everyone’s prayers?” “Why can’t we see God?” Since parent answers don’t always satisfy her curiosity, she has discovered that she has to sometimes figure them out for herself. She has decided that since God hears all our prayers, God must have big ears and thus does not want to be seen. What great wisdom!

I am glad that she realizes that God listens to little girls and maybe everything doesn’t have to be seen to be believed.

Trivia

2008-11-20T21:00:00.000-05:00

I have an interest in words that all at once become part of our everyday vocabulary. During our recent political campaigns, we frequently heard the word vet or vetted. I understand its meaning, but what about its origin? As has become a common practice, I went to Google for the answer. According to Wikipedia, “to vet was orginally a horse-racing term, referring to the requirement that a horse be checked for health and soundness by a veterinarian before being allowed to race. Thus, it has taken the general meaning ‘to check’”. Perhaps, we can now retire paradigm or paradigm shift, a too frequently used buzzword, as vet and deflation are today’s words. However, this might be a disconnect for some.

Board of Ministry Days

2008-11-15T12:58:00.002-05:00

For three days this week I was immersed in the work of the Conference Board of Ministry at the White Oak Retreat Center near Winnsboro. Although I have previously reflected on our meetings, they continue to generate some fresh thoughts. As we discussed important aspects of ministry with candidates for ordination as deacons and elders, I was most impressed with how many of them have grown significantly through their probationary period and already have effective ministries. A male colleague commented on how impressed he was with many of the women who wrote and spoke so very well. This was a great acknowledgement of what is being proven in many churches across our denomination. However, there were several times when we had to tell candidates, both male and female, that we found their papers and interviews to be lacking in clear understanding of what it means to be an effective minister. This is always painful and leaves me wondering why this happens. It often seems that perhaps the absence of honest and forthright guidance by pastors, congregations, district boards of ministries, mentors, seminary professors and even family and friends allows the candidate to assume that they will eventually be ordained. Perhaps the candidate’s call to ministry has been misunderstood and is to be fulfilled from the pew rather that the pulpit. Those of us who walk with these candidates have a great responsibility to light the way, not just pass judgment after years of preparation. It would seem that these thoughts could also apply to many family, church, school and work relationships.

Children's Advocacy

2008-11-08T11:03:00.003-05:00

Tomorrow at First UMC is Children’s Sabbath. Although often interpreted to mean some sort of Children’s Day program, the intent of it is to recognize our role as advocate for all children and to remind us to share God’s love by meeting their needs each day. The following statistics provided by the Children’s Defense Fund are a call to take notice of what is happening to our children. What am I doing to change these numbers?

Moments in America for Children
March 2008

-Every second a public school student is suspended.*
-Every 10 seconds a high school student drops out.*
-Every 17 seconds a public school student is corporally punished.*
-Every 25 seconds a child is arrested.
-Every 35 seconds a baby is born into poverty.
-Every 36 seconds a child is confirmed as abused or neglected.
-Every 41 seconds a baby is born without health insurance.
-Every minute a baby is born to a teen mother.
-Every 2 minutes a baby is born at low birthweight.
-Every 5 minutes a child is arrested for a drug offense.
-Every 9 minutes a child is arrested for a violent crime.
-Every 18 minutes a baby dies before his first birthday.
-Every 3 hours a child or teen is killed by a firearm.
-Every 5 hours a child or teen commits suicide.
-Every 6 hours a child is killed by abuse or neglect.
-Every 14 hours a woman dies from complications of childbirth or pregnancy.

* Based on calculations per school day (180 days of seven hours each)

Election Eve

2008-11-03T21:33:00.003-05:00

On the eve of Election Day, Kathy James offers a most appropriate prayer. She reminds us that it is not only what happens tomorrow that is important, but also how we live into the following days.

A trip update - We are back in Albuquerque and will return to Myrtle Beach tomorrow to await the election returns.

A Rainbow Connection

2008-11-02T23:40:00.003-05:00

What could have been a miserable rainy experience turned out to be a beautiful time spent in Canyonlands National Park. On three different occasions we saw magnificent full rainbows arch over the canyons. How breathtaking! My personal photographer captured this picture of a double rainbow for a lasting memory of our wonderful Southwestern experience.

"I have set my bow in the clouds, and it shall be a sign of the covenant between me and the earth." Genesis 9: 13

A Mountain Top Experience

2008-11-01T09:45:00.002-04:00

I have always enjoyed traveling by train, especially the scenic rail excursions, and have dreamed of riding the Durango and Silverton Narrow Gauge Railroad for a long time. Yesterday, I got to do this and can only say it was a mountain top experience in the truest sense. Not only the awesome views along the way, but also the slow swaying motion of the train allowed for a special time of connection to God’s Earth with my innermost being. What a magnificent day!

For more pictures of our travels, see Ron’s blog.

A Different Perspective

2008-10-30T00:05:00.002-04:00

After a few days in Albuquerque for my Christian Educator’s Fellowship Conference, Ron and I rented a car and headed to points beyond for some vacation time. After looking up at the surrounding mountains for nearly a week, one of our first stops was Sandia Crest, a mile above Albuquerque. What a different perspective! This could be said for much of the conference.

As I walked the streets of Albuquerque, the confluence of Hispanic, American Indian and Anglo cultures was very evident. What was different was that I was in the minority. This is something to think about as we as a nation are experiencing this major culture shift and learning to live into this new national face with peace and justice. As I learn more about New Mexico, I realize the church has been a major contributor to shaping its social history. Sometimes this has been for the better and sometimes not.

The message from worship to workshops at the CEF Conference seemed to be to look at one’s ministry with a different perspective. Native Americans called us to enter into prayer as they shared their own form of prayer in song and dance. We joined our voices in a powerful litany that reflected the Native American vision of the Seventh Generation (decisions made today must consider those of the seventh generation of the future) as we convened. Thinking and acting beyond what makes an impact on me today certainly is a different perspective.

Marjorie Thompson, noted spirituality author and speaker, reminded us as Sabbath workers to take time to be instead of always being concerned about what we are getting done. Bill McKibben, Ron’s environmental hero, forcefully and faithfully challenged us to take care of God’s creation. My workshop experiences examined how we live together in community and often noted that we fail to honor the gifts of those we welcome into our churches. Our main objective seems to be to shape these folks into our personal interpretation of Christianity instead of allowing the church to be strengthened by new gifts. These voices of different perspectives have given me much to ponder in the days ahead.

William's Bear

2008-10-27T10:34:00.005-04:00

Prior to leaving Myrtle Beach, William’s bear came to visit us. William, our grandson, is in kindergarten and is participating in a “Flat Stanley” type project. Therefore, William’s bear is traveling with us on this trip. He has enjoyed Albuquerque, especially the Old Town area. But, he did try to sit on a cactus and has been standing instead of sitting ever since. This project has been good for these grandparents, also. We have often looked at the sights through the eyes of a child and been able to know the simple joy of new experiences.

Mid-Life Crisis?

2008-10-27T00:10:00.002-04:00

Lest anyone think that I am only playing in Albuquerque, let me assure all that I am also using this as a time to do some focused study about several ministry matters that concern me. Of course, worship and fellowship are also important part of this event.

Recently, I have noticed that we have a number of middle-aged members at First UMC who are nearly invisible. These are persons that I formally saw regularly. Excuses heard about this include: they are empty-nesters, some have aging parent issues with which to cope, others are in stressful careers and a few are facing major health issues. In a workshop, “In the Middle of the Journey”, I learned that many congregations are waking up to the reality that these members are doing what is named as defecting in place. Why?

Perhaps, this fading away relates to the place mid-life members find themselves to be in the church. They are called to be the doers. They are the teachers and leaders of others with little support for their own need of finding balance in a complex world. They find their “third place” – another term that I learned – after home and work to be a civic club, a gym, an activity etc.

Interesting facts of this age group include:
-comprise about 40% of U.S. population,
-about two-thirds are overweight,
-are the nation’s biggest spenders and debtors, and
-greatest common denominator among issues is the death of a parent.

The discussion was not on what programs might be needed, but how we could live our life together so that the mid-life members might not feel used, but supported. I think there should be similar conversation at First UMC as we seek to be in ministry with all of our members.

A Visit to a Museum

2008-10-24T12:58:00.004-04:00

When we travel Ron and I enjoy visiting museums, especially those that represent the area we are visiting. We have found these to be wonderful time capsules of the local culture whether they have large or small collections. They usually capture the character and heritage of the city or community and are both educational and fun. Yesterday, we explored the Albuquerque Museum located in the Old Town area. Surrounded by a wonderful sculpture garden, this museum has a variety of displays including contemporary to classic art, a school, and a large history gallery. We especially enjoyed some of the unique art of local artisans and the Four Centuries History Galleries where the history of Albuquerque and this region was well told through storyboards, pictures and artifacts. We certainly feel that we better understand the people of this area and are glad that we spent several hours wandering through these displays both inside and outside.

Institutions such as museums, libraries and parks usually have to operate on carefully managed budgets. I hope this current national economic downturn does not jeopardize the existence of such places and that future generations will be able to enjoy and learn from them.

Albuquerque

2008-10-23T20:43:00.002-04:00

Ron and I are in Albuquerque for a few days attending the National Christian Educator's Fellowship Conference and then we will be sightseeing for another week in Santa Fe etc.. Even though I plan to use this as a time for rest and relaxation, I cannot escape the realities of this important political season. Jim Wallis's current blog about "faith priorities" is certainly worth a read.

By the way, I am already feeling my soul being blessed by the glorious blue skies and the magnificent sunsets. Maybe tomorrow I will check-out a sunrise.

Let Wisdom Guide

2008-10-18T17:00:00.002-04:00

This week I discovered that GBOD Research and News and Views by Dan Dick has some very interesting information and thought for our congregations. Dick has been analyzing and writing about what is happening in our churches for a number of years and offering insight as to what effective structures, leadership and processes might look like. Topics found in his posts include: mega-church, blaphemediocrity, ecumenism and environment. I have added it to my blog reader.

The trials and traumas of working my way though reading papers for candidates seeking ordination have occupied my late nights earlier this week. My friend, Stephen Taylor, is writing about this and I recommend his blog for good insight about the process. In addition to papers answering disciplinary questions, the Call and Disciplined Life Committee which I chair must review issues of health, credit, academics, psycological tests, recommendations and security checks. I spent four hours on Friday in Columbia making sure all is in order for our November meeting with the candidates at White Oak. These multiple pieces of paper can be very revealing about whether candidates are ready for effective ministry. Mainly, there will be questions asked about excessive debt and weight and careful responses given to help the candidates understand why their answers are important.

The fall meeting of the Spartanburg Methodist College trustees was Thursday and our focus was whether we stay the course with our strategic plan or modify in light of the economy and other factors. Basically, we decided to proceed as planned. I never fail to be impressed by the dedication and commitment of other trustees, staff and President Teague. Many challeges face us as we try to fulfill the historic mission of this college.

I think that it is interesting to note that I am working on a sermon for Monday night about wisdom – James 1:5. Perhaps, this is the word I need to hear at this time as I walk through some of the before mentioned matters.

I Voted!

2008-10-11T09:37:00.003-04:00

Because we will be out of town on Election Day, Ron and I journeyed to Conway yesterday to vote. I always enjoy the opportunity to walk around this historic and picturesque town and have lunch in one of her good restaurants. This time we voted for The Trestle. In this setting it was easy to think about those who have protected our democracy by conscientiously casting their ballot in years gone by. Or, maybe it was because we recently watched John Adams, the wonderful HBO series, that I felt I was fulfilling a mandate given to all US citizens and I wasn’t going to drop the ball.

Our presidential candidates have talked much about the conversation that is happening around the kitchen tables in homes across the country. I hope this serves as a reminder to many families to have these intentional and thoughtful times. Experts on family life indicate that this is happening infrequently and the communication of values and ethics from one generation to the next is lacking. I know that this is the setting in which I learned much about my responsibility to vote. Let’s recall these times for our families and our country.

Elderspeak

2008-10-07T08:06:00.002-04:00

I didn’t know the term elderspeak, but I have certainly heard it and intuitively known that it was often demeaning. Years ago, when visiting my grandmother in a nursing home, I was appalled at the caregivers using such terms as sweetie and dear and addressing her by her first name. This was not who she was to the rest of the world. As a well-respected person within her community in that era, she was known as Mrs. Owens. She didn’t complain, but I often wondered what she thought of this familiar practice. During my years with the Council of Aging and later in my ministry, I have often encountered elderspeak and still had that sense that it was not appropriate. According to The New York Times, this practice can actually be harmful to our elderly. I hope its message is widely circulated not only among those who care for the elderly, but also throughout our society. Our elderly deserve a sense of respect. It is the healthy thing to do.

Adult Christian Education

2008-10-04T09:25:00.007-04:00

I am in the midst of preparing for several different presentations and as always I am enjoying that process. However, trying to focus on a variety of topics at one time has my head spinning. My mind wanders from one to another in a disjointed manner and I have difficulty feeling prepared for any of them. But, this does lead me to the larger picture of adult Christian education and its importance to the church.

Constant review of what we are doing in adult Christian education seems to be imperative if we want to strengthen our faith in a healthy way. It seems that we should be asking-
-Who is teaching/leading our classes and studies? Who else needs to be part of this ministry?
-What is the curriculum? What is really being taught?
-Why do we offer these opportunities? Why should we be concerned about this?
-When do we have these learning opportunities? When might we have them?
-Where is God in all of this? Where are our deficits?
-How do we make needed changes to fulfill this important responsibility of our congregation?

Of course, I need to be part of this Q&A and have to wonder if I am giving enough attention to these matters. As I attend the National Christian Educator's Fellowship Conference in the near future, I hope not only to gain personal insights, but also ones for First Church, Lots to think about in the days ahead.

An Eventful Week

2008-09-27T13:04:00.001-04:00

After a week of the unnerving Wall Street disaster and an uneventful presidential debate that went nowhere, I learn that Paul Newman has died. What a news filled week! I may not be able to offer great insight to any of these events, but I can say that I have long admired Paul Newman, the actor and the person, and his passing saddens me. From Butch Cassidy to Fast Eddie and other memorable roles, he provided us some wonderful entertainment through the years. But, in recent years I have had great respect for his humanitarian efforts, also. Not only did he use his fame to bring attention to issues that were important to him (and us), but also he used his resources to support them. Most of us can’t begin to understand the intricacies of our national financial dilemma or comprehend what is really being said in this political season, but we can each name those things that we know to be important to our society and do something about them using whatever resources that we might have. Paul Newman did and so can we. This is probably the most hopeful word of this week.

Condemn or Create

2008-09-23T08:28:00.002-04:00

Leonard Sweet is gifted at interpreting contemporary culture and how it influences the life of the church. Of course, he often rephrases these comments to question why the church does not do more to shape culture. After one more of those frustrating conversations with a church member about what the church needs to consider in its offerings to its members and the world beyond, I remembered these words of Leonard Sweet:

“…the church has four options when it comes to engaging culture: ignore it,imitate it, condemn it, or create it…”
…If the church ignores the culture, the culture will ignore the church.
…If we don’t shape the culture, the culture will shape us.
…If the church condemns the culture, the culture will condemn the church.
…If we’re serious about fulfilling the Great Commission and incarnating the gospel, we can engage culture by creating culture.
…the culture will treat the church the way the church treats the culture. And we’re not called to condemn. We’re called to redeem.”

The Church of the Perfect Storm p, 114

Think about it and and consider how we might act accordingly.

Wednesday Night Fellowship

2008-09-18T08:42:00.002-04:00

In recent years, many churches have reclaimed Wednesday night as a church night. But instead of worship as in the past, the focus is meal, Bible studies, choir practices and activities for all ages. First Church has shaped such a program for eight or nine years with varying levels of participation. Each year we survey, analyze, change and pray as plans are made to create a program that meets the greatest number of needs. It should also be noted that we have to carefully consider space when making decisions about what we will offer. Providing a good meal at a reasonable price is becoming an increasing challenge. All of this is to say, lots of thought is behind what we offer each week. However, Wednesday Night Fellowship is not what many persons envision and this provides a major dilemma for me as my name is attached to it. The only solace in this situation is that many of my peers in other churches are facing the same declining interest in this kind of program. One size does not fit all. Perhaps the season for this type of experience has passed. The most frequent comments I hear involve that family schedules cannot be stretched to include several hours at our North Campus on Wednesday night. There are also mileage and food cost considerations. Perhaps we are not considering the realities of 2008 in our planning. How important is this major focus to growing faithful disciples?

West Virginia By-ways

2008-09-13T07:10:00.004-04:00

John Wesley Methodist Church in Lewisburg, WVA. Built in 1820 of hand-made brick. It is in "meeting-house" style with interior gallery.

Since 1983 we have traveled I-77 at least once a year as part of our pilgrimage to Ohio. Fortunately, the road conditions have improved over the years and the travel time has decreased. We have also developed a list of favorite rest stops along the way and know just how long it takes to get from one landmark to the next. Over the years we have explored some of the interesting places nearby this route and have discovered some wonderful examples of American history and culture especially in West Virginia. We have traveled the Coal Trail through West Virginia and been to places like Thurmond, Bramhall and Hinton. The New River Bridge and Gorge is spectacular and the state parks display the majesty of God’s creation. Today, we found another gem by taking I-64 at Beckley to Lewisburg. As we walked the streets of the historic district, we found interesting samples architectural charm, a delightful variety of shops and quality restaurants. The surrounding countryside is dotted with cattle, sheep and horses and their owners have some beautiful old homes and barns. These ventures remind me how important it is not to be so focused on our destinations that we don’t take side trips along the way. They can be an important part of the journey.

An Ohio Visit

2008-09-11T23:04:00.002-04:00

We are enjoying a hint of fall this week while visiting family in Ohio. Cool weather, lack of rain, maturing crops, presidential politics and Ohio State football dominate the conversation. However, as usual, it is the memories of times past that surround me and lead me into realizing how family and community have shaped me.

However, it is my parents that are the focus of our visit as they are elderly and have health issues. Fortunately, they have a very supportive network that lets them live in their home, the one where my dad was born and the one they have shared for sixty–four years. With the approach of winter, all are wondering if they can maintain this living arrangement. We join many, many other families striving to do the right thing and I have decided that each one has to chart its own course. There seem to be few easy answers and the ones that we feel good about only come through family conversation and prayerful consideration. Long-distance care-giving is not an easy task.

T.S. Hanna

2008-09-06T08:52:00.002-04:00

Weather reports have trumped political news these past few days in Myrtle Beach. This morning Hanna has moved on leaving little damage and 4-5 inches of rainfall. For this we give thanks. However, I am left thinking of all sorts of comparisons that could be made between hurricanes and presidential elections, but I will let readers have their own fun with this mental exercise.

Human reaction to potential storms is interesting to observe. From panic to complete dismissal, strangers become neighbors as they gather to offer personal thoughts and insights. A strong sense of community develops. Whether needed or not, for some persons it means a frantic trip to the grocery store and for others it is time to put up the plywood that they have stored for such occasions. A friend told me about a local psychic that had taken down her sign and boarded the windows. I did wonder what she knew that the rest of us might not know. There are others who at their own peril must be out exploring what is happening. Our new local TV station has been totally energized by this weather story and has made every effort to make this a significant event. Of course, I believe that we are to heed warnings and use wisdom is making decisions about our personal safety, However, I think prayer rather than tea leaves is more effective in my discernment process.

Struggling

2008-09-01T20:33:00.002-04:00

I know that the first step in dealing with matters that pull and tug at my innermost being is to admit and name them. So the time has come for me to say that during this past year I have been struggling with the onset of familial tremors in my right hand. In the whole scope of health issues, which I could experience, this would be noted as minor. However, I have never really had to cope with physical issues as I have only had the types that are rather easily remedied. This makes this condition harder for me to accept. Also, this one is here to stay. The greatest physical difficulty, which I am experiencing, is with my handwriting. I am very frustrated that I cannot write personal letters and jot quick notes to others or myself. Of course, I am overly self-conscious of my trembling hand and wish that I could accept it with more grace. I can still use my computer and knit, but even these aren’t done as easily as they once were. Unfortunately, my children and grandchildren have probably inherited this gene and may also experience the vexation of such tremors. My sharing of this personal struggle is not a request for sympathy, but as a way to live with it without letting it be so embarrassing and demoralizing. Somewhere there is a gift to be claimed in this.

This part of my journey certainly has given me greater insight to the physical challenges of many persons whom I encounter daily. I no longer easily dismiss their anger and wounded souls and more fully realize that to feel our feeling is a necessary part of restoring our wholeness. Scripture reveals time and again that God knows our feelings and understands. I may not be cured of this thorn, but I may be healed so as not to know the bondage of this tremor. This is my prayer.

Psalm 100

2008-08-29T08:33:00.004-04:00

I admit that I have been sidetracked in my blogging by Wordle. I have found it to be an interesting and insightful way to look at familiar passages of scripture. I invite you to reflect on this version of Psalm 100. It is also interesting to scrutinize politican's speeches in this way.

Why I Blog

2008-08-26T22:06:00.002-04:00

I have discovered that blogging can be a true spiritual discipline. It can help me to concentrate and to get in touch with my heart. This focusing on experiences and processing on the accompanying emotions leads to important reflection on significant events in my life. Often writing about it can redeem a difficult and frustrating day. I claim what I have lived and make it part of my journey. It becomes lifesaving and sometimes good for others who might read what I write.

Thank you to those who keep encouraging me to find the inner places that I hardly know that are there and to discover spiritual answers to the questions that keep being asked. There are hidden treasures to be found when I allow new thoughts to emerge when writing or blogging. The realization that Jesus walks with me and speaks to me on the journey becomes even more real. What a blessing!

Wordle

2008-08-24T22:04:00.003-04:00

Through Internet reading, I discover all sorts of interesting trivia and ways to think about life in new ways. Larry Hollen introduced me to Wordle, an online program that creates a word cloud from text provided. I ran Wordle on my blog site and got this word cloud. (Click on this image for an enlargement.) I think this was created from recent blogs only. However, it is interesting to see what subjects and phrases that I use frequently. This kind of overview of our use of words could give us useful insight into the word pictures we create for others to see.

School Days

2008-08-22T08:48:00.003-04:00

These are exciting days for children as they begin a new school year and an important transition time for their families. For the first time in many years, we personally sense the significance of what these days mean as our two oldest grandchildren are beginning kindergarten. Although we rejoice in this occasion, we know some of the challenges they will face and instinctively want to keep them under our watchful eye a little longer. Prayers for protection take on a new urgency and parenting/grandparenting issues change. May we all know God’s love and grace as we move through this time.

Metaphors

2008-08-16T17:08:00.002-04:00

As I write a sermon for our Monday evening worship the rich imagery presented in Scripture once again ignites the power of the Word for me and puts it in the present. It is the images, the stories and the poetry of Scripture that reveal God’s holiness again and again. Jesus is the greatest master of metaphor. In his metaphors lies metamorphosis. In other words, through the language of metaphors we find truth and meaning in our faith. It is said that the metaphors we live in become the reality we live out. Images and imagination are imperative to revealing that which is sacred. So be it as I struggle with this sermon.

A New Sunday School Year

2008-08-15T11:32:00.005-04:00

I can’t believe that it is time for a new Sunday school year to begin. The tasks are many to make this a good experience for all. Tara and Melanie have been working for weeks calling forth teachers for our children and making sure that we have volunteers in place so that these teachers can meet this week during the Sunday school hour to prepare for the weeks ahead. Our new graded curriculum has arrived. Rock Solid is the official resource for The United Methodist Church and published by Cokesbury. In addition, we need to make sure that our Safe Sanctuary Policy is being followed and that our classes are neat, clean, well-supplied and attractive. Finally, we have to extend a special invitation to all. Similar efforts are being made for youth and adult classes. We are blessed to have many folks willing to support our educational ministry. The challenge is to help others understand the importance of it not only for them, but also for the church. Research indicates Sunday schools continue to be an important cornerstone for healthy churches and I want to make sure that we remember this.

In addition, it is time for other Bible study and spiritual formation groups to form. We have some very good teachers who are willing to lead these groups so all we need are some persons willing to make a commitment to what can be a life changing experience. I continue to ponder how I can best help adults to know that this is a faithful use of time.

All of this is to say, I am feeling renewed and re-energized about the role of Christian education in the life of our church. I just need to follow the scope and sequence of what God needs be to be doing.